One of my friends married my step sister and he is having a "diaper party" on Saturday and invited me. I've never even heard of this but after googling seems like some people have them. I think it's pretty tacky to do, buy your own frickin diapers. It's at a bar but its not open bar or anything, so I'm bringing a pack of diapers and then paying for everything I eat/drink too. I havent decided if I'm going yet but he keeps asking if I am.
What do you guys think?
Now this? Diaper party hosted by a man who won't pay for anything? Who does he think he is? Frankie Valle or some kinda big shot?
Then anyone who goes to this sucktastic "party" is just enabling their cheapness. They shouldn't be enabled, they should be shamed into not being douches.
That'll learn him to do something so stoopid.
If it's a casual acquaintance I wouldn't be going no matter what - but would send a small bag of diapers with my decline RSVP. If it's a real friend I'd do whatever - just nice to have some time together because you know if he's starting a family (or adding to it) you really aren't going to get that kind of time together anymore.
You kind of learn as you age that your most valuable asset is your time, and that you want to spend it with your friends and family, not just with coworkers or trying to do things for yourself. So that's how you should approach this invitation, imo.
i did not have a diaper party which i think is tacky and obnoxious. my close friends dropped by to visit shortly after my girl was born and they all brought little sleepers, onesies, etc. when i broke the news that my wife was expecting while we were out for dinner and drinks, they bought a few rounds of shots, which was not necessary, but contributed to a very fun night out.
HOWEVER, a few things wrong with this one:
1. It should not be organized by the parents, that does make it tacky.
2. It's a girl thing. Tell this dude to grow some balls.
3. It's usually at a house and the host will supply snacks & drinks. Having it out is too much burden on the guests.
Your friend has botched this whole thing.
we got shitfaced and had a great time and all i had to do was bring a pack of diapers.
worked out for everyone.
diaper parties belong in the same category as the dadchelor parties (one crazy trip/night out before baby arrives); a thinly veiled excuse to get Will Hilld with your friends .
are you sure the baby is his?
I have no problem with it...it's a helluva lot better than being invited to a couple's shower...
I am bringing baby diapers, Depends and one of these -
Grow a fucking sack and be secure with your masculinity.
What pisses me off the most is it's basically a revenue generator for someone else in addition to them making a little bit of money. Going out to a bar and having a diaper party? Do the shit at home at least, buy plenty of cheap beer, and promise some sort of return to the attendees. Nope, restaurant/bar gets some good business, he gets a bunch of free diapers, and you get to spend your evening with some cheap fuck.
^This.
the words "merciless" and "humiliation" come to mind...
If the answer is no (and it sounds like it is) then you definitely shouldn't go to this.
It is at my house, and Ill have baseball, football, and basketball on two floors.
I will be providing all the beer, rum, and vodka. We will be grilling hot dogs, burgers, and sausage. All food will be provided.
Rip into me!
Some people try to get away with this by calling it a "Baby Sprinkle." WTF? At least call it what it is...a damn baby shower for your second/third kid.
It is at my house, and Ill have baseball, football, and basketball on two floors.
I will be providing all the beer, rum, and vodka. We will be grilling hot dogs, burgers, and sausage. All food will be provided.
Rip into me!
I think you're safe, man. You're providing everything for the guests...that's the key difference with Mook's situation.
But when your wife has her own party, make sure she doesn't forget Brett's invitation since it'll be a party for those with vaginas.
Its basically a house party to watch sports and all people bring is some diapers for my eventual new born!
I was going to argue that you were wrong until I saw that you typed "pitch" and not "bitch," which we all know he is.
They listed the reusable cloth diapers and covers on their registry for the Baby Shower. I liked the eco-friendly idea so much, I was happy to buy a bunch of the reusables for them in various sizes.
I don't think SIL had a second shower at work...she had a Jack & Jill, a few gifts were brought in person, most were delivered directly to their home, via the registry.
The other cool thing was that they were very down to earth about gifts. One friend who had already had a baby sent a bunch of her baby supplies, hand-me-downs, clean, folded and crisp. I'm sure they had sentimental value for SIL to use the same supplies that her good friend used for her own children.
Finally, my SIL reports that the reusable diapers and covers are much less prone to leak. The diapers and covers are attractive, too. The covers are in lovely colors, and look like clothing. They are a vastly superior product to the disposables both functionally, aesthetically, economically and environmentally. Disposables cost a ton, too!
Saves a lot of money as well!