NFT: Christmas for Your Significant Other

but getting several gift cards for places she likes (shopping, dining, travel) is a gift that lasts beyond the holidays. It shows thoughtfulness (you pick the places she likes) and she can choose when and what to get...

In comment 12644072 BamaBlue said:

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but getting several gift cards for places she likes (shopping, dining, travel) is a gift that lasts beyond the holidays. It shows thoughtfulness (you pick the places she likes) and she can choose when and what to get...

Really depends on your SO. Many would say a gift card means you put no thought into it at all.

but getting several gift cards for places she likes (shopping, dining, travel) is a gift that lasts beyond the holidays. It shows thoughtfulness (you pick the places she likes) and she can choose when and what to get...

who prefers to give my wife what she really wants when she really wants it. This means that the Christmas gift itself is often a token gift, nothing too significant.

For example, this spring my wife decided she wanted a wood-burning stove put into a family area. So she bought the stove and brick/supplies that were needed. Going into the fall the installation wasn't done. I told her that for her Christmas gift I was going to make that happen for her - took the time to do the install myself, went with my boys into the mountain and harvested 7 cords of lodge pole pine, been splitting wood for exercise ever since, and she's extremely happy in her warm house.

She knows that I didn't want to put a fireplace in - that was something she wanted. But I did it for her, put the time in so she could see I was committed to her, and she appreciated it.

Come Christmas - what more does she expect from me?

if there were one-size-fits all, men would have a lot fewer problems!

when I get her gift cards. It's better than when I put thought into it usually and saves her returning whatever my stupid thoughts led to.

I usually get her something nice too like an iPad or phone or something like that, I was thinking Apple Watch this year to go with the usual gift cards (place she gets her hair done, place she gets her nails done, place she usually shops for clothes).

gift cards, while impersonal, aren't like just wrapping up cash (IMO).

In comment 12644076 Dan in the Springs said:

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who prefers to give my wife what she really wants when she really wants it. This means that the Christmas gift itself is often a token gift, nothing too significant. For example, this spring my wife decided she wanted a wood-burning stove put into a family area. So she bought the stove and brick/supplies that were needed. Going into the fall the installation wasn't done. I told her that for her Christmas gift I was going to make that happen for her - took the time to do the install myself, went with my boys into the mountain and harvested 7 cords of lodge pole pine, been splitting wood for exercise ever since, and she's extremely happy in her warm house. She knows that I didn't want to put a fireplace in - that was something she wanted. But I did it for her, put the time in so she could see I was committed to her, and she appreciated it. Come Christmas - what more does she expect from me?

Dan-

Digressing from the main thread - how did she source the materials for the stove? I'm looking into building an outdoor brick oven, and on the fence between building one myself and buying a pre-made kit. Not sure how hard it is to find the type of materials you need to put one together (fire bricks are easy, refractory mortar and a chimney not so much).

Doesn't have to be anything fancy or expensive-a few years ago her favorite gift was a Shark handheld vacuum. Most people would roll their eyes at a gift like that, but she really wanted one, and she was pleased that I had picked up on that. Last year I got new running shoes because her old ones were getting worn out.

This year I'm getting her cowboy boots, a fleece, and goofy Christmas socks that she likes. Relatively simple

found a construction company that built a hospital and had thousands of leftover bricks. She consulted a bricklayer and found out the bricks they had were sufficient - drove out to the construction site and picked them up on the bargain because the pallet was opened and they didn't want to deal with it. She then used her good looks and charm to get the guys to load it in the truck/trailer for her.

The rest of the supplies (mortar, etc.) she picked up at a regular old construction supply store.

She's resourceful when she wants something done. Especially when my objection is we can't afford it - she just gets the buying done on her own (fitting within our regular monthly budget) and then leaves me to figure out the labor, etc.

We prefer to splurge on vacations.

so gifting is always a challenge. we typically only buy a few small things for each other. Nothing much, but just something to open.

One of the best gifts i got here (for her b-day a few years back) was a cleaning service. With both of us working and 3 kids, it gives my wife alot more free time. Since its been a few years it is also probably one of the most expensive gifts I've given, but she still thanks me for it.

2 years ago, he surprised me with this Mac Book Pro, because he said he was tired to listening to me bitch about my old laptop. I think he may get me the watch this year because I've expressed interest in it and he had me try one on in the Apple Store.

I was going to get him the Ipad Pro, but he just told me this morning that it's too big (he wants it for travel) so he wants the Ipad Air 2. I can't surprise him. I've given up.

told the kids that we're doing four gifts each.

Something you want.
Something you need.
Something to wear.
Something to read.

Maybe that might give you an idea of what to get your spouse?

Give her divorce papers. Bet she would never expect that !
Just kidding ....... Waiting to end the work day.

In comment 12644133 Dan in the Springs said:

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told the kids that we're doing four gifts each. Something you want. Something you need. Something to wear. Something to read. Maybe that might give you an idea of what to get your spouse?

nice rules

jawbone speaker for the lake / beach. our Bose is staying in the house, a lot of close calls with the sand.

massage gift certificate.

pearls.

purse.

so the wife and I aren doing gifts this year. Maybe somethin small but we'll see. Gifts just don't really matter to either of us anymore.

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So a gift is a must since this is our first Christmas married together.

I'm going to get her a nice piece of clothing that she would never buy for herself. Probably in the $250-300 range.

I would go w that.

with jewelry. When I don't know what to buy her, I've never had a disappointed response to jewelry.

This is the company I buy from. Just google masonry supply companies in your area, I'm sure they will steer you in the right direction.

In comment 12644190 Gman11 said:

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I said besides the obvious, Dude. That's always a present well received...

In comment 12644135 gmenrule said:

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Give her divorce papers. Bet she would never expect that ! Just kidding ....... Waiting to end the work day.

F THAT....she'd get half my military retirement!!!

I usually get her a Michaels Gift card, A C Moore gift card, Barnes and Nobles Gift card, Kohls/Belk gift card (for clothes/purse). I also cat her (for 37 years now), 365 Day Cat Calendar.


For her birthday she got from my son and me a Stone Fire Pit made (in late August).

After 37 years it's hard to get her unique stuff and I thank all of you (except the Blast Her Butt Comment, and the Divorce (lol) Comment) for thinking up stuff for your significant other. Maybe we helped one another, too (including Blast Her Butt, and maybe the Divorce, too).

where we already have enough clothes enough stuff. Usually at the point where you are at you are thinking of down sizing. My recommendations is get her things you can do together or something that she can enjoy by herself. For example, diner and a show, spa day, find out where she gets her nails done and pay for it for a year, buy her a star, my dad did it for my mom and she thought it was the greatest gift. It all depends on your budget. Time with you instead of another pair of pants or shoes or more stuff to me makes more sense. if that does not work you can try, GIANTS PLAYOFF TICKETS, it usually does it for me.

In comment 12644350 Tittle 9 20 64 said:

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This is the company I buy from. Just google masonry supply companies in your area, I'm sure they will steer you in the right direction.

Shit, forgot the link.
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My girl and I make a donation to each others charitable cause.

We both kind of get what we want or need .

This was her idea and I like it