for display only
Big Blue Interactive The Corner Forum  
Back to the Corner

Archived Thread

NFT: NGT - Buddy just found out his wife's cheating

ank00 : 12/22/2014 11:18 am
So, I just found out (thru another friend) that one of buddy's found out a few weeks ago that his wife has been cheating on him. They've been married for a year and a half and this bloak has been f'ing her boss for a year. I had trouble sleeping last night thinking about this as to how someone can do that and trying to tell myself not to judge her but wtf!!! this morning my friend texted me and asked if he can call me tonight to share some news. He is one of the best dudes you'll ever meet and I am just not sure what to say to him when he tells me the news.

From what I hear, he even tried to "work it out" with his wife after he found out that she was cheating on him. She told him the other day that she might be pregnant with the other guys' baby and won't be upset if that was the case. Once my friend heard that, he told to GTFO out of the house and that was the end of the marriage. They don't have any kids but i really feel bad for my buddy. Any advice on what i can say? I am thinking i need to be listening more than talking but i am just amazed it how he got played.
Pages: 1 2 | Show All |  Next>>
sorry to hear that dude  
YAJ2112 : 12/22/2014 11:21 am : link
good luck with your impending divorce, make sure she pays out the ass!
not much to say  
Moondwg : 12/22/2014 11:21 am : link
just listen and try to help him remember that it will get better.
Im sorry your wife is cheating on you  
superspynyg : 12/22/2014 11:21 am : link
but hey there are plenty of fish in the sea.
He should have told her to get the fuck out when he  
Cam in MO : 12/22/2014 11:21 am : link
found out.

"work it out" my ass. Married less than a year?

Tell him he damn well better have learned something.



RE: He should have told her to get the fuck out when he  
Moondwg : 12/22/2014 11:22 am : link
In comment 12048895 Cam in MO said:
Quote:
found out.

"work it out" my ass. Married less than a year?

Tell him he damn well better have learned something.




Agreed. If kids were involved, I could see trying to work it out. But this is just a desperate move that sets him up to be consistently betrayed. He's lucky it's ending now.
RE: Im sorry your wife is cheating on you  
Danny Kanell : 12/22/2014 11:23 am : link
In comment 12048894 superspynyg said:
Quote:
but hey there are plenty of fish in the sea.


lmao
fuck you Danny  
YAJ2112 : 12/22/2014 11:24 am : link
I was first
how old?  
CruzShip52 : 12/22/2014 11:24 am : link
are they?

seem like young whore
Ah rats  
tribs : 12/22/2014 11:25 am : link
I thought this was going to be about Buddy Ryan, and then we could all laugh and laugh and laugh.
atleast he ended it after  
Osi Osi Osi OyOyOy : 12/22/2014 11:25 am : link
that absurd comment she made about not caring whose baby it was. If he was my friend and he stayed with her after that comment, I would've gone over there and kicked his ass.

She sounds like a real winner.
..  
GP : 12/22/2014 11:28 am : link
I went through a similar thing with my buddy. It got really, really bad at a few points. Just be there for him. Go to the bar with him, as awkward as it is, and just listen or distract him or whatever he needs. Try not to say anything too volatile at first, graduate up to that if it calls for it. Soon enough he'll realize what a blessing it is that it happened at this point in his marriage.

My buddy dodged a huge bullet as his ex-wife is possibly facing criminal charges for something extremely heinous. It'll take some time, but you really need to step up to help your buddy out with whatever for a while. At least that's what worked in my scenario.
tell your buddy he will end up very grateful  
mfsd : 12/22/2014 11:29 am : link
that he found out about this now, and not 10 years and 2-3 kids from now
She is 29ish  
ank00 : 12/22/2014 11:29 am : link
and he is 33. I really think she was after his $$. After he told her to GTFO, she goes "I need financial help"...what a tramp.

Her reason for cheating was "I needed a bad boy"...while her boss is married with kids. Good luck being a home wrecker...and yes, she does have a tramp stamp on her back.
yeah  
Les in TO : 12/22/2014 11:29 am : link
i think you just gotta be supportive of him and tell him that cheating is never excusable, never acceptable and that he will get another chance at love and finding someone with good character and heart is the most important thing.
,  
Danny Kanell : 12/22/2014 11:30 am : link
Pics or GTFO
That sucks. The faster your friend cuts ties with her, the better.  
RC02XX : 12/22/2014 11:30 am : link
If he's young (I'm assuming that he is since it's his first marriage and no kids), tell him that his post-marriage life will be a time for him to enjoy himself until he meets someone far better than his cheating bitch of a wife.

Best of luck to your friend.
can't turn a ho into a housewife  
Osi Osi Osi OyOyOy : 12/22/2014 11:32 am : link
.
Hopefully at 33, your buddy has enough sense to know that  
RC02XX : 12/22/2014 11:36 am : link
nothing good will come out of trying to remain in contact with her. The further he gets from her, the better. And the less he has tied to her, the better. So I hope he doesn't help her ass out financially and just drop her ass completely.
RE: yeah  
Cam in MO : 12/22/2014 11:36 am : link
In comment 12048935 Les in TO said:
Quote:
i think you just gotta be supportive of him and tell him that cheating is never excusable, never acceptable and that he will get another chance at love and finding someone with good character and heart is the most important thing.


Good body and good looks, too. Just as important. Don't sell yourself short.


hahaha. she needed a bad boy? what?  
Curtis in VA : 12/22/2014 11:40 am : link
.
RE: hahaha. she needed a bad boy? what?  
Cam in MO : 12/22/2014 11:42 am : link
In comment 12048965 Curtis in VA said:
Quote:
.


His friend put the pussy on a pedestal and treated her like some fucking Disney princess.

You do that with your daughters, not your wife.

Wimmin need to be told what to do.


Be there for him  
Mr. Nickels : 12/22/2014 11:42 am : link
but he needs to file for divorce.
"...won't be upset if she is,..."  
old man : 12/22/2014 11:42 am : link
She is scum.
That comment was worse than if he caught her doing belly bumps with the guy in their marital bed.
Just keep befriending him, and let him know that once she would not reconcile and try to save the marriage, she just wanted out, whatever the cost.
There are a bizillion women that have been screwed over by their husband/boyfriend that would want a what seems to be a stable guy like him.
..  
stevejar11 : 12/22/2014 11:43 am : link
He's going to have A LOT of thoughts going through his head especially if he is as nice a guy as you say he is. Listen and support his thoughts, try not to be too much on the she is a terrible person side or I never liked her anyway bandwagon unless he is leading the conversation that way. Even though that might be the truth right now he might not want to be piling on at the moment. If it is that fresh he might just want to get his thoughts out without even wanting advice.

Good luck to your friend. At some point he will realize that he is getting a pretty free(no kids, hopefully not to much debt) restart of life and anything that he wasn't happy with we gets another chance to do it all again. Until then its going to be quite the roller coaster for him.
He has no kids and only 18 months into the marriage  
montanagiant : 12/22/2014 11:43 am : link
What is he trying to work out here? Did he honestly think that she would stop after she has been doing it with only a short time in marriage? Marriage is work, its an effort from both people to make something together. It takes constant adjustments with highs and lows. But it also is wonderful if you have the right other person. After only 18 months married she's riding someone else and they have no kids?

You kick a dirty skank like that to the curb, wash your hands of it, and move the hell on.
I would tell him to be certain the baby isn't his  
steve in ky : 12/22/2014 11:44 am : link
before he does too much else.
No kids ?  
mattlawson : 12/22/2014 11:46 am : link
She's history. Immediately. Easier said than done though when you love someone
It's not his fault she's a whore  
rsjem1979 : 12/22/2014 11:47 am : link
His life is only going to get better from here on out, especially if that kid really isn't his.

Translation  
JonC : 12/22/2014 11:48 am : link
she's telling him he's a pushover, doormat, pick your adjective. The "bad boy" is the opposite, and it triggers the woman to pursue the new "challenge".

He's learning the hard way, but better now than when children, debt, other people crashing the party pile up.

Given her apparent swift dive into cheating, and her request upon being kicked out, financial gain was most likely a key component to saying yes to marriage on her part.

RE: ,  
montanagiant : 12/22/2014 11:48 am : link
In comment 12048938 Danny Kanell said:
Quote:
Pics or GTFO

Those should be real easy to find online with a who-ah like this
My gf and I were living together  
Vin R : 12/22/2014 11:49 am : link
then she started staying late at her crossfit gym to work on some workouts.. Long story short she was going on dates with the 40+ yr old owner while I was home making dinner. They're still together, good for them lol
Oh and he has kids  
Vin R : 12/22/2014 11:50 am : link
.
RE: She is 29ish  
Matt M. : 12/22/2014 11:51 am : link
In comment 12048934 ank00 said:
Quote:
and he is 33. I really think she was after his $$. After he told her to GTFO, she goes "I need financial help"...what a tramp.

Her reason for cheating was "I needed a bad boy"...while her boss is married with kids. Good luck being a home wrecker...and yes, she does have a tramp stamp on her back.
Well, she just screwed herself on both fronts. One, a good lawyer should be able to limit what she would get in a divorce with what seems like little in the way of shared assets and a short lived relationship. Two, she may have wanted a "bad boy", but if he has a wife and kids, she isn't likely to receive very much from him. The only way she gets anything remotely close to what she is looking for is if a paternity test proves her baby is your friend's. Who knows if she is even really pregnant at this point.
No kids  
arnief : 12/22/2014 11:51 am : link
no big deal, move on and never allow any contact under any circumstances, Chances are she will be back next time she needs a sucker. Don't allow yourself to go back no matter what.
Hate to say it ....  
njm : 12/22/2014 11:53 am : link
but the pregnancy may turn this into a real pissing contest in court. As far as what you can do, initially just listen and take it from there. As the process unfolds get him out of his house on occasion, football game or something similar.
I've been on different sides of this situation  
dvb : 12/22/2014 11:53 am : link
Years ago I had a good friend's wife hit on me multiple times. I won't go into detail (it did involve her following me into a bathroom at a party and partially undressing), it was a difficult situation. My friend caught us alone together one time while i was in the process of telling the slut she should get her shit together and stop messing around. I tried to protect my friend and not tell him what was going on. I told the slut she would regret it if she mucked up her marriage. My friend was a really good guy, good husband, good father to their young daughter, etc.

Long story short, they ended up divorced and the slut told me she regretted it just as I had warned her.

ank00, this will be a tough time for your friend, but it's good that he gets this worthless POS slut out of his life sooner than later. He's lucky he doesn't have kids with the bitch.
help your buddy by  
andrew_nyg : 12/22/2014 11:54 am : link
taking her out, slipping her a mickey...take off all of her clothes, tie her up and tatoo "This bitch has been fucking your husband for a year" on her face...and leave her at the dudes doorstep for Christmas.

You will be his BEST friend for Life!
A bad boy?  
CruzShip52 : 12/22/2014 11:55 am : link
what the fuck. What did this 'bad boy' boss do for a living?
Just have him say he faked  
pjcas18 : 12/22/2014 11:55 am : link
all his orgasms. That will prove the baby isn't his and make her feel like less of a woman.

Double bonus.

She saw he was weak and she used him  
buford : 12/22/2014 11:56 am : link
Drop her like a hot potato and get some self respect or he will wind up making the same mistake the next time he gets involved.
RE: RE: hahaha. she needed a bad boy? what?  
buford : 12/22/2014 11:57 am : link
In comment 12048971 Cam in MO said:
Quote:
In comment 12048965 Curtis in VA said:


Quote:


.



His friend put the pussy on a pedestal and treated her like some fucking Disney princess.

You do that with your daughters, not your wife.

Wimmin need to be told what to do.



And if they don't do it, then you bring out the whips!
RE: My gf and I were living together  
RC02XX : 12/22/2014 11:57 am : link
In comment 12049005 Vin R said:
Quote:
then she started staying late at her crossfit gym to work on some workouts.. Long story short she was going on dates with the 40+ yr old owner while I was home making dinner. They're still together, good for them lol


It's called a box, not a gym.

All kidding aside...you're better off, man. Those crossfitters are fucking weird.
RE: Translation  
Chef : 12/22/2014 11:59 am : link
In comment 12049000 JonC said:
Quote:
she's telling him he's a pushover, doormat, pick your adjective. The "bad boy" is the opposite, and it triggers the woman to pursue the new "challenge".

He's learning the hard way, but better now than when children, debt, other people crashing the party pile up.

Given her apparent swift dive into cheating, and her request upon being kicked out, financial gain was most likely a key component to saying yes to marriage on her part.

This is dead nuts on target
RE: Hate to say it ....  
buford : 12/22/2014 11:59 am : link
In comment 12049022 njm said:
Quote:
but the pregnancy may turn this into a real pissing contest in court. As far as what you can do, initially just listen and take it from there. As the process unfolds get him out of his house on occasion, football game or something similar.


I didn't think of that. Legally if she has a kid, it's yours and you are liable. Best get a lawyer real quick and get that straightened out.
RE: RE: hahaha. she needed a bad boy? what?  
Ten Ton Hammer : 12/22/2014 11:59 am : link
In comment 12048971 Cam in MO said:
Quote:
In comment 12048965 Curtis in VA said:


Quote:


.



His friend put the pussy on a pedestal and treated her like some fucking Disney princess.

You do that with your daughters, not your wife.

Wimmin need to be told what to do.



I won't be happy in life until you get a daytime talk show.
RE: RE: My gf and I were living together  
Vin R : 12/22/2014 12:01 pm : link
In comment 12049048 RC02XX said:
Quote:
In comment 12049005 Vin R said:


Quote:


then she started staying late at her crossfit gym to work on some workouts.. Long story short she was going on dates with the 40+ yr old owner while I was home making dinner. They're still together, good for them lol



It's called a box, not a gym.

All kidding aside...you're better off, man. Those crossfitters are fucking weird.


Haha very weird.. I couldn't agree more, I've been a lot happier.

And ank, get your friend out of the house, doing anything to take his mind off of it will do wonders
RE: My gf and I were living together  
Cam in MO : 12/22/2014 12:02 pm : link
In comment 12049005 Vin R said:
Quote:
then she started staying late at her crossfit gym to work on some workouts.. Long story short she was going on dates with the 40+ yr old owner while I was home making dinner. They're still together, good for them lol


Sorry, dude. Didn't know that was you.


the other side of the situation  
dvb : 12/22/2014 12:02 pm : link
my ex wife got friendly with another dude (though she swore they never did anything until after we split). She ended up marrying the other guy and I was recently told that she's now divorced from him (I wouldn't be surprised if he gave her a little of her own medicine and cheated on her). Meanwhile, I've found the love of my life (my second and final wife) with whom I get along infinitely better (less arguments in almost 15 years than I used to have in 15 days with the ex).

Tell your friend, the cheaters usually always regret it and he'll end up much happier in the long run (assuming he's a little more selective the next time re. trustworthiness, values, etc.).

RE: RE: RE: My gf and I were living together  
RC02XX : 12/22/2014 12:03 pm : link
In comment 12049066 Vin R said:
Quote:
Haha very weird.. I couldn't agree more, I've been a lot happier.

And ank, get your friend out of the house, doing anything to take his mind off of it will do wonders


Yes, definitely get him out of the house and doing something that will keep his mind off, like joining a Crossfit box. I'm sure he'll meet some fit weirdos there.
RE: RE: My gf and I were living together  
RC02XX : 12/22/2014 12:04 pm : link
In comment 12049071 Cam in MO said:
Quote:
Sorry, dude. Didn't know that was you.


Dude...don't make Gianni cry by saying you're into Crossfit. It's P90X5000 and Insanity for you...always.
Pages: 1 2 | Show All |  Next>>
Back to the Corner