NFT: Question For The Married Dudes (or those who have been)

just for fun. I made a mental note. I also snuck one of her rings and had it sized.

My wife's shoe size and ring size are the same. Someone told me that when I was shopping nearly 10 years ago. It's not an exact match always but I'm certain it'll be pretty close. Even if it's not exact, get it, pop the question and it can always be resized for a small fee. Some places will already have that built in. Good luck.

no clue if this would work or not, and only bring it up cuz the SO is talking about wanting one. But I'm sure there has to be some correlation between a bowling ball sizing and ring sizes.

Even though we both knew it wasn't. I'm pretty sure they can be resized easily though.

You could always steal a ring she already has and do a tracing.

maid of honor do some work for me. Sent her a message on facebook and when they saw each other, she played coy and started asking questions about when we were getting married and what kind of ring she wanted, had her try on her ring for size, etc. Worked like a charm and she didn't have a clue when I popped the question on Christmas even though this all happened in September.

I have an uncle who was a jeweler, still might do it, I know in recent years he made a ring for his daughter.

Do you think an experienced jeweler can make a good guess on someones ring size by knowing them, or at the very least looking at their hand?

You'd think that would be a skill an experienced jeweler would have right?

I went ring shopping for a pinky ring and brought her along. The sales person did the work for me by having her try some rings on as well

measure her finger when she's passed out.

You're welcome.

for Christmas, knowing I'd be getting an engagement ring sometime shortly thereafter. I went with her to get that ring sized, and had all the information I needed.

Ten things you don't know about me: blood type, mothers maiden name, that kind of stuff. or course ring size would be another.

Fingers to her. If she is slight, maybe your pinkie may be close to her size.

Yes you can contact one of her friends of possibly equal size and get a good guesstimate.

You can always get rings re-sized after purchase. Better to be close than too big or too small.

1) it's almost definitely getting resized
2) err on the big size instead of the small size. Then she can wear it with an extension. If it's too small from the get go, can't wear it

In comment 12105227 koko2315 said:

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1) it's almost definitely getting resized 2) err on the big size instead of the small size. Then she can wear it with an extension. If it's too small from the get go, can't wear it

Bingo! Beat me to it

In comment 12105217 weeg in the bronx said:

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Ten things you don't know about me: blood type, mothers maiden name, that kind of stuff. or course ring size would be another.

Essentially you're recommending that he start a process to get into an argument.

find a finger on your hand that's close (if possible) and use that or ask a female salesperson at the store to compare with what it looks like and guess based on that. Err a size up so she doesn't have to pretend to be happy when she can't get it past the first knuckle.

Then rest easy in that if needed anywhere you get it will resize the ring.

I just popped the question this Christmas and nailed that shit. second knuckle on my pinkie matched her ring finger. Easy peasy.

a description of her body size, type, and find the finger on your hand that closest matches her ring finger.
Experienced jewelers will be almost always be spot on.
And as mentioned by others, go larger, get it sized later if necessary.

just in case I ever wanted to pop the question

Just bought a ring. Got lucky and it was close to her size.

You can take her with you to pick out a ring after she says yes. assuming she marries you and you stay together she has to wear it the rest of her life. It should be perfect in all ways. If you pick out a diamond cut that she doesn't like, she can never tell you and she will have to wear it.

While they were out shopping one day she had her go into the store to try on some rings.

In comment 12105200 Rocky369 said:

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no clue if this would work or not, and only bring it up cuz the SO is talking about wanting one. But I'm sure there has to be some correlation between a bowling ball sizing and ring sizes.

Hey! Get her a bowling ball, but have it personalized for you. This way, if she turns you down, you'll have something to remember her by.

She had three of them so I went with the smallest one and rounded up .25 or so. Fits perfectly.

If she doesn't ever wear rings that's tougher. As many suggested I would have a sister or close friend get the info out of her.

you know what.

I said fuck it and asked her.


She doesn't expect anything coming anytime soon since I'm broke and going back to school, but I've been given a diamond that has been in the family for a while, was in a ring, then put in a necklace, now all I'd have to do was have it re-set in a ring, so my question of "hey i thought of something when we were looking at rings, do you even know your ring size you dont even wear rings?"

She gave me the size she thinks she wears, so I'll maybe go a touch larger and then have it re-sized down if needed.

and find a ring she is not wearing and get it sized.

Get one of her girlfriends to take her out and go shopping have them both try them on just for kicks. then have her friend tell you the size.

In comment 12105303 wgenesis123 said:

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You can take her with you to pick out a ring after she says yes. assuming she marries you and you stay together she has to wear it the rest of her life. It should be perfect in all ways. If you pick out a diamond cut that she doesn't like, she can never tell you and she will have to wear it.

This! Best way to go.

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In comment 12105342 RicFlair said:

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you know what. I said fuck it and asked her. She doesn't expect anything coming anytime soon since I'm broke and going back to school, but I've been given a diamond that has been in the family for a while, was in a ring, then put in a necklace, now all I'd have to do was have it re-set in a ring, so my question of "hey i thought of something when we were looking at rings, do you even know your ring size you dont even wear rings?" She gave me the size she thinks she wears, so I'll maybe go a touch larger and then have it re-sized down if needed.

Heh. You asked her within the hour and a half of starting the thread? Nice work.

In comment 12105472 BeerFridge said:

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In comment 12105342 RicFlair said: Quote: you know what. I said fuck it and asked her. She doesn't expect anything coming anytime soon since I'm broke and going back to school, but I've been given a diamond that has been in the family for a while, was in a ring, then put in a necklace, now all I'd have to do was have it re-set in a ring, so my question of "hey i thought of something when we were looking at rings, do you even know your ring size you dont even wear rings?" She gave me the size she thinks she wears, so I'll maybe go a touch larger and then have it re-sized down if needed. Heh. You asked her within the hour and a half of starting the thread? Nice work.

haha i asked her for the size, not for her hand in marriage.

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I sent her to the auction house during the preview period, with a list of sale lots I wanted her to check out. All kinds of stuff. (Before kids, we had discretionary income and could afford to buy ourselves cool sh!t on impulse, at auction and elsewhere.) The last few lots on the list were engagement rings. She figured out what I was getting at. Smart girl.

Luckily for me, the last lot - a 5 carat monster valued in the six figures - didn't fit her. The only real problem was that, once she told me the one she liked best - which fit perfectly and happened to be my favorite too - I pretty much had to buy it, no matter where the bids wound up.

just bought a ring and when they asked me her ring size I said she has petite hands. That's the best I could do, they held up a size that looked right.

She had it resized, it wasn't a terrible fit, but slightly big.

she would find out within the hour

The same. My ring size is 5 and shoe is 7.5. Totally false

I found a CZ ring similar to what I think she'd like and used that to propose. Then we shopped together for the actual ring.

Advantages of this plan:

1) You have a ring to propose with for that "pop the question" moment
2) She has a ring to wear while you shop for/buy the actual ring
3) If the ring size is a bit off, no biggie
4) Ensures that the ring she gets is one she wants and suits her style

After she said "yes," we both went to pick out an engagement ring.

That way, she got what she liked (and I probably paid a bit more than if I had bought it before asking her). Of course if she has you pegged as a cheapskate or a poor provider, maybe you better show her the ring up front.

and say this is the size I want?

In comment 12105737 Berrylish said:

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The same. My ring size is 5 and shoe is 7.5. Totally false

that poor woman! (jerkface) :)

She is a lucky woman, and if you picked her then I expect that you are a lucky man, since she must be very special. Best wishes for the future, Yat

- Married BBI Members

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seriously, do not get married

NTTAWWT

Granted, she already knew I was going to propose at some point - we've been together for several years and had talked about it at some length - but this worked out quite well. She got to try on a bunch of different rings, I noted what she liked and didn't like, I got the information I needed. And I managed to surprise her with the ring and the proposal (two weeks ago) anyway.

But honestly, the ring doesn't have to fit perfectly up front - most jewelers will offer you at least one free resizing.

even tho, my wedding date is coming up soon... i agree with everyone else (hypocritically, I might add) DON'T DO IT!

Always love the "don't get married!" cries, invariably from people whose marriage failed. Don't take it out on the rest of us just because your marriage sucked.

We saw an estate piece at Fortunoff that my wife liked. We just went there to look for fun one weekend in the city. We hadn't discussed engagement before or after that trip. The ring was impossible to replicate and it was way overpriced. I ended up scrapping that idea and designed my own, which my wife loved.

I did a 3 stone ring with ovals (one larger in the middle, with two smaller ones on the sides) before everyone had this design. My wife loved having a design nobody else really had at the time, especially since ovals were not and still aren't as popular as a few others. Plus, it was far cheaper to do this through a dealer than getting the same weights and quality retail. The ring ended up being appraised at nearly double what I paid and the quality was excellent.

Why so and then why are you doing it?

I can honestly say, and my wife doesn't even peek at BBI, that getting married was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I am blessed and thankful my wife said yes.

Guess, and use a fake--cz in gold with a nice-sized stone, about the size you will want to get for real. Then, after you pop the question, admit that you got a fake temporarily because you wanted it to be a surprise, and that you would love to go shopping with her to get her the exact style she wants in the exact right size.

In comment 12106885 Greg from LI said:

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Always love the "don't get married!" cries, invariably from people whose marriage failed. Don't take it out on the rest of us just because your marriage sucked.

Agree with this, I've been married 15 years and have zero complaints, one of the best decisions I've made.