I am in shock. I just found out that someone I have worked closely with for five years committed suicide over the weekend. She seemed fine, even happy. She remarried last year and seemed so in love and content. I just don't know what to think or feel. I can't believe she would leave her daughter. I knew she had a dark side, and we talked about it. But I thought she had finally found happiness.
All the bs we deal with each day is so meaningless. The fact that someone young, vital, talented, beautiful, funny and intelligent would do this has really thrown me. It just makes no sense.
Best to her daughter who will be effected by this the most.
I still have thoughts and dreams about him today. Had I known I would have done something.
Don't beat yourself up that you missed some "sign" that would have tipped you off. You can find signs in every person, and only a very few will ever attempt suicide. Most people keep these things locked deep inside. Try and remember the person you cared for, and not how it ended.
I (and his parents) were living in ny and my friend called me from overseas (where they were living) and asked me to come and be with him.) When we got to his house we had to drag out the mattress on which the paramedics performed cpr and administered treatment.
Suicide stinks, especially with young children and other family involved. We never know what people are dealing with or why they decide that this is best route. Jut make sure that you can provide whatever support and help you can.
Sorry that you have to deal with this buford -- the person who kills themselves is rarely aware of the impact their death will have on others -- they are wrapped up with their own devils.
Suicide as an inevitable end of life decision is one thing, this does not sound like that.
Again, my sincere condolences.
I am so sorry for this young woman. Our demons are so difficult and dangerous without support.
I pray for both her and her daughter.
I hope there is some intense counseling available for the young girl.
Buford please take advantage of your company's offer. It can only be helpful.
I will be thinking of you and her daughter.
exactly. I think, people will sometimes view it as a selfish or cowardly act, and perhaps, in some instances that applies. other times, though, it's just a chemical thing and depression is more than just fixing it with talk therapy and working on a positive outlook.
I don't know whether this helps any but, doctors have advised us, often a person is more at risk when they are getting better. Someone in deep depression doesn't have the energy or ability to make a plan. My Mom was good at covering up particularly when we were younger. But if my siblings and I had not had lengthy discussions with her doctors, we would never have picked up on warning signs.
So as others have already said, don't beat yourself up. Grief counseling can help.
You don't have to suffer from a mental illness to be suicidal. Some of the most lucid people I know have decided to move on to valhalla. Fighting to keep living just isn't for everyone. Some people just don't have the will to keep fighting.
wow -That is horrible