I cannot fathom the pain you must have felt in losing a child. I do not know how you recover from something like that unless you are a truly strong person. My prayers go out to you and your family.
Today has been especially hard for me. Looking for someone who went through this to help me through it, the support group we found doesn't start until next week.
I am *in* this club, which we sometimes refer to as "the shittiest club in the universe." In 1993, we lost a six-month-old daughter to an undiagnosed heart tumor. They called it SIDS until they did the autopsy. We worked with the SIDS group in our area for several years, until . . . well, we just got worn out. One of the really hard things about SIDS is the uncertainty for these families; we at least knew what killed our daughter.
But a "day" for this? Really? There's never a day when I don't say my daughter's name in prayers. Both of our other daughters (one of whom was born after the one we lost) know the story, and we have a corner of our house with her picture(s) and some other things from her short life. But this just kind of rubs me the wrong way . . . and I'm not even sure why.
So God bless to all the other folks in this particular shitty club . . . but I'll pass on the "day."
Rodney/Corey: if you'd like to e-mail, just leave a message here, and we'll work something out. Been there; done that; got the t-shirt. It sucks, it sucks more than anything, but it DOES get better.
wife being a few months pregnant now and our worst fear is a miscarriage
sorry to hear, stay strong!
My wife suffered through what was diagnosed as a Threatened Miscarriage at about the 12 week mark. It wasn't until well past the 20 week mark that her OB told us that the pregnancy was no longer threatened. It was the longest 10+ weeks in our lives, and as we approach our final few weeks, we are still a bit guarded (especially since we almost lost our first child as well during birth). Good luck to you and your wife, CruzShip.
Best wishes to you and your wife, that must have been a long 10 weeks. My wife has a small hemorrhage near the baby and it can lead to a miscarry but the doc said just to rest and she should be OK at the 12 week mark, so just a few more weeks and we will be there!
I saw and heard the little baby heartbeat for the first time a few weeks ago, one of the coolest things I have ever seen in my life
but sharing your excitement about your impending arrival, or even a scare that was just that, is probably misplaced on this thread... These guys didn't have a scare, they had the worst case scenario.
Sorry for your losses, gentlemen. A very sad thread.
Yeah, I don't really know that this needs a "day." Technically, we never lost an infant, but a 6-month stillbirth is close enough that it hits home. (And an overall 5-to-1 ratio of pregnancies to living children doesn't help either.) Anybody going through it or something like it has every bit of my sympathy. It totally sucks.
So I'm gonna go pick the rugrat we got up from daycare a little early, give him a big hug, and not mention this to the wife.
But a "day" for this? Really? There's never a day when I don't say my daughter's name in prayers. Both of our other daughters (one of whom was born after the one we lost) know the story, and we have a corner of our house with her picture(s) and some other things from her short life. But this just kind of rubs me the wrong way . . . and I'm not even sure why.
So God bless to all the other folks in this particular shitty club . . . but I'll pass on the "day."
Rodney/Corey: if you'd like to e-mail, just leave a message here, and we'll work something out. Been there; done that; got the t-shirt. It sucks, it sucks more than anything, but it DOES get better.
sorry to hear, stay strong!
sorry to hear, stay strong!
My wife suffered through what was diagnosed as a Threatened Miscarriage at about the 12 week mark. It wasn't until well past the 20 week mark that her OB told us that the pregnancy was no longer threatened. It was the longest 10+ weeks in our lives, and as we approach our final few weeks, we are still a bit guarded (especially since we almost lost our first child as well during birth). Good luck to you and your wife, CruzShip.
I saw and heard the little baby heartbeat for the first time a few weeks ago, one of the coolest things I have ever seen in my life
Sorry for your losses, gentlemen. A very sad thread.
Not going to even pretend to understand the pain involved
I think posting this thread may be cathartic for you and others who have experienced the same tragedy.
G-d bless you, your wife, and the infant forever
God Bless you all.
So I'm gonna go pick the rugrat we got up from daycare a little early, give him a big hug, and not mention this to the wife.
Just a worst nightmare come to life.
Heart goes out to you, dude. Best wishes for you and your wife and family.