NFT: why did you get married

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In comment 12974399 buford said:

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we got married because we wanted to. There was no outside or inside pressure. And we are almost to 25 years. Best thing we ever did.

Congrats, Buford.
Any youngsters?

for the likes on Favebook.

How many kids and grand kids do you have exactly? I hope that was your youngest who just graduated.

Sounds like a shitty 2016 Demi Lovato song

In comment 12974406 gidiefor said:

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because I was madly in love with her and just couldn't bear the thought of life without her.

This is nice. You don't hear that, ever.

would not be bastard born and have their claim to the throne contested by my younger brothers kids.

my heart skipped a beat. When I looked in her eyes, the rest of the world faded; the sound of her voice drowned out all other sounds; the touch of her hand took my breath away. We were engaged six weeks after we met, and married six months later. And after 31 1/2 years, on the day she passed, my heart broke, and my world crumbled.

And I would do all over again in a heartbeat...

Both our eyes lit up and we knew that instant we were made for each other.Now after 65 fantastic years I visit her every day in a nursing home just to hold her hand. Once in awhile I get a smile of recognition.That same feeling is still there that makes my eyes light up.

Thank you Wally

In comment 12974479 turkey said:

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Both our eyes lit up and we knew that instant we were made for each other.Now after 65 fantastic years I visit her every day in a nursing home just to hold her hand. Once in awhile I get a smile of recognition.That same feeling is still there that makes my eyes light up. Thank you Wally

Hey turkey! Haven't seen you post in awhile! Sorry to read about your wife, but I hope your health is well.

Hey okiegiant --

How was your week with your son in Charleston ?? Give us the rundown on your Foodie Adventures......maybe on it's own thread.

In comment 12974448 Route 9 said:

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In comment 12974406 gidiefor said: Quote: because I was madly in love with her and just couldn't bear the thought of life without her. This is nice. You don't hear that, ever.

I recently had the good fortune of meeting Mrs. Gidie.

Gidie is a lucky man.

In comment 12974517 Named Later said:

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Hey okiegiant -- How was your week with your son in Charleston ?? Give us the rundown on your Foodie Adventures......maybe on it's own thread.

Had an awesome time! Thanks for all the suggestions...I'll start a thread later about all the great places we tried. I'm glad I went last weekend...this weekend looks a little wet!

but I prefer to focus on the fact that we are nearing our 42nd anniversary with two happy and successful sons. I don't focus on the why but it did expedite the inevitable.

+1

...Unfortunately, Joel (my son) is a drooling heroin zombie. On the plus side, he gets lots more social media likes than my neighbor's goody-goody punk son who's always ranting about Communists and Fags taking over the country.

Go figure!

In comment 12974411 Joe in Knoxville said:

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And the anal

I just hope he's gentle with you.

In comment 12974425 mrvax said:

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In comment 12974399 buford said: Quote: we got married because we wanted to. There was no outside or inside pressure. And we are almost to 25 years. Best thing we ever did. Congrats, Buford. Any youngsters?

just furry ones.

In comment 12974479 turkey said:

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Both our eyes lit up and we knew that instant we were made for each other.Now after 65 fantastic years I visit her every day in a nursing home just to hold her hand. Once in awhile I get a smile of recognition.That same feeling is still there that makes my eyes light up. Thank you Wally

That is so sweet. Thank you for posting it.

In comment 12974459 Mike in Philly said:

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my heart skipped a beat. When I looked in her eyes, the rest of the world faded; the sound of her voice drowned out all other sounds; the touch of her hand took my breath away. We were engaged six weeks after we met, and married six months later. And after 31 1/2 years, on the day she passed, my heart broke, and my world crumbled. And I would do all over again in a heartbeat...

thanks for sharing that i actually got emotional reading that. my daughter was born yesterday. I'm with my girl now but we aren't married yet but plan to be. I'm 28 she's 25 we met when i was 22. wouldn't change a thing.

because of alimony and child support? Neither of those are part of marriage, but rather dissolving a marriage. If those are the first things he thinks of about marriage, then no, he shouldn't get married.

My wife and I knew each other in HS, but hadn't spoken in a decade. We were each out with friends who had dated in college. When they started talking, I went right over to her and knew what I wanted. My instincts were spot on, because she is not only beautiful inside, but outside. She was the first person who truly supported me and believed in me. She helped change my life for the better.

I live every day to make her life and my kids' lives better. I knew that first time we ran into each other and my feelings haven't changed or wavered 1 bit. I never have a regret and truly feel blessed after nearly 16 years and 3 children.

and almost as crazy. We like a lot of the same things and have very similar values. I need smart. We have been together 36 years. We waited 8 years after becoming a couple to have a son--when we were both 41.

She's still better looking than me, smart and almost as crazy. The gap in the latter has narrowed considerably.

In comment 12974543 dune69 said:

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but I prefer to focus on the fact that we are nearing our 42nd anniversary with two happy and successful sons. I don't focus on the why but it did expedite the inevitable.

dune - after meeting your wife -- I don't believe a shotgun was involved at all -- mrs gidie sends her regards and an open invitation to you both - and we both adore her

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In comment 12974583 gidiefor said:

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In comment 12974543 dune69 said: Quote: but I prefer to focus on the fact that we are nearing our 42nd anniversary with two happy and successful sons. I don't focus on the why but it did expedite the inevitable. dune - after meeting your wife -- I don't believe a shotgun was involved at all -- mrs gidie sends her regards and an open invitation to you both - and we both adore her

gidie, we had a great time, but it was too short. Hopefully, we can meet again along the trail. I must say, we did not have enough time for you to give me all of the inside scoop on members at BBI. Next time I will take notes.
Please tell mrs. gidie that we truly enjoyed our dinner and hope to meet again.

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In comment 12974411 Joe in Knoxville said:

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And the anal

You must've been pisssssssed.

In comment 12974549 BMac said:

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...Unfortunately, Joel (my son) is a drooling heroin zombie. On the plus side, he gets lots more social media likes than my neighbor's goody-goody punk son who's always ranting about Communists and Fags taking over the country. Go figure!

I would still take your kid to run a business than some punk-assed little bitch of a college grad, who goes off to his dad to whine about people not liking him.

Is especially enjoyable because the OP thought this was going to be a wife bashing thread, full of Unhappy stories. But only the happily married folks responded. Awesome.

In comment 12974549 BMac said:

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...Unfortunately, Joel (my son) is a drooling heroin zombie. On the plus side, he gets lots more social media likes than my neighbor's goody-goody punk son who's always ranting about Communists and Fags taking over the country. Go figure!

That is not pc. It is the progressives and gays taking over the country.

Sex, sex, sex, it got so monotonous that I had to get married.

She tolerated me.
I wasn't getting any younger.

So why the hell not!

Will be 20 years this fall.

I got lucky in that she also has turned out to TRULY be the most genuinely decent human being I know. Now, that's not to say she isn't a pain in the ass, and truly crazy (see: female) at times! (She'd say the same about me being a PITA ... OK, she'd scream that from a mountaintop. Shut up gidie.)

But despite marriage being a pretty bizarre thing, in general, it turns out she WAS the right one.

Like I said ... pretty damn fortunate here.

In comment 12974659 NJGiantFan84 said:

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Is especially enjoyable because the OP thought this was going to be a wife bashing thread, full of Unhappy stories. But only the happily married folks responded. Awesome.

Well...

Forty five responses (some of which were jokes) and over 3k members, last I checked. So not exactly a ringing endorsement for marriage.

Yeah, I have the worst accountant ever.

In comment 12974691 Beezer said:

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She tolerated me. I wasn't getting any younger. So why the hell not! Will be 20 years this fall. I got lucky in that she also has turned out to TRULY be the most genuinely decent human being I know. Now, that's not to say she isn't a pain in the ass, and truly crazy (see: female) at times! (She'd say the same about me being a PITA ... OK, she'd scream that from a mountaintop. Shut up gidie.) But despite marriage being a pretty bizarre thing, in general, it turns out she WAS the right one. Like I said ... pretty damn fortunate here.

PITA -- we must be talking about Beez -- got to remember to come to the Bing with some flowers for his poor wife and sister

In comment 12974656 RC02XX said:

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In comment 12974549 BMac said: Quote: ...Unfortunately, Joel (my son) is a drooling heroin zombie. On the plus side, he gets lots more social media likes than my neighbor's goody-goody punk son who's always ranting about Communists and Fags taking over the country. Go figure! I would still take your kid to run a business than some punk-assed little bitch of a college grad, who goes off to his dad to whine about people not liking him.

Undoubtedly. Maybe he should join the Corps?

In comment 12974662 Big Al said:

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In comment 12974549 BMac said: Quote: ...Unfortunately, Joel (my son) is a drooling heroin zombie. On the plus side, he gets lots more social media likes than my neighbor's goody-goody punk son who's always ranting about Communists and Fags taking over the country. Go figure! That is not pc. It is the progressives and gays taking over the country.

Well, considering your posting habits in the 90s into the 2000s, I figured you of all people would agree about the Communists.

figured that someday I might get married, but couldn't imagine it really happening. The same night I met my wife my friends said that I was going to marry her. The idea was ludicrous to me.

Within a matter of weeks I looked at a picture we'd posed for on a date that she had in her apartment. She had written on the back of it "the (Dan in the Springs)'s first date". I asked her sister why she was available and she told me that she was actually engaged to two other guys. One was a formal engagement that had happened a couple of years back. He moved away and they drifted apart. Another was not really formal - more like a promise made to one another. He'd moved to Denmark and they were openly dating others. Anyway, I swore her off then and there.

But what I found out quickly was that I couldn't quit her. Even when I lived more than 2000 miles away from her I remained smitten. I didn't want to ever be apart from her. I was young, single, playing around in NYC but didn't feel anything for anyone else but her, so I quit my job and drove out to see her.

I married her months later because I knew how much I hurt being away from her. I always wanted to be with her. I married because I didn't want a life without her.

That was 25 years, five kids, and soon to be (this summer) a grandchild ago. Best thing I ever did was marry her. I just came back home from a several week driving vacation where I was as free as I'd been as a single guy. I actually planned for more time away but cancelled those plans because I still don't like being away from her.

It’s good to hear successful marriage stories though. Nearly all of my friend’s parents from high school are divorced, the friends I had in high school are pretty miserable, some are very happy. Marriage isn’t for everyone and I kind of agree, it shouldn’t be “expected"

How many times do you see on “Facebook” (the be-all and end-all according to Zebrka) when a young(er) couple has been together for 5 years or more years and people comment say “it’s about time!”

…according to who, exactly?

I certainly wasn't opposed to it but I also certainly wasn't looking for it either. I really enjoyed being single and had what I considered a great life. I was content and honestly considered at the time that I may stay a bachelor for the rest of my life. I am pretty particular when it comes to woman and I wasn't going to settle just to "get married". But when I met my wife I knew that she was the one. When you know you just know. We have been happily married for over twenty years now and have two young children. Fortunately she was ten years younger than I because even though I didn't get married until I was in my thirties we waited until I was in my mid forties before we started a family.

It's funny because even though I was what would you could describe as a confirmed bachelor I now live for my family. I retired before my second child was even born and now enjoy spending most of my time being with the family. As happy as I was and as good as I thought my life was prior to getting married it pales in comparison to what I now have. I never could have imagined it being so good.

I think that for myself at least it was best not to be looking for marriage and just have it come to me the way it did. I got to do and accomplish a lot of things in my life as a single man. I will never have any regrets or "what might have been" thoughts. I can truly say I am content and happy and what more could a man ask for in life.

:)

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zero women worthy of marrying in our modern society

In comment 12974459 Mike in Philly said:

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my heart skipped a beat. When I looked in her eyes, the rest of the world faded; the sound of her voice drowned out all other sounds; the touch of her hand took my breath away. We were engaged six weeks after we met, and married six months later. And after 31 1/2 years, on the day she passed, my heart broke, and my world crumbled. And I would do all over again in a heartbeat...

Wow..Thats Beautiful. God Bless...

but most women are awful..

with my wife but I barely knew her as we never had a single class together. She was best friends with my cousins wife and after I moved back to NY after college I was single for about two years. I had several flings but nothing serious. My wife was dating this guy on and off for 4 years. My cousins wife routinely commented to me that she wished I would date her even though she was still in a relationship. My wife had been broken up with her bf for about a month and I met my cousin, his wife, and my wife at a local bar and we had a good time. I didn't feel ready to be in a relationship at the time but she was sweet and beautiful so i gave it a chance. After a couple of months of dating I nearly broke up with my wife because I didn't think she could handle my work schedule and I look back at that moment frequently ever so thankful that I didn't end things. I have two beautiful kids and I genuinely love my wife more today than I did on our wedding day. Our 5 year anniversary is in September and we are the happiest we have ever been. I am thankful that i am smart enough to realize just how lucky I am. We survived losing everything in hurricane sandy despite some really tough times where many couples would have called it quits.

In comment 12974699 Modus Operandi said:

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In comment 12974659 NJGiantFan84 said: Quote: Is especially enjoyable because the OP thought this was going to be a wife bashing thread, full of Unhappy stories. But only the happily married folks responded. Awesome. Well... Forty five responses (some of which were jokes) and over 3k members, last I checked. So not exactly a ringing endorsement for marriage.

Of course, I wasn't trying to imply otherwise and do not think I did. I just found it amusing that those with unhappy stories chose not to respond and those with happy stories chose to respond, while the OP clearly wanted this to be a marriage bashing thread.

so I went with the high maintenance one with expensive taste. Half kidding.

We got married, because we compliment each other so well. She's a a bit OCD, I'm more Eli Manning and relaxed. We make each other better people, and I'm the happiest man on the planet with her by my side.

were together for 10 years before we got married. We were in a committed relationship, owned a house together, etc so we really didn't see the point. Then there was a couple we were friends with who had a similar relationship where the boyfriend tragically died in a construction accident. The girlfriend had no rights in the whole situation because they weren't married. His estranged family swooped in and took control of everything from the funeral arrangements to the child they were raising together. We then realized that society doesn't respect unmarried couples in the same way. You're not considered family.