The girl I'm hanging out with right now took me to a BBQ last weekend and is suggesting plans for the 4th this weekend. I hate making plans so this works out well for me.
I honestly don't care. I can eat pretty much anything at any time. I can't remember the last time I've been "in the mood" for a particular type of food. Our conversations typically go like this:
Me: "Where do you want to eat?"
Her: "I don't care, you pick."
Me: "Ok, how about restaurant A?"
Her: "I don't want to eat there."
Me: "Ok how about restaurant B?"
Her: "Nah I had that type of food 2 weeks ago."
Me: "Ok, how about we go to restaurant C"
Her: "Nope, 14 years ago in a different state I went to one of those places and got food poisoning."
Me: "Ok, why don't you pick?"
Her: "I don't understand why you never make decisions. What is so difficult about picking a restaurant? If you can't pick one, then I will pick one. Lets go to restaurant A."
Me: "Ok. But just to be clear, you are mad at me for not picking a restaurant but yet we are going to the first restaurant I picked?"
Her: "Shut up!"
I honestly don't care. I can eat pretty much anything at any time. I can't remember the last time I've been "in the mood" for a particular type of food. Our conversations typically go like this:
Me: "Where do you want to eat?"
Her: "I don't care, you pick."
Me: "Ok, how about restaurant A?"
Her: "I don't want to eat there."
Me: "Ok how about restaurant B?"
Her: "Nah I had that type of food 2 weeks ago."
Me: "Ok, how about we go to restaurant C"
Her: "Nope, 14 years ago in a different state I went to one of those places and got food poisoning."
Me: "Ok, why don't you pick?"
Her: "I don't understand why you never make decisions. What is so difficult about picking a restaurant? If you can't pick one, then I will pick one. Lets go to restaurant A."
Me: "Ok. But just to be clear, you are mad at me for not picking a restaurant but yet we are going to the first restaurant I picked?"
Her: "Shut up!"
yup
RE: Ugg... I hate deciding where to eat with my wife
I honestly don't care. I can eat pretty much anything at any time. I can't remember the last time I've been "in the mood" for a particular type of food. Our conversations typically go like this:
Me: "Where do you want to eat?"
Her: "I don't care, you pick."
Me: "Ok, how about restaurant A?"
Her: "I don't want to eat there."
Me: "Ok how about restaurant B?"
Her: "Nah I had that type of food 2 weeks ago."
Me: "Ok, how about we go to restaurant C"
Her: "Nope, 14 years ago in a different state I went to one of those places and got food poisoning."
Me: "Ok, why don't you pick?"
Her: "I don't understand why you never make decisions. What is so difficult about picking a restaurant? If you can't pick one, then I will pick one. Lets go to restaurant A."
Me: "Ok. But just to be clear, you are mad at me for not picking a restaurant but yet we are going to the first restaurant I picked?"
Her: "Shut up!"
just so y'all know.... there's SO MANY GUYS like this too!
It's more of a personality/confidence/intelligence thing than a gender thing.
You're right because I can definitely be indecisive. For me it's just personality, though. I'm a low-maintenance dude... bring me wherever and toss me a beer and I'll have a good time. It's definitely not intelligence because I'm like.. smart, man.
Along Came Polly, which was pretty much a typical tedious Ben Stiller romantic comedy other than it introduces the phrase sharted (to me at least) which I try and work into conversations as often as possible and has Jennifer Anniston in her prime.
anyway, it reminds me of the scene where Stiller has IBS or something and hates spicy foods, yet he doesn't want to rock the boat at all and agrees to go to some Afghan restaurant.
When I was single I could order food or make a frozen pizza or a couple of sandwiches for dinner and be just fine. Now? We need salads. Salads validate any meal supposedly.
Being that I am a teacher with a 2 year old, I spend my summers basically taking care of her. Well, lot of nutiness going on, and the chores backed up a little, so I decided to take it all on yesterday.
While I was watching my daughter, I did...
6 loads of laundry, including hers.
Dishes
Cleaned up and vaccumed.
Made the bed.
When my wife got home, I continued to...
Cut the grass, weedwack, and pull weeds.
Then made dinner.
After dinner and clean up, it was after 8 or so. My wife came upstairs yelling at me if I had washed her one shirt. I said yes, and she yelled that it wasnt in a gentle cycle. My response....
Being that I am a teacher with a 2 year old, I spend my summers basically taking care of her. Well, lot of nutiness going on, and the chores backed up a little, so I decided to take it all on yesterday.
While I was watching my daughter, I did...
6 loads of laundry, including hers.
Dishes
Cleaned up and vaccumed.
Made the bed.
When my wife got home, I continued to...
Cut the grass, weedwack, and pull weeds.
Then made dinner.
After dinner and clean up, it was after 8 or so. My wife came upstairs yelling at me if I had washed her one shirt. I said yes, and she yelled that it wasnt in a gentle cycle. My response....
WHAT THE FUCK IS A GENTLE CYCLE!!!!
Lesson learned. Dont do chores.
You have learned a very important marriage/life lesson, to get out of future chores fuck them up.
I left the red shirt in the white laundry one time. Bingo, no more laundry for me.
I used sink dish soap in the dishwasher causing a massive flood, bingo no more dishwasher for me.
I used the wrong cleaner on the granite counter tops, bingo no more cleaning the counters for me.
it's like clockwork.
right now my home responsibilities are limited to the trash, occasional cooking, fixing shit, painting every few years, and all the outdoor stuff. I can live with that.
I have one in particular who has no opinion whatsoever about anything. It's frustrating AF. And I purposely won't make the decision. Either he make a decision as to where or I'm staying home. It's not to be bitchcy but to get him to make a freakin decision. It's not that he's laid back either. It's a definite lack of confidence and making a choice that may have the other person end up unhappy with him.
it's looking to be polite and not to offend/be contrarian.
I've had both male and female friends do this.
I flat out tell anyone who says I don't care that I am absolutely taking that as gospel. if they bitch afterwards, I say tough shit.
No offense, but the Berrylish approach of intentionally not making a decision just to spite the other person is wrong. it's playing head games. It's just two people saying I don't care and not making a decision. If someone says I don't care, believe them and make the decision. they figure out pretty quick to voice their opinion. if they don't stand up for themselves, it's their problem, not mine. but if they do state an opinion, listen.
What do we want? We don't know!
When do we want it? NOW!!!!!!!
After marriage men are not capable of making social plans.
It's a great system, but it works.
I dont care
whatever you want.
Whats the 4th?
No.
Me: "Where do you want to eat?"
Her: "I don't care, you pick."
Me: "Ok, how about restaurant A?"
Her: "I don't want to eat there."
Me: "Ok how about restaurant B?"
Her: "Nah I had that type of food 2 weeks ago."
Me: "Ok, how about we go to restaurant C"
Her: "Nope, 14 years ago in a different state I went to one of those places and got food poisoning."
Me: "Ok, why don't you pick?"
Her: "I don't understand why you never make decisions. What is so difficult about picking a restaurant? If you can't pick one, then I will pick one. Lets go to restaurant A."
Me: "Ok. But just to be clear, you are mad at me for not picking a restaurant but yet we are going to the first restaurant I picked?"
Her: "Shut up!"
-JonC
Me: "Where do you want to eat?"
Her: "I don't care, you pick."
Me: "Ok, how about restaurant A?"
Her: "I don't want to eat there."
Me: "Ok how about restaurant B?"
Her: "Nah I had that type of food 2 weeks ago."
Me: "Ok, how about we go to restaurant C"
Her: "Nope, 14 years ago in a different state I went to one of those places and got food poisoning."
Me: "Ok, why don't you pick?"
Her: "I don't understand why you never make decisions. What is so difficult about picking a restaurant? If you can't pick one, then I will pick one. Lets go to restaurant A."
Me: "Ok. But just to be clear, you are mad at me for not picking a restaurant but yet we are going to the first restaurant I picked?"
Her: "Shut up!"
yup
Me: "Where do you want to eat?"
Her: "I don't care, you pick."
Me: "Ok, how about restaurant A?"
Her: "I don't want to eat there."
Me: "Ok how about restaurant B?"
Her: "Nah I had that type of food 2 weeks ago."
Me: "Ok, how about we go to restaurant C"
Her: "Nope, 14 years ago in a different state I went to one of those places and got food poisoning."
Me: "Ok, why don't you pick?"
Her: "I don't understand why you never make decisions. What is so difficult about picking a restaurant? If you can't pick one, then I will pick one. Lets go to restaurant A."
Me: "Ok. But just to be clear, you are mad at me for not picking a restaurant but yet we are going to the first restaurant I picked?"
Her: "Shut up!"
hahaha 4th response from her is gold!
It's more of a personality/confidence/intelligence thing than a gender thing.
The signs are easy to follow because they are steeped in tradition and history. Make a plan, convey the plan, execute the plan. Game over.
-JonC
If she works out and has a fit body and big fake boobs, put up with it. Otherwise dump her.
--Jon C
It's more of a personality/confidence/intelligence thing than a gender thing.
You're right because I can definitely be indecisive. For me it's just personality, though. I'm a low-maintenance dude... bring me wherever and toss me a beer and I'll have a good time. It's definitely not intelligence because I'm like.. smart, man.
I Don't Know - ( New Window )
anyway, it reminds me of the scene where Stiller has IBS or something and hates spicy foods, yet he doesn't want to rock the boat at all and agrees to go to some Afghan restaurant.
the ensuing scene was pretty funny.
When I was single I could order food or make a frozen pizza or a couple of sandwiches for dinner and be just fine. Now? We need salads. Salads validate any meal supposedly.
Jay Cutler opened up a bar? Who knew?
Quote:
Jay Cutler opened up a bar? Who knew?
lol didn't even think about that
"Do you have a preference for which way we take to get there?"
"No. Doesn't matter to me."
[later, sitting in traffic]
"I don't know why you went this way. I figured you were going to go the other way, so I didn't say anything."
Film at 11:00.
It's more of a personality/confidence/intelligence thing than a gender thing.
Girls ask guys out?
Eh it wasn't a date. Just a hang out with a girl I already knew.
If it is just friends hanging out then I agree with Berrylish, I think I have had as many guy friends reply that way as women have.
While I was watching my daughter, I did...
6 loads of laundry, including hers.
Dishes
Cleaned up and vaccumed.
Made the bed.
When my wife got home, I continued to...
Cut the grass, weedwack, and pull weeds.
Then made dinner.
After dinner and clean up, it was after 8 or so. My wife came upstairs yelling at me if I had washed her one shirt. I said yes, and she yelled that it wasnt in a gentle cycle. My response....
WHAT THE FUCK IS A GENTLE CYCLE!!!!
Lesson learned. Dont do chores.
While I was watching my daughter, I did...
6 loads of laundry, including hers.
Dishes
Cleaned up and vaccumed.
Made the bed.
When my wife got home, I continued to...
Cut the grass, weedwack, and pull weeds.
Then made dinner.
After dinner and clean up, it was after 8 or so. My wife came upstairs yelling at me if I had washed her one shirt. I said yes, and she yelled that it wasnt in a gentle cycle. My response....
WHAT THE FUCK IS A GENTLE CYCLE!!!!
Lesson learned. Dont do chores.
You have learned a very important marriage/life lesson, to get out of future chores fuck them up.
I left the red shirt in the white laundry one time. Bingo, no more laundry for me.
I used sink dish soap in the dishwasher causing a massive flood, bingo no more dishwasher for me.
I used the wrong cleaner on the granite counter tops, bingo no more cleaning the counters for me.
it's like clockwork.
right now my home responsibilities are limited to the trash, occasional cooking, fixing shit, painting every few years, and all the outdoor stuff. I can live with that.
turned 2 on sunday. She is the best but a little terror. Shes tall like daddy and looks like mommy and loves basketball. Good start.
I've had both male and female friends do this.
I flat out tell anyone who says I don't care that I am absolutely taking that as gospel. if they bitch afterwards, I say tough shit.
No offense, but the Berrylish approach of intentionally not making a decision just to spite the other person is wrong. it's playing head games. It's just two people saying I don't care and not making a decision. If someone says I don't care, believe them and make the decision. they figure out pretty quick to voice their opinion. if they don't stand up for themselves, it's their problem, not mine. but if they do state an opinion, listen.