A friend of mine thinks I would make a good match with her friend. She talks to the friend, presumably shares a photo of me where I'm not completely hideous, and she provided her phone number to be shared with me.
I get that you're "supposed to call," but what the hell would I say to the girl? I know literally nothing about her besides her name, and I feel like it would just be an awkward conversation.
I'm not self-conscious or nervous about it. I'm comfortable on the phone, but I wonder how comfortable she would be.. and then if she doesn't answer, do I call back? Leave a voicemail???? Weird!
What's the move here? Text to set something up or give her a call?
Give her a call. Girls these days appreciate it.
Then when you figure out that she's a wildebeest and you ignore her she knows exactly why.
And of course the opposite of true as well. She might look at you and vomit in her mouth.
No less passive aggressive then texting her.
Or you could just grow a pair, be a man and can her.
In an ideal world, what your friends should have probably done instead of getting/passing you her # was just set up a happy hour with all of you together.
Like I said, people overthink this shit. Your texting or phone conversation won't matter nearly as much as how you present yourself in person.
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But a little market research on Facebook is genius.
This.
I am 30, I know a lot of girls who are 25-30 years old and this is just how it is now. The majority would be totally fine with a text and probably feel more comfortable that way. Time to think about responses, less pressure, etc. Not saying you have to agree with how times have changed but I am betting most of you guys who are saying "grow a pair" are older and don't know girls in that age bracket right now.
Once you actually meet and know the girl better, sure.. phone conversations are totally normal and in play. But to call blind isn't really necessary.
People here are advocating that you look her up on FB. I personally wouldn't if you've already seen a few photos of her. She'll most likely look you up and you can say you just aren't into the FB thing and then tease her for being a stalker. But that's just me.
For the older generation, the problem with phone calls is that you might not be saved in the girl's phone, so it'll look like you are a telemarketer. If they do pick up, they might be in an inconvenient situation. They could be driving or at the supermarket.
Some girls might like a guy that calls them a lot, and that's something you can find out over the first few dates. But for this situation, she obviously already likes the way you look, just set up a date and go from there.
Good luck!
Along with plane crash threads.
Once you actually meet and know the girl better, sure.. phone conversations are totally normal and in play. But to call blind isn't really necessary.
I'm not doubting any of that, but it's still fucking bizarre that people are terrified of talking to another human being.
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I am 30, I know a lot of girls who are 25-30 years old and this is just how it is now. The majority would be totally fine with a text and probably feel more comfortable that way. Time to think about responses, less pressure, etc. Not saying you have to agree with how times have changed but I am betting most of you guys who are saying "grow a pair" are older and don't know girls in that age bracket right now.
Once you actually meet and know the girl better, sure.. phone conversations are totally normal and in play. But to call blind isn't really necessary.
I'm not doubting any of that, but it's still fucking bizarre that people are terrified of talking to another human being.
Agreed, Greg. In fact, I'd prefer to call. Because a conversation has an ebb and flow that makes each response organic. Will there be an awkward moment or two? Probably. But it's better than "Hey X.. A gave me your number.. how's it going?"
Lame. And an over-the-top joke? Too contrived. I'm with you. I just want to pick up the phone... but it's 95% certain no one will answer.
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I am 30, I know a lot of girls who are 25-30 years old and this is just how it is now. The majority would be totally fine with a text and probably feel more comfortable that way. Time to think about responses, less pressure, etc. Not saying you have to agree with how times have changed but I am betting most of you guys who are saying "grow a pair" are older and don't know girls in that age bracket right now.
Once you actually meet and know the girl better, sure.. phone conversations are totally normal and in play. But to call blind isn't really necessary.
I'm not doubting any of that, but it's still fucking bizarre that people are terrified of talking to another human being.
I don't think being terrified really has anything to do with it. You're texting to set up a date under the assumption you're actually going to have to talk to that person on said date. It's more of a convenience thing tbh
But that's me - I only text if I'm in situation where I need to remember something (like my wife texting me a list of items to pick up at the store) or when I don't want people around me to hear what I'm saying. Outside of those kinds of situations, texting sucks.
I text my best friends all the time. People I've known for years. I'm certainly not afraid of talking to them on the phone, I just find it generally unnecessary and inconvenient.
I also grew up in a world where cell phones barely existed so I'm not some kid who had an iPhone in Grade School. I went through all of High School with no cell phone. I called my friends and girlfriends on a landline phone to make plans and hang out regularly. I know what that world is like as well and know both sides of the coin.
Whether he calls or texts this girl will make little to no difference in anything.
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call her is probably not dating girls in the age bracket we're talking about here. Things are different these days, and regardless of whether you're old fashioned, most girls would rather just text, at least to set up a first date. It's less pressure on them, and it's easier because they don't have to take time out to have a phone conversation. It's not being a pussy or lacking confidence, it's just how dating is when you're in your 20s these days. I mean, we have an app specifically designed to get people laid with the least amount of effort, people don't want to talk on the phone. Save the talking for the actual date.
This.
I am 30, I know a lot of girls who are 25-30 years old and this is just how it is now. The majority would be totally fine with a text and probably feel more comfortable that way. Time to think about responses, less pressure, etc. Not saying you have to agree with how times have changed but I am betting most of you guys who are saying "grow a pair" are older and don't know girls in that age bracket right now.
Once you actually meet and know the girl better, sure.. phone conversations are totally normal and in play. But to call blind isn't really necessary.
LOL30
My man Micky knows what he's talking about.
But that's me - I only text if I'm in situation where I need to remember something (like my wife texting me a list of items to pick up at the store) or when I don't want people around me to hear what I'm saying. Outside of those kinds of situations, texting sucks.
When was the last time you dated a 25 year old girl? When was the last time you were 25? You're giving your opinion on a demographic of which you know little about. Nobody is terrified, you're just out of touch with how it is to date in your 20s in 2015.
They like having the time to think through responses and/or ignore/play hard to get, at will.
I still prefer to call a girl up because my sarcastic wit doesn't always come through well on a text. But fortunately I think I've finally found a keeper so I need not deal with any of that crap anymore.
Also, speaking of texting, kids today, they'll never understand what texting used to be like..
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call her is probably not dating girls in the age bracket we're talking about here. Things are different these days, and regardless of whether you're old fashioned, most girls would rather just text, at least to set up a first date. It's less pressure on them, and it's easier because they don't have to take time out to have a phone conversation. It's not being a pussy or lacking confidence, it's just how dating is when you're in your 20s these days. I mean, we have an app specifically designed to get people laid with the least amount of effort, people don't want to talk on the phone. Save the talking for the actual date.
This.
I am 30, I know a lot of girls who are 25-30 years old and this is just how it is now. The majority would be totally fine with a text and probably feel more comfortable that way. Time to think about responses, less pressure, etc. Not saying you have to agree with how times have changed but I am betting most of you guys who are saying "grow a pair" are older and don't know girls in that age bracket right now.
Once you actually meet and know the girl better, sure.. phone conversations are totally normal and in play. But to call blind isn't really necessary.
LOL30
Are you inviting me to your Sweet16 this year or what? Don't leave me out.
Btw, LTS - good looks on Iliza Schlesinger (sp?). Watched both specials last weekendd.
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I was just trying to help anak out.
Btw, LTS - good looks on Iliza Schlesinger (sp?). Watched both specials last weekendd.
Nice, which one did you like better? I tend to prefer War Paint
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Especially on those shitty little virtual keyboards on phones, so I'm not seeing the convenience angle. It's also being said that girls will be "uncomfortable" if he were to call, which belies the idea that it's a matter of convenience, as if the act of speaking is some kind of unwanted familiarity or intrusion.
But that's me - I only text if I'm in situation where I need to remember something (like my wife texting me a list of items to pick up at the store) or when I don't want people around me to hear what I'm saying. Outside of those kinds of situations, texting sucks.
When was the last time you dated a 25 year old girl? When was the last time you were 25? You're giving your opinion on a demographic of which you know little about. Nobody is terrified, you're just out of touch with how it is to date in your 20s in 2015.
Even when Greg was in his 20's he was out of touch with others in their 20's. Let's get that straight.
Aw man, I'm sorry - didn't mean to trigger you, sweetie.
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Especially on those shitty little virtual keyboards on phones, so I'm not seeing the convenience angle. It's also being said that girls will be "uncomfortable" if he were to call, which belies the idea that it's a matter of convenience, as if the act of speaking is some kind of unwanted familiarity or intrusion.
But that's me - I only text if I'm in situation where I need to remember something (like my wife texting me a list of items to pick up at the store) or when I don't want people around me to hear what I'm saying. Outside of those kinds of situations, texting sucks.
When was the last time you dated a 25 year old girl? When was the last time you were 25? You're giving your opinion on a demographic of which you know little about. Nobody is terrified, you're just out of touch with how it is to date in your 20s in 2015.
Even when Greg was in his 20's he was out of touch with others in their 20's. Let's get that straight.
Yea this is probably truth.
I don't get you. NO ONE GETS YOU!
You're an enigma wrapped in a mystery shrouded in darkness behind a lead wall. NO ONE GETS YOU.
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When was the last time you dated a 25 year old girl? When was the last time you were 25? You're giving your opinion on a demographic of which you know little about. Nobody is terrified, you're just out of touch with how it is to date in your 20s in 2015.
Aw man, I'm sorry - didn't mean to trigger you, sweetie.
Haha seriously? What in my post implied that I was upset? You don't have to get all butt hurt because I pointed out the obvious.
But yeah, Trains, Planes & Automobiles (and no I didn't look it up!)
But yeah, Trains, Planes & Automobiles (and no I didn't look it up!)
Those were not PILLOWS!!
These are a few of my favorite things!