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NFT: Friend is setting you up with a girl: call or text?

Mike in Long Beach : 7/29/2015 11:11 am
A friend of mine thinks I would make a good match with her friend. She talks to the friend, presumably shares a photo of me where I'm not completely hideous, and she provided her phone number to be shared with me.

I get that you're "supposed to call," but what the hell would I say to the girl? I know literally nothing about her besides her name, and I feel like it would just be an awkward conversation.

I'm not self-conscious or nervous about it. I'm comfortable on the phone, but I wonder how comfortable she would be.. and then if she doesn't answer, do I call back? Leave a voicemail???? Weird!

What's the move here? Text to set something up or give her a call?
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Text first and set up a time when a call is convenient for  
Wuphat : 7/29/2015 11:12 am : link
both of you.
Why even call?  
RB^2 : 7/29/2015 11:14 am : link
If you're texting, just set up an in-person meeting. Step your game up, Wu.
call first, it's a set up not tinder  
pjcas18 : 7/29/2015 11:14 am : link
then text. no dick picks. Initially.
RE: Why even call?  
Wuphat : 7/29/2015 11:15 am : link
In comment 12391106 RB^2 said:
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If you're texting, just set up an in-person meeting. Step your game up, Wu.


Shit, the last time I had to play, texting wasn't even really a thing.

The conundrum was whether or not to email before calling.
You're overthinking it  
JonC : 7/29/2015 11:15 am : link
Call her, don't text her, set a good precedent from the start. Don't overthink it, just be positive and keep the convo light and let it breathe.

Why didn't your friend  
RB^2 : 7/29/2015 11:15 am : link
just invite the two of you out to hang out together? Or to some kind of party. The more I think about this, the more weird it seems. Even for you.
set up by a female friend  
eli4life : 7/29/2015 11:16 am : link
Run!!
Just text her to set up a meeting.  
732NYG : 7/29/2015 11:16 am : link
Most people prefer texting to calling these day, just how it is.
RE: set up by a female friend  
Chris in Philly : 7/29/2015 11:17 am : link
In comment 12391122 eli4life said:
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Run!!


She's got a great personality!
I think before meeting her it is imperative that you get  
Wuphat : 7/29/2015 11:17 am : link
her thoughts on the speed of a descending aircraft as it impacts the ocean.

Get the important shit out of the way early.

Oh, and what are her thoughts on Chicago?
I would wait to see what Brett has to say  
RB^2 : 7/29/2015 11:17 am : link
and then do the exact opposite.
RE: Why didn't your friend  
Mike in Long Beach : 7/29/2015 11:17 am : link
In comment 12391117 RB^2 said:
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just invite the two of you out to hang out together? Or to some kind of party. The more I think about this, the more weird it seems. Even for you.


Yeah, it's soooo weird for someone to set their two friends up on a date!
You know the rule  
Anakim : 7/29/2015 11:18 am : link
Pics or GTFO
RE: You know the rule  
Wuphat : 7/29/2015 11:19 am : link
In comment 12391136 Anakim said:
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Pics or GTFO


The kid has a point.

Rare, but, he's right.
If you don't know what to say to her on the  
buford : 7/29/2015 11:19 am : link
phone, what are you going to say to her in person.

Texting is probably fine, but a phone call would be nice.
.....  
BrettNYG10 : 7/29/2015 11:19 am : link
Only call her if you want to look like a fucking serial killer.
RE: RE: Why didn't your friend  
RB^2 : 7/29/2015 11:19 am : link
In comment 12391132 Mike in Long Beach said:
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Yeah, it's soooo weird for someone to set their two friends up on a date!


I actually do think it's kind of weird. Can you still ask your friend if you can all just hang out together sometime?
Actually, nvm.  
BrettNYG10 : 7/29/2015 11:20 am : link
You're old, so calling might still be acceptable for your generation?
BHITB  
Semipro Lineman : 7/29/2015 11:20 am : link
...
RE: RE: RE: Why didn't your friend  
BrettNYG10 : 7/29/2015 11:20 am : link
In comment 12391144 RB^2 said:
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In comment 12391132 Mike in Long Beach said:


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Yeah, it's soooo weird for someone to set their two friends up on a date!



I actually do think it's kind of weird. Can you still ask your friend if you can all just hang out together sometime?


None of RB's friends think he should reproduce is what I'm getting from this thread.
Probably old fashion but IMO texting her is weak  
steve in ky : 7/29/2015 11:20 am : link
Pick up the phone and invite her to diner.
Call her you have an intro through a mutual friend  
Torrag : 7/29/2015 11:22 am : link
Overthinking this stuff is probably why you're single.

Heres a solid tip for you. Girls like dick...work with that.
Call  
giantsblue1 : 7/29/2015 11:22 am : link
Texting is so informal.
holy overthinking batman  
GMenLTS : 7/29/2015 11:22 am : link
do whatever you feel comfortable with.

I'd shoot over an intro text and see when it'd be cool to give her a call.

From that, she'd either continue texting and you do the small talk that way (most likely), or she'd tell you when to call, or she'll blow you off completely.

Either way, how the hell do you still have trouble figuring this shit out?
Your friend probably gave her your picture.....  
njm : 7/29/2015 11:23 am : link
and didn't give you a picture of her?


"Danger Will Robinson. Danger."
Be a man and call.  
Victor in CT : 7/29/2015 11:24 am : link
Texting gives off an "I'm afraid" or "I'm too under confident" to call vibe.
RE: Why didn't your friend  
Greg from LI : 7/29/2015 11:24 am : link
In comment 12391117 RB^2 said:
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just invite the two of you out to hang out together? Or to some kind of party. The more I think about this, the more weird it seems. Even for you.


Exactly. I met my wife through a setup, but it was as you described. The people setting us up had a big barbeque and invited us as well as some other people.
RE: call first, it's a set up not tinder  
Victor in CT : 7/29/2015 11:24 am : link
In comment 12391107 pjcas18 said:
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then text. no dick picks. Initially.


"Initially".

THAT'S FUNNY!!!!
Classic LOL  
raever : 7/29/2015 11:25 am : link
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Heres a solid tip for you. Girls like dick...work with that.


Troof.
This is a contrived situation  
RB^2 : 7/29/2015 11:25 am : link
Not a fan of these types of arrangements in general. These work best when they occur independently either in the wild or online, not initiated/brokered by a third party.

Brett is the Tanner Glass of anything women-related.
I also agree that a setup through a female friend is problematic  
Wuphat : 7/29/2015 11:27 am : link
The last time I tried to do this, the setup friend got super jealous and cock-blocky.

That was 20 years ago, so maybe yours is different.
I'm old school  
GiantJake : 7/29/2015 11:27 am : link
Blast her in the butt
all i can think of  
Gordo : 7/29/2015 11:28 am : link
is this scene from despicable me 2
matchmaker - ( New Window )
Brett is  
JonC : 7/29/2015 11:30 am : link
taking a pounding heeyar.
The Tanner Glass comp was just hurtful.  
BrettNYG10 : 7/29/2015 11:30 am : link
.
RE: Brett is  
Wuphat : 7/29/2015 11:30 am : link
In comment 12391195 JonC said:
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taking a pounding heeyar.


When is he not?
The Tanner Glass comp was just hurtful. BrettNYG10  
Torrag : 7/29/2015 11:31 am : link
+1
for the old/traditional guys  
GMenLTS : 7/29/2015 11:33 am : link
while I understand and appreciate the message that a direct call sends (confidence), the women/girls these days that are our age are so comfortable with texting it makes sense to break the ice that way. i.e. Brett's serial killer joke while dumb, has some validity in the minds of these girls.

'omgz becky, your friend you just tried to set me up with just randomly called me to hang out/talk/blah/blah, it was sooo awkward lol, what kind of weirdo are you trying to set me up with? He could have just not been weird and just texted me...'

Don't hurt yourself trying to understand the logic, it just is. This is what we deal with these days.
Agree with JonC.  
GiantFilthy : 7/29/2015 11:33 am : link
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You're overthinking it
JonC : 11:15 am : link : reply
Call her, don't text her, set a good precedent from the start. Don't overthink it, just be positive and keep the convo light and let it breathe.


Call her and breathe into the phone.
RE: The Tanner Glass comp was just hurtful.  
RB^2 : 7/29/2015 11:35 am : link
In comment 12391198 BrettNYG10 said:
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.

You're right, it was unnecessary and degrading. I let my emotion get the better of me and I regret stooping so low.

I would like to take this opportunity to apologize to Tanner.
then again, fek could masterfully handle this method of calling...  
GMenLTS : 7/29/2015 11:36 am : link
.


Link - ( New Window )
LTS gender confused?  
Torrag : 7/29/2015 11:36 am : link
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'omgz becky, your friend you just tried to set me up with just randomly called me to hang out/talk/blah/blah, it was sooo awkward lol, what kind of weirdo are you trying to set me up with? He could have just not been weird and just texted me...'


You decide.
Look her up on facebook  
madgiantscow009 : 7/29/2015 11:36 am : link
either through your friend's facebook, her phone number, or her name. Then see what some of her interests from there.
GF  
JonC : 7/29/2015 11:37 am : link
you never disappoint!

Lyle, I was gonna suggest posting that!
RE: LTS gender confused?  
GMenLTS : 7/29/2015 11:38 am : link
In comment 12391223 Torrag said:
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Quote:


'omgz becky, your friend you just tried to set me up with just randomly called me to hang out/talk/blah/blah, it was sooo awkward lol, what kind of weirdo are you trying to set me up with? He could have just not been weird and just texted me...'



You decide.


I take it you missed the point of what I was saying?
It's going to be equally awkward for her  
Deej : 7/29/2015 11:38 am : link
so just call up, bond over the awkwardness, and set up a meet.

Although for the life of me I dont know why we moved on from dick pick so quickly.
RE: GF  
GMenLTS : 7/29/2015 11:38 am : link
In comment 12391232 JonC said:
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you never disappoint!

Lyle, I was gonna suggest posting that!


It was either that or suggest fekker make a youtube video tribute!
ultimately....  
Greg from LI : 7/29/2015 11:39 am : link
People are 30 are fucking weirdos
'I take it you missed the point of what I was saying?'  
Torrag : 7/29/2015 11:39 am : link
I take it you have no sense of humor. Moving on this is a light thread.
RE: RE: GF  
Wuphat : 7/29/2015 11:39 am : link
In comment 12391236 GMenLTS said:
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In comment 12391232 JonC said:


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you never disappoint!

Lyle, I was gonna suggest posting that!



It was either that or suggest fekker make a youtube video tribute!


I vote for this.

'Nak, any tips?
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