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NFT: NGT - Buddy just found out his wife's cheating

ank00 : 12/22/2014 11:18 am
So, I just found out (thru another friend) that one of buddy's found out a few weeks ago that his wife has been cheating on him. They've been married for a year and a half and this bloak has been f'ing her boss for a year. I had trouble sleeping last night thinking about this as to how someone can do that and trying to tell myself not to judge her but wtf!!! this morning my friend texted me and asked if he can call me tonight to share some news. He is one of the best dudes you'll ever meet and I am just not sure what to say to him when he tells me the news.

From what I hear, he even tried to "work it out" with his wife after he found out that she was cheating on him. She told him the other day that she might be pregnant with the other guys' baby and won't be upset if that was the case. Once my friend heard that, he told to GTFO out of the house and that was the end of the marriage. They don't have any kids but i really feel bad for my buddy. Any advice on what i can say? I am thinking i need to be listening more than talking but i am just amazed it how he got played.
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RE: She is 29ish  
Matt M. : 12/22/2014 11:51 am : link
In comment 12048934 ank00 said:
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and he is 33. I really think she was after his $$. After he told her to GTFO, she goes "I need financial help"...what a tramp.

Her reason for cheating was "I needed a bad boy"...while her boss is married with kids. Good luck being a home wrecker...and yes, she does have a tramp stamp on her back.
Well, she just screwed herself on both fronts. One, a good lawyer should be able to limit what she would get in a divorce with what seems like little in the way of shared assets and a short lived relationship. Two, she may have wanted a "bad boy", but if he has a wife and kids, she isn't likely to receive very much from him. The only way she gets anything remotely close to what she is looking for is if a paternity test proves her baby is your friend's. Who knows if she is even really pregnant at this point.
No kids  
arnief : 12/22/2014 11:51 am : link
no big deal, move on and never allow any contact under any circumstances, Chances are she will be back next time she needs a sucker. Don't allow yourself to go back no matter what.
Hate to say it ....  
njm : 12/22/2014 11:53 am : link
but the pregnancy may turn this into a real pissing contest in court. As far as what you can do, initially just listen and take it from there. As the process unfolds get him out of his house on occasion, football game or something similar.
I've been on different sides of this situation  
dvb : 12/22/2014 11:53 am : link
Years ago I had a good friend's wife hit on me multiple times. I won't go into detail (it did involve her following me into a bathroom at a party and partially undressing), it was a difficult situation. My friend caught us alone together one time while i was in the process of telling the slut she should get her shit together and stop messing around. I tried to protect my friend and not tell him what was going on. I told the slut she would regret it if she mucked up her marriage. My friend was a really good guy, good husband, good father to their young daughter, etc.

Long story short, they ended up divorced and the slut told me she regretted it just as I had warned her.

ank00, this will be a tough time for your friend, but it's good that he gets this worthless POS slut out of his life sooner than later. He's lucky he doesn't have kids with the bitch.
help your buddy by  
andrew_nyg : 12/22/2014 11:54 am : link
taking her out, slipping her a mickey...take off all of her clothes, tie her up and tatoo "This bitch has been fucking your husband for a year" on her face...and leave her at the dudes doorstep for Christmas.

You will be his BEST friend for Life!
A bad boy?  
CruzShip52 : 12/22/2014 11:55 am : link
what the fuck. What did this 'bad boy' boss do for a living?
Just have him say he faked  
pjcas18 : 12/22/2014 11:55 am : link
all his orgasms. That will prove the baby isn't his and make her feel like less of a woman.

Double bonus.

She saw he was weak and she used him  
buford : 12/22/2014 11:56 am : link
Drop her like a hot potato and get some self respect or he will wind up making the same mistake the next time he gets involved.
RE: RE: hahaha. she needed a bad boy? what?  
buford : 12/22/2014 11:57 am : link
In comment 12048971 Cam in MO said:
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His friend put the pussy on a pedestal and treated her like some fucking Disney princess.

You do that with your daughters, not your wife.

Wimmin need to be told what to do.



And if they don't do it, then you bring out the whips!
RE: My gf and I were living together  
RC02XX : 12/22/2014 11:57 am : link
In comment 12049005 Vin R said:
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then she started staying late at her crossfit gym to work on some workouts.. Long story short she was going on dates with the 40+ yr old owner while I was home making dinner. They're still together, good for them lol


It's called a box, not a gym.

All kidding aside...you're better off, man. Those crossfitters are fucking weird.
RE: Translation  
Chef : 12/22/2014 11:59 am : link
In comment 12049000 JonC said:
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she's telling him he's a pushover, doormat, pick your adjective. The "bad boy" is the opposite, and it triggers the woman to pursue the new "challenge".

He's learning the hard way, but better now than when children, debt, other people crashing the party pile up.

Given her apparent swift dive into cheating, and her request upon being kicked out, financial gain was most likely a key component to saying yes to marriage on her part.

This is dead nuts on target
RE: Hate to say it ....  
buford : 12/22/2014 11:59 am : link
In comment 12049022 njm said:
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but the pregnancy may turn this into a real pissing contest in court. As far as what you can do, initially just listen and take it from there. As the process unfolds get him out of his house on occasion, football game or something similar.


I didn't think of that. Legally if she has a kid, it's yours and you are liable. Best get a lawyer real quick and get that straightened out.
RE: RE: hahaha. she needed a bad boy? what?  
Ten Ton Hammer : 12/22/2014 11:59 am : link
In comment 12048971 Cam in MO said:
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His friend put the pussy on a pedestal and treated her like some fucking Disney princess.

You do that with your daughters, not your wife.

Wimmin need to be told what to do.



I won't be happy in life until you get a daytime talk show.
RE: RE: My gf and I were living together  
Vin R : 12/22/2014 12:01 pm : link
In comment 12049048 RC02XX said:
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then she started staying late at her crossfit gym to work on some workouts.. Long story short she was going on dates with the 40+ yr old owner while I was home making dinner. They're still together, good for them lol



It's called a box, not a gym.

All kidding aside...you're better off, man. Those crossfitters are fucking weird.


Haha very weird.. I couldn't agree more, I've been a lot happier.

And ank, get your friend out of the house, doing anything to take his mind off of it will do wonders
RE: My gf and I were living together  
Cam in MO : 12/22/2014 12:02 pm : link
In comment 12049005 Vin R said:
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then she started staying late at her crossfit gym to work on some workouts.. Long story short she was going on dates with the 40+ yr old owner while I was home making dinner. They're still together, good for them lol


Sorry, dude. Didn't know that was you.


the other side of the situation  
dvb : 12/22/2014 12:02 pm : link
my ex wife got friendly with another dude (though she swore they never did anything until after we split). She ended up marrying the other guy and I was recently told that she's now divorced from him (I wouldn't be surprised if he gave her a little of her own medicine and cheated on her). Meanwhile, I've found the love of my life (my second and final wife) with whom I get along infinitely better (less arguments in almost 15 years than I used to have in 15 days with the ex).

Tell your friend, the cheaters usually always regret it and he'll end up much happier in the long run (assuming he's a little more selective the next time re. trustworthiness, values, etc.).

RE: RE: RE: My gf and I were living together  
RC02XX : 12/22/2014 12:03 pm : link
In comment 12049066 Vin R said:
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Haha very weird.. I couldn't agree more, I've been a lot happier.

And ank, get your friend out of the house, doing anything to take his mind off of it will do wonders


Yes, definitely get him out of the house and doing something that will keep his mind off, like joining a Crossfit box. I'm sure he'll meet some fit weirdos there.
RE: RE: My gf and I were living together  
RC02XX : 12/22/2014 12:04 pm : link
In comment 12049071 Cam in MO said:
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Sorry, dude. Didn't know that was you.


Dude...don't make Gianni cry by saying you're into Crossfit. It's P90X5000 and Insanity for you...always.
RE: RE: RE: hahaha. she needed a bad boy? what?  
Cam in MO : 12/22/2014 12:04 pm : link
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His friend put the pussy on a pedestal and treated her like some fucking Disney princess.

You do that with your daughters, not your wife.

Wimmin need to be told what to do.





And if they don't do it, then you bring out the whips!


Heh. The last line of misogyny was for humor.

Branding, chick. It's all about branding.


RE: RE: RE: RE: My gf and I were living together  
Vin R : 12/22/2014 12:05 pm : link
In comment 12049077 RC02XX said:
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Haha very weird.. I couldn't agree more, I've been a lot happier.

And ank, get your friend out of the house, doing anything to take his mind off of it will do wonders



Yes, definitely get him out of the house and doing something that will keep his mind off, like joining a Crossfit box. I'm sure he'll meet some fit weirdos there.


Funny, I actually went on a date with a girl who crossfits and no matter how hard I tried I couldn't get her to stfu about crossfit. I ended up just getting drunk
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Cam in MO : 12/22/2014 12:06 pm : link
In comment 12049054 Ten Ton Hammer said:
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His friend put the pussy on a pedestal and treated her like some fucking Disney princess.

You do that with your daughters, not your wife.

Wimmin need to be told what to do.





I won't be happy in life until you get a daytime talk show.


That would be awesome.

Funny thing is that I basically said the same thing that JonC said...just Poe'd it.


RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: My gf and I were living together  
RC02XX : 12/22/2014 12:09 pm : link
In comment 12049091 Vin R said:
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Funny, I actually went on a date with a girl who crossfits and no matter how hard I tried I couldn't get her to stfu about crossfit. I ended up just getting drunk


Yeah...there's a joke about how Crossfit is the anti-Fight Club.

First rule of Crossfit is: You always talk about Crossfit.
Second rule of Crossfit is: You always talk about Crossfit.
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buford : 12/22/2014 12:12 pm : link
In comment 12049089 Cam in MO said:
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His friend put the pussy on a pedestal and treated her like some fucking Disney princess.

You do that with your daughters, not your wife.

Wimmin need to be told what to do.





And if they don't do it, then you bring out the whips!



Heh. The last line of misogyny was for humor.

Branding, chick. It's all about branding.



I know Cam, I was just teasing you.
RE: RE: Hate to say it ....  
Matt M. : 12/22/2014 12:17 pm : link
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but the pregnancy may turn this into a real pissing contest in court. As far as what you can do, initially just listen and take it from there. As the process unfolds get him out of his house on occasion, football game or something similar.



I didn't think of that. Legally if she has a kid, it's yours and you are liable. Best get a lawyer real quick and get that straightened out.
Is that true? Even if the child is not his? Does that mean he should try for as speedy a divorce as possible?
Its good to see  
weeg in the bronx : 12/22/2014 12:18 pm : link
that all the BBI men are committed, monogomous husbands and BFs.
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rsjem1979 : 12/22/2014 12:18 pm : link
In comment 12049091 Vin R said:
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Funny, I actually went on a date with a girl who crossfits and no matter how hard I tried I couldn't get her to stfu about crossfit. I ended up just getting drunk


"How do you know if someone is into Crossfit?"

"Don't worry, they'll tell you."
RE: Its good to see  
montanagiant : 12/22/2014 12:20 pm : link
In comment 12049153 weeg in the bronx said:
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that all the BBI men are committed, monogomous husbands and BFs.

I honestly don't think there are too many who fucked around in their first 6 months of a committed relationship
RE: tell your buddy he will end up very grateful  
Mark from Jersey : 12/22/2014 12:20 pm : link
In comment 12048932 mfsd said:
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that he found out about this now, and not 10 years and 2-3 kids from now
. This
Give her a gentle caress on the cheek  
Lowell.. : 12/22/2014 12:21 pm : link



- Ray Rice
RE: Its good to see  
Cam in MO : 12/22/2014 12:23 pm : link
In comment 12049153 weeg in the bronx said:
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that all the BBI men are committed, monogomous husbands and BFs.


Well, duh.

1- Any wimmin that cheats is automatically an evil whore except your mother.

2- Any wimmin that likes to fuck is a whore until you marry her.

3- Any wimmin that has had more than 3 sexual partners (including oral and handies) is a whore.

4- Pretty much any wimmin except your wife (until she proves otherwise), daughter, and mother is a whore.

5- Guys only cheat because whores let them. There is no free will when the evil temptresses start throwing their moist bits at you.


RE: Its good to see  
RC02XX : 12/22/2014 12:25 pm : link
In comment 12049153 weeg in the bronx said:
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that all the BBI men are committed, monogomous husbands and BFs.


Yeah...who would have guessed that vast majority of us are in committed relationships? I'm sure you feel left out.
RE: RE: RE: My gf and I were living together  
Kevin in CT : 12/22/2014 12:44 pm : link
In comment 12049066 Vin R said:
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then she started staying late at her crossfit gym to work on some workouts.. Long story short she was going on dates with the 40+ yr old owner while I was home making dinner. They're still together, good for them lol



It's called a box, not a gym.

All kidding aside...you're better off, man. Those crossfitters are fucking weird.



Haha very weird.. I couldn't agree more, I've been a lot happier.

Vin, sorry to hear about that. I knew your ex from awhile back, not surprised.

And ank, get your friend out of the house, doing anything to take his mind off of it will do wonders
______  
Kevin in CT : 12/22/2014 12:46 pm : link
Vin, sorry to hear about that. I knew her from awhile back, that is if we are talking about the same girl! Haha
RE: ______  
Vin R : 12/22/2014 12:50 pm : link
In comment 12049277 Kevin in CT said:
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Vin, sorry to hear about that. I knew her from awhile back, that is if we are talking about the same girl! Haha


Yeah we are! haha.. It was rough at first but after I was able to look back I knew I was better off
My gf cheated on my with a close friend.  
Andy in Halifax : 12/22/2014 12:51 pm : link
It sucked at first, but after they got married I figured it was best for her and I should be happy for them. Now, she wants to leave him cause he's a terrible husband.

Karma's a bitch. Actually, her name wasn't karma at all.

As for your friend - he really is better off knowing and moving on. Life is too short to waste on a galactic bitch like that. He'll be broken hearted for a while but he should feel free to drain his sorrows in between the legs of a sexy lady until he finds a woman that will treat him right.
Vin,  
Kevin in CT : 12/22/2014 12:54 pm : link
You are much better off then. I have a good story for you then, I'll hit you up in facebook.
I'd like to hear Kenny Powers's opinion on Crossfit  
Go Terps : 12/22/2014 12:55 pm : link

Kenny plays real sports. - ( New Window )
RE: Vin,  
Vin R : 12/22/2014 12:59 pm : link
In comment 12049298 Kevin in CT said:
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You are much better off then. I have a good story for you then, I'll hit you up in facebook.


haha can't wait!
I think the best advice you can give him is....  
JCin332 : 12/22/2014 1:07 pm : link
Blast her in the butt one last time for posterity and send her on her way..
Does she have a sister or best friend?  
ronzo : 12/22/2014 1:44 pm : link
If so, I am planning a visit.
I have to admit I'm a little  
pjcas18 : 12/22/2014 2:22 pm : link
surprised that Buddy has/had a wife.

NTTAWT, but I expected he leaned the other way.

Is her name Sarah  
Psycho : 12/22/2014 2:39 pm : link
by any chance?
Also.. not to sound like a douche but  
Vin R : 12/22/2014 2:59 pm : link
seeing (not dating) multiple women helps!

:)
RE: can't turn a ho into a housewife  
BMac : 12/22/2014 5:43 pm : link
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Ho Ho Ho, Merry XMas!
RE: RE: RE: Hate to say it ....  
BMac : 12/22/2014 5:44 pm : link
In comment 12049151 Matt M. said:
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but the pregnancy may turn this into a real pissing contest in court. As far as what you can do, initially just listen and take it from there. As the process unfolds get him out of his house on occasion, football game or something similar.



I didn't think of that. Legally if she has a kid, it's yours and you are liable. Best get a lawyer real quick and get that straightened out.

Is that true? Even if the child is not his? Does that mean he should try for as speedy a divorce as possible?


Absolute horseshit. The medical profession has advanced quite enough to determine parentage.
Very  
BigBlueinDE : 12/22/2014 7:14 pm : link
sorry to read and wish the best for you and your friend going forward.
Some yrs back  
natefit : 12/22/2014 7:32 pm : link
I was training a husband and wife (separately). After a cpl months the wife tells me she wants to look good in her lingerie because shes having an affair and meanwhile Im continuing to train her husband (as well as her) Now that was f---g awkward. In the end he suspected broke into her emails and they divorced.
Tell him to take the high road...  
Sarcastic Sam : 12/22/2014 7:38 pm : link
As in, go to her boss, threaten to expose him to HR and his family, collect $$, buy mail order bride from Russia. They're faithful and true.
RE: Some yrs back  
Joey from GlenCove : 12/22/2014 7:45 pm : link
In comment 12050142 natefit said:
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I was training a husband and wife (separately). After a cpl months the wife tells me she wants to look good in her lingerie because shes having an affair and meanwhile Im continuing to train her husband (as well as her) Now that was f---g awkward. In the end he suspected broke into her emails and they divorced.


Cross fit?
just move on  
mdc1 : 12/22/2014 7:45 pm : link
what you actually find is that an individual that would do something like that to another individual really does not care for them in general, at least not very much. Sometimes life does you a favor, take advantage of it.
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