NFT: Diaper parties- tacky?

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but I fail to see the upside of attending a party where you have to provide a gift AND pay for all your own food and drink. I'd tell him to go screw.

and told them you misunderstood what it was.

Seriously why the fuck did you even accept this. Come down with an illness or something

and act like you misunderstood.

are inviting people to give them free diapers? At least they can cover some of the drinks and food...diapers aren't cheap.

In comment 11632335 Mike from Ohio said:

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and told them you misunderstood what it was.

Well, this is awkward...

That seems really really weird to me. A baby shower with onesies or toys, sure, but diapers? I think I'd be embarrassed to ask friends for that.

accept the invite, I haven't responded yet.

Obviously forgot to add that they are having a kid in 2 weeks.

What the hell happened to people paying for their own shit? Isn't the baby shower that they had a couple weeks ago enough?

I am having a $100 bill party.



All of BBI is invited. I will provide details once I have a venue secured.

you're here for the gang bang but that might not go over very well on account of the kiddies.

This model is brilliant!

BTW, a general observation - Pampers are a fucking ripoff. If you must buy a name brand, Luvs are just as good for less money, and generics from Target or your local supermarket are perfectly usable.

In comment 11632348 MookGiants said:

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accept the invite, I haven't responded yet. Obviously forgot to add that they are having a kid in 2 weeks. What the hell happened to people paying for their own shit? Isn't the baby shower that they had a couple weeks ago enough?

Mook...exactly.

Si.

(who is typically the expectant father) would provide the drinks and entertainment. It is supposed to be a "guys" baby shower where you drink and hang out. Never heard of it being at a bar where you have to pay your own way. Doesn't seem worth it.

I was invited to one, but it was my wife's cousin and I didn't really want to go so I didn't. Her other cousin had a jack and jill baby shower that I simply told my wife I wasn't going to.

isn't going to be there, it's just guys apparently although im sure she had a part in planning it.

Apparently we're supposed to go to the bar, watch NBA playoffs drink and eat, then go to the Casino afterwards. No transportation provided, no drinks provided, no food provided.

Yeah, not going. Thinking about it for more than a second makes it an easy decision.

Fuckin scam.

Curious if anyone else here has heard of such a thing?

In comment 11632353 Greg from LI said:

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This model is brilliant! BTW, a general observation - Pampers are a fucking ripoff. If you must buy a name brand, Luvs are just as good for less money, and generics from Target or your local supermarket are perfectly usable.

Greg...couldn't agree more. We used to get Pampers when the kiddo was tiny...but we sort of wised up and Luv is now our brand. Luv even have those funny commercials about how for your first kid, you buy the expensive diapers...but after you have your second, you realize that buying expensive diapers is just stupid.

Hey, you bought me a diaper pail three years ago? Well, now I want a new one so I'm having another baby shower for the new kid.

In comment 11632364 MookGiants said:

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isn't going to be there, it's just guys apparently although im sure she had a part in planning it. Apparently we're supposed to go to the bar, watch NBA playoffs drink and eat, then go to the Casino afterwards. No transportation provided, no drinks provided, no food provided. Yeah, not going. Thinking about it for more than a second makes it an easy decision. Fuckin scam. Curious if anyone else here has heard of such a thing?

The only diaper parties I've heard of involve internet sites that would get me banned from BBI if I linked them.

"now help us pay for it!"

Yeah, umm, fuck you.

I disagree. Pampers were the only brand that fit right on my daughter. We tried a bunch of the others (Luvs, Huggies, store brands) and they all sucked.

but I am assuming that it's for people that don't have a lot of money. If I was presented with this invitation and I knew the parents needed help, specifically family, I would probably just buy them a box of diapers and not go to some stupid party(unless I wanted to go drink at a bar).

Is a diaper party. This cant be for realz

It's what the hospital used, so we kept buying them for a while before we realized "Hey, Luvs are 5 bucks cheaper for the same sized pack!"

In comment 11632368 Greg from LI said:

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Hey, you bought me a diaper pail three years ago? Well, now I want a new one so I'm having another baby shower for the new kid.

Yeah, my wife and I have noticed that to. We have 3 kids and we saved "everything" we could till we had our third (and hopefully last) child. She is nearly 2 now and I can't wait to start getting rid of all of the baby stuff.

Your milage may vary, I guess. The only diapers we ever bought that I wouldn't buy again were the Dollar General store brand. They leaked like a sieve.

In one word, ridiculous.

It's a big reason why we tried to get unisex baby stuff as much as possible when my son was born, which paid off when our second child was a girl. Re-used the same crib, toys, a lot of the same clothes, bedding, car seats, the whole nine yards.

In comment 11632364 MookGiants said:

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isn't going to be there, it's just guys apparently although im sure she had a part in planning it. Apparently we're supposed to go to the bar, watch NBA playoffs drink and eat, then go to the Casino afterwards. No transportation provided, no drinks provided, no food provided. Yeah, not going. Thinking about it for more than a second makes it an easy decision. Fuckin scam. Curious if anyone else here has heard of such a thing?

Sounds like the guy is just trying to get a night out drinking under the pretense that it is for the baby.

Not the worst thing in the world for him to do but if you have no interest in hanging out with him I think it is fine to skip

In comment 11632373 kmed said:

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but I am assuming that it's for people that don't have a lot of money. If I was presented with this invitation and I knew the parents needed help, specifically family, I would probably just buy them a box of diapers and not go to some stupid party(unless I wanted to go drink at a bar).

They aren't rich but they are comfortable and both work and make decent enough money, especially for where we live. If they didn't have a pot to piss in I would do whatever I could for them, but thats not the case.

I asked another friend if he's going and he said he reluctantly is but that apparently they have a deal with the bar where everything is cheaper but we still have to pay. Still bullshit, pay for the open bar or dont have something like this at all.

It's all men and your step brother is hosting it? A fucking diaper party? He actually agreed to this? He needs to have a find my nutsack in my wife's pocketbook scavenger hunt party.

I was shocked myself but after googling it seems like quite a few do this.

He gets tons of free diapers and we drink and watch sports/go to casino.

I'd be fine with it if the cheap bastard was paying for the open bar. And it's at a bar of someone he knows so I'm sure he could have got a nice deal for an open bar for a couple hours

that hopefully you were prepared for the expenses of having a baby because diapers don't come close to topping the list. And you could always go cloth which we used for both girls. Our idea was to not fill landfills with tons of diapers, plus you save a lot of money.

It is a whole system which is easy to use.

In comment 11632407 B in ALB said:

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It's all men and your step brother is hosting it? A fucking diaper party? He actually agreed to this? He needs to have a find my nutsack in my wife's pocketbook scavenger hunt party.

You are looking at this backwards

He gets a guilt free night of boozing and gambling and all he has to do is collect some diapers from his buddies

and say that you're sorry to hear about their incontinence!

A friend of my wife's worked for one such organization in Florida, though I can't remember the name of it. They provided diapers and formula to low-income families. When my son would outgrow diapers before we ran out of a size, we used to donate them.

the scary part is that this generation (my generation) is now having kids and this "I'm gonna hold my hand out until someone fills it... because, why the fuck not, I deserve it!" mentality is only growing stronger.

Shit, I even think engagement parties are a scam, this is so much worse.

In comment 11632412 MookGiants said:

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I was shocked myself but after googling it seems like quite a few do this. He gets tons of free diapers and we drink and watch sports/go to casino. I'd be fine with it if the cheap bastard was paying for the open bar. And it's at a bar of someone he knows so I'm sure he could have got a nice deal for an open bar for a couple hours

That's the difference. It's not like a shower, which is a gift grab but there's free food and drink. This cat wants free shit and he wants you all to pay for it. Fuck him.

In comment 11632414 Blue Baller said:

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In comment 11632407 B in ALB said: Quote: It's all men and your step brother is hosting it? A fucking diaper party? He actually agreed to this? He needs to have a find my nutsack in my wife's pocketbook scavenger hunt party. You are looking at this backwards He gets a guilt free night of boozing and gambling and all he has to do is collect some diapers from his buddies

If his wife has a problem with him hanging out with friends to the point that he needs to have a diaper party to avoid guilt then maybe he married the wrong woman.

Then, yes, this is even more tacky than the initial concept of a diaper party. A shower is one thing. To invite people to buy diapers and pay for their own food and drink is just obnoxious to me.

is a pain in the ass but he can pretty much go out whenever he wants. Now when the kid comes it will be different but he's out pretty regularly

In comment 11632412 MookGiants said:

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I was shocked myself but after googling it seems like quite a few do this. He gets tons of free diapers and we drink and watch sports/go to casino. I'd be fine with it if the cheap bastard was paying for the open bar. And it's at a bar of someone he knows so I'm sure he could have got a nice deal for an open bar for a couple hours

Right. But if he's paying for booze and food and you guys are reciprocating with diapers why not just have everybody hang the Fuck out without the diapers and bullshit. It sounds like something a woman would come up with and a man with both balls in her purse would agree to. Just awful.

In comment 11632403 MookGiants said:

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In comment 11632373 kmed said: Quote: but I am assuming that it's for people that don't have a lot of money. If I was presented with this invitation and I knew the parents needed help, specifically family, I would probably just buy them a box of diapers and not go to some stupid party(unless I wanted to go drink at a bar). They aren't rich but they are comfortable and both work and make decent enough money, especially for where we live. If they didn't have a pot to piss in I would do whatever I could for them, but thats not the case. I asked another friend if he's going and he said he reluctantly is but that apparently they have a deal with the bar where everything is cheaper but we still have to pay. Still bullshit, pay for the open bar or dont have something like this at all.

Ok, then I'm not understanding the purpose of this. They have money to pay for things they need, yet they are having a party for things they need and not paying for said party? That's a large "hell no" on going to this one. Not only is it a hell no, I would make it clear to this fellow that he needs his man card taken away.

and one of my coworkers had to pick up a check from an account at night. The bar manager warned him that there would be a diaper party going on when he came to pick up the check.
My coworker paid no attention to the warning since he never heard of one before.
Ends up there were about 200 men (it was a gay club) only wearing diapers.

That's what popped in to my head when you said diaper party lol.

they are cheap as fuck, that's the purpose it seems like.

In comment 11632455 JayBinQueens said:

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and one of my coworkers had to pick up a check from an account at night. The bar manager warned him that there would be a diaper party going on when he came to pick up the check. My coworker paid no attention to the warning since he never heard of one before. Ends up there were about 200 men (it was a gay club) only wearing diapers. That's what popped in to my head when you said diaper party lol.

This is exactly what Cam was picturing when he opened this thread.

In comment 11632460 RC02XX said:

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In comment 11632455 JayBinQueens said: Quote: and one of my coworkers had to pick up a check from an account at night. The bar manager warned him that there would be a diaper party going on when he came to pick up the check. My coworker paid no attention to the warning since he never heard of one before. Ends up there were about 200 men (it was a gay club) only wearing diapers. That's what popped in to my head when you said diaper party lol. This is exactly what Cam was picturing when he opened this thread.

Sure is. That's the only diaper party that I've ever heard of. Although from what I understand it isn't limited to gay men. There's a diaper/adult baby kink that some folks are into. (totally not my thing, but fascinating nonetheless)

Baby showers were for women only. I know of Jack/Jill showers but I've informed my wife that I have no interest in ever attending a baby shower. I'm happy to help Dad finish the nursery or with anything else needed to get ready but I'm adamant about baby showers.

The notion that they are not in need makes this even more obnoxious. A shower is perfectly acceptable for any lot in life. It is sometimes for need and sometimes to help the couple with the convenience of not having to go out and get everything they need to get started. Either way, it is a common party and generally well received by friends and family. This particular party for this particular couple seems to be nothing more than selfish, self centered, and cheap.

I see this shit with friends and acquaintances - special little parties for their special little veal medallions. It's nauseating. People have been having children for thousands of years yet many feel the need to blow the whole fucking thing out of proportion. I don't care about your ugly kids on Facebook and I don't care about your e-vite that you just emailed me for free. Send me a proper invitation and I'll consider. Actually I'll find a way out of attending after all so don't bother.

Now this? Diaper party hosted by a man who won't pay for anything? Who does he think he is? Frankie Valle or some kinda big shot?

In comment 11632457 MookGiants said:

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they are cheap as fuck, that's the purpose it seems like.

Then anyone who goes to this sucktastic "party" is just enabling their cheapness. They shouldn't be enabled, they should be shamed into not being douches.

"Here's ya fackin diaper, numbnuts". Then take a shit on the floor and sprint away cackling.

That'll learn him to do something so stoopid.

for his leaky vag and ask him not to get any of his flow on the barstools. Horrific.

the entitlement of this dude. He needs a punch in the fucking nuts.

just awful....

but don't really have a problem with it, depending on the friend.

If it's a casual acquaintance I wouldn't be going no matter what - but would send a small bag of diapers with my decline RSVP. If it's a real friend I'd do whatever - just nice to have some time together because you know if he's starting a family (or adding to it) you really aren't going to get that kind of time together anymore.

You kind of learn as you age that your most valuable asset is your time, and that you want to spend it with your friends and family, not just with coworkers or trying to do things for yourself. So that's how you should approach this invitation, imo.

there were two baby showers for my wife - one by her mom which i was not expected to make an appearance at, so hung out with my dad and brother in law, and one surprise one through her work, where I was invited by her boss and was part of the surprise. we also had a "welcome party" after the baby was born thrown by my parents, because they are conservative Jews and tradition/superstition frowns on baby showers + we didn't have a tradiitonal baby naming ceremony (and my parents wanted "payback" for all the gifts given to their friends kids from all thebrises/baby naming parties)

i did not have a diaper party which i think is tacky and obnoxious. my close friends dropped by to visit shortly after my girl was born and they all brought little sleepers, onesies, etc. when i broke the news that my wife was expecting while we were out for dinner and drinks, they bought a few rounds of shots, which was not necessary, but contributed to a very fun night out.

It's a way to help out young parents with the additional cost.

HOWEVER, a few things wrong with this one:

1. It should not be organized by the parents, that does make it tacky.
2. It's a girl thing. Tell this dude to grow some balls.
3. It's usually at a house and the host will supply snacks & drinks. Having it out is too much burden on the guests.

Your friend has botched this whole thing.

provided a keg and tons of food.


we got shitfaced and had a great time and all i had to do was bring a pack of diapers.


worked out for everyone.

a shower for me as well, where i received plenty of diapers on top of clothes.

diaper parties belong in the same category as the dadchelor parties (one crazy trip/night out before baby arrives); a thinly veiled excuse to get Will Hilld with your friends .

a GUY is organizing this and the wives aren't coming?

are you sure the baby is his?

I had never heard of them either...the first time father to be is throwing it (at his wife's urging)...she has had two showers (work and family) and will soon have a third (friends)...he is supplying the beer and burgers, brats, etc...

I have no problem with it...it's a helluva lot better than being invited to a couple's shower...

I am bringing baby diapers, Depends and one of these -

identity issues.

Grow a fucking sack and be secure with your masculinity.

but it happens all the time. Diaper party, Pampered Chef or Tupperware party, etc. It seems like every other week my wife is off to separate me from my hard earned money to some dipshit friend of hers who came up with new and unique ways to 'make money'.

What pisses me off the most is it's basically a revenue generator for someone else in addition to them making a little bit of money. Going out to a bar and having a diaper party? Do the shit at home at least, buy plenty of cheap beer, and promise some sort of return to the attendees. Nope, restaurant/bar gets some good business, he gets a bunch of free diapers, and you get to spend your evening with some cheap fuck.

different if the dude is supplying booze and food. It's another thing to say, "Hey, let's all meet at the corner bar and you bring me free shit."

In comment 11632602 Chris in Philly said:

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different if the dude is supplying booze and food. It's another thing to say, "Hey, let's all meet at the corner bar and you bring me free shit."

^This.

Yep, we all know a friend or two annoyingly trying to rope others into their dumb pyramid schemes.

if a guy in my group of friends who is married with children invited the rest of us to a bar and to a casino afterward, but prefaced it by saying we had to bring diapers for his infant.

the words "merciless" and "humiliation" come to mind...

if it wasn't for his future kid?

If the answer is no (and it sounds like it is) then you definitely shouldn't go to this.

Cut your hair, hippie?

I am having a diaper party Memorial Day weekend. And dont feel bad about it whatsoever.

It is at my house, and Ill have baseball, football, and basketball on two floors.

I will be providing all the beer, rum, and vodka. We will be grilling hot dogs, burgers, and sausage. All food will be provided.

Rip into me!

need to be ripped into (for this). You're supplying everything. The cheap cunt in the OP is not. Huge difference.

in the water down in Scranton and Wilkes barre that you fucks have diaper parties

What time did you want us there? My invite must've been lost in the mail.

See you then.

That doesn't sound at all like what Mook is going to.

3 months ago. Wife had one baby shower and Idid not have a diaper party. Some one asked me if I was going to and I refused. Im not offended if someone else does it. I won't go but I don't care if others do or not.

In comment 11632368 Greg from LI said:

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Hey, you bought me a diaper pail three years ago? Well, now I want a new one so I'm having another baby shower for the new kid.

Some people try to get away with this by calling it a "Baby Sprinkle." WTF? At least call it what it is...a damn baby shower for your second/third kid.

In comment 11632639 dep026 said:

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I am having a diaper party Memorial Day weekend. And dont feel bad about it whatsoever. It is at my house, and Ill have baseball, football, and basketball on two floors. I will be providing all the beer, rum, and vodka. We will be grilling hot dogs, burgers, and sausage. All food will be provided. Rip into me!

I think you're safe, man. You're providing everything for the guests...that's the key difference with Mook's situation.

But when your wife has her own party, make sure she doesn't forget Brett's invitation since it'll be a party for those with vaginas.

on not having kids comes in handy - I never get invited to any of this stuff and don't mind it one bit. Bottom line, Dep's doing it right, and Mook's friend is being a douche canoe.

Might be some poker/pitch playing as well.

Its basically a house party to watch sports and all people bring is some diapers for my eventual new born!

He just usually catches.

In comment 11632708 Davisian said:

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He just usually catches.

I was going to argue that you were wrong until I saw that you typed "pitch" and not "bitch," which we all know he is.

diapers. You know like a toga party.

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They got reusable cloth diapers and covers, so desisted from packing our landfills with more loaded, non-bio-degradable baby diapers.

They listed the reusable cloth diapers and covers on their registry for the Baby Shower. I liked the eco-friendly idea so much, I was happy to buy a bunch of the reusables for them in various sizes.

I don't think SIL had a second shower at work...she had a Jack & Jill, a few gifts were brought in person, most were delivered directly to their home, via the registry.

The other cool thing was that they were very down to earth about gifts. One friend who had already had a baby sent a bunch of her baby supplies, hand-me-downs, clean, folded and crisp. I'm sure they had sentimental value for SIL to use the same supplies that her good friend used for her own children.

Finally, my SIL reports that the reusable diapers and covers are much less prone to leak. The diapers and covers are attractive, too. The covers are in lovely colors, and look like clothing. They are a vastly superior product to the disposables both functionally, aesthetically, economically and environmentally. Disposables cost a ton, too!

We used cloth diapers for both of our children. Another big benefit is that they are much more comfortable for the babies especially so since they really reduce the chance of diaper rash.

Saves a lot of money as well!