I have a "friend" that is a bit of a "bully / alpha dog" type, always in "sales" mode. His father is an extremely successful man, worth maybe $50 million in total and he never went to college even.
I've known for awhile that he is selfish but we do a lot of things together, including some business, and I allowed thing to go.
But one thing I didn't think he was capable of was stealing. He took some $2,000 worth of items from my home. I don't have footage of him doing it but he was the only person in my home and then BAM things that were there the day before were gone. It happened over TWO occasions. I was hoping I was wrong but I'm not, I just don't have "camera footage" of him taking said items.
So what do I do here? I politely remove him from my life by not bothering to communicate with him. Calling him out won't work as he has already expressed "I don't know ?" to me (bullshit, I read body language and tone). I like his wife and 3 kids and we have many common friends but the entire group overall is something I'm going to move away from and change up my relationships.
I feel good about this decision. In truth, by not setting boundaries, I hurt myself BUT because of the investments in education and business we all made together I was timid in moving on. Now I have the strength to learn from this so this type of thing doesn't happen to me in the future.
If your GUT tells you something is wrong about someone or something, trust it. My GUT is never wrong, I just make the wrong decision to look past things. Lesson learned.
Anyone else have negative people they must remove? How did you do it?
The first day I actually spent real time with him, he came to my house, and asked me if I'd mind if he used my stove to cook his steak. I said sure. He cooked it, ate, and left the pan and a grease mess as he didn't cover the pan up. I was just stunned when he left without consideration. That same day, he wanted to try some goji berries that I had as he had never ate them before.
He ate the whole $10 bag. I didn't even realize as we were going back n forth on things. He is ADD, Selfish and is always in "sales" mode (aka not real) and I knew it but looked past it as I also saw someone I could work out with; learn from; travel with to conferences; hang with at times (I'm new to the area I live in) and so forth. A mistake I will never make again!
If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck and swims like a duck it is a fucking DUCK. Period.
Fatman in Charlotte can attest to my attitude about a "friend" who stiffs you on a loan and refuses to be accountable for something you both openly know he took. That person is a friendship-killing lowlife.
Someone who actually steals from you? DEAD TO ME, and no need for being polite about it.
Shake the dust from your feet.
Fatman in Charlotte can attest to my attitude about a "friend" who stiffs you on a loan and refuses to be accountable for something you both openly know he took. That person is a friendship-killing lowlife.
Someone who actually steals from you? DEAD TO ME, and no need for being polite about it.
Shake the dust from your feet.
Just venting and seeing how others have handled.
[quote] I would absolutely do this. File a police report. Be extremely detailed about what was taken. You need to get this out there now.
Then, you can let the cops know of your situation and they can drop by his place without notice. You may get lucky.
You can just tell the guy that the cops wanted a list of people who have been to the home during that time and they took it upon themselves to go over there.
Meanwhile, check craigslist and ebay for the stuff you are missing. He is going to unload it somewhere. [/quote
Good idea
Just make the break complete and final. I wouldn't even tell other friends privately, unless it's someone you absolutely trust 100%.
suggestive hypnosis?? really?
good luck in your career of peddling pseudo science horseshit to marks
The first step is admitting it.
Seems sort of a fail on both ends there.
This is an appropriate comment, since you've stolen my line :(
$1200 in medication is no joke. But if this is all hearsay based on your read of his body language, then perhaps you need to consider whether or not you're connecting dots that aren't there. Weigh all possible scenarios against the one you believe to be true. Then, even if you still conclude that him stealing is the most likely scenario, you have to consider whether or not "the field" of other possibilities has a greater likelihood of occurring than him being a thief.
You said yourself he never stole from you. Think it through... really think it through.
Then when you've done so, if you still think he stole your medication... call the police.
Mind..........
Blown! BOOM!
Fatman in Charlotte can attest to my attitude about a "friend" who stiffs you on a loan and refuses to be accountable for something you both openly know he took. That person is a friendship-killing lowlife.
Someone who actually steals from you? DEAD TO ME, and no need for being polite about it.
Shake the dust from your feet.
Maybe give him a chance to explain because he doesn't have any proof it was this guy who stole the stuff.
No one likes to be falsely accused of something and it makes you look like an ass.
My point: his dad is tough, doesn't believe in just giving money to kids but rather seeing them earn it. Old school.
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Fuck that to even giving them an opportunity to explain. I'd regard any attempt at explanation by them as sociopath bullshit. Stealing alone is the line that was crossed, from which there is no return.
Fatman in Charlotte can attest to my attitude about a "friend" who stiffs you on a loan and refuses to be accountable for something you both openly know he took. That person is a friendship-killing lowlife.
Someone who actually steals from you? DEAD TO ME, and no need for being polite about it.
Shake the dust from your feet.
Maybe give him a chance to explain because he doesn't have any proof it was this guy who stole the stuff.
No one likes to be falsely accused of something and it makes you look like an ass.
I let my guard down, not paying attention, because I didn't think I'd ever need to.
So there's a silver lining in every cloud...
So there's a silver lining in every cloud...
Behind every BBI post, there is a flucking cry baby.
So there's a silver lining in every cloud...
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I would've figured somebody dealing with Low-T might end up crying like a bitch.
So there's a silver lining in every cloud...
Behind every BBI post, there is a flucking cry baby.
I know a guy from Bayonne NJ who got busted for dealing steroids. It isn't something police really generally look for really. EVERY SINGLE MAJOR BODYBUILDER uses steroids. You don't get and stay that big naturally no matter what bullshit people may try to sell you that they are natural and all that.
The guy from Bayonne, he did some time. But the funnier part is where he said "the police report had everything they found EXCEPT the $30K in cash I had" - the cops stole the money. I thought that was funny and criminal at the same time. I get why people steal, cop or not, but if these cops were caught they'd get in a heck of a lot of trouble. Risk.
If he falls to police, it won't be by my hand.
My whole thing: trust my gut, trust your gut. Our instincts, our unconscious internal clock, is almost always right about things. BUT, without footage or directly line of sight "saw you do it" I am only 99% certain he did it. God has a funny way of surprising you and I am not going to challenge him without 100% surety less I make an ass of myself.
Are you saying you do that to non family
Unfortunately, through bad investments by the CEO the company was unable to pay any of their employees for the final 2 months. After the first month, my "friend" jumped ship and found another position. I stuck around for another month because of those stock options and HR promised to double that amount as payment, if a foreign investors came in and were close to saving the company.
At the end, when finally they announced the company went bankrupt, the office became a free fall all on what employees could take with them to recoup their cost of lost wages. Being in IT, I had access to 10 laptops. I told my buddy, who had a new baby on the way, as a payment for helping me land the job and our friendship over that time that we should split any profit we made on these computers.
I found a Computer Trade Show in NJ, that you paid $10 to get in but had access to below market prices on any computer parts, accessories and also you could walk around to all the different vendors and sell them stuff too.
Day of the event, I picked up my friend and had all 10 laptops with me. He bought a 15" monitor with him, that I knew he took from the office before he left. I re-enforced with him that whatever we make, we split evenly 50/50 and we shook hands on it. We spent about 2-3 hours walking around and negotiating with different vendors about the pricing on these laptops and sold them all around noon and I drove him back to his house.
As I pulled into his driveway to split the money, we split the money evenly. Except he pocketed $50 extra for the monitor he bought along. I ask him that didn't we agree to split everything 50/50 but he then replied that the monitor was his. So I bought 10 laptops to the table and he bought 1 monitor but he kept on claiming that $50 monitor was his. I didn't even need to include him but did so because of our friendship and the month long salary he didn't get a chance to recoup with a new born baby at home. Yet this guy wanted to pocket $50 over the two grand I just gave him for the laptops we split evenly. I was beyond shocked.
I completely cut him out of my life and have maybe seen him casually twice in 15 years at group events with shared friends of ours. In the end I chalked this up to a life lesson I learned in my early 20s, that this guy wanted to put $50 over our friendship.
Unfortunately, through bad investments by the CEO the company was unable to pay any of their employees for the final 2 months. After the first month, my "friend" jumped ship and found another position. I stuck around for another month because of those stock options and HR promised to double that amount as payment, if a foreign investors came in and were close to saving the company.
At the end, when finally they announced the company went bankrupt, the office became a free fall all on what employees could take with them to recoup their cost of lost wages. Being in IT, I had access to 10 laptops. I told my buddy, who had a new baby on the way, as a payment for helping me land the job and our friendship over that time that we should split any profit we made on these computers.
I found a Computer Trade Show in NJ, that you paid $10 to get in but had access to below market prices on any computer parts, accessories and also you could walk around to all the different vendors and sell them stuff too.
Day of the event, I picked up my friend and had all 10 laptops with me. He bought a 15" monitor with him, that I knew he took from the office before he left. I re-enforced with him that whatever we make, we split evenly 50/50 and we shook hands on it. We spent about 2-3 hours walking around and negotiating with different vendors about the pricing on these laptops and sold them all around noon and I drove him back to his house.
As I pulled into his driveway to split the money, we split the money evenly. Except he pocketed $50 extra for the monitor he bought along. I ask him that didn't we agree to split everything 50/50 but he then replied that the monitor was his. So I bought 10 laptops to the table and he bought 1 monitor but he kept on claiming that $50 monitor was his. I didn't even need to include him but did so because of our friendship and the month long salary he didn't get a chance to recoup with a new born baby at home. Yet this guy wanted to pocket $50 over the two grand I just gave him for the laptops we split evenly. I was beyond shocked.
I completely cut him out of my life and have maybe seen him casually twice in 15 years at group events with shared friends of ours. In the end I chalked this up to a life lesson I learned in my early 20s, that this guy wanted to put $50 over our friendship.
Unfortunately, through bad investments by the CEO the company was unable to pay any of their employees for the final 2 months. After the first month, my "friend" jumped ship and found another position. I stuck around for another month because of those stock options and HR promised to double that amount as payment, if a foreign investors came in and were close to saving the company.
At the end, when finally they announced the company went bankrupt, the office became a free fall all on what employees could take with them to recoup their cost of lost wages. Being in IT, I had access to 10 laptops. I told my buddy, who had a new baby on the way, as a payment for helping me land the job and our friendship over that time that we should split any profit we made on these computers.
I found a Computer Trade Show in NJ, that you paid $10 to get in but had access to below market prices on any computer parts, accessories and also you could walk around to all the different vendors and sell them stuff too.
Day of the event, I picked up my friend and had all 10 laptops with me. He bought a 15" monitor with him, that I knew he took from the office before he left. I re-enforced with him that whatever we make, we split evenly 50/50 and we shook hands on it. We spent about 2-3 hours walking around and negotiating with different vendors about the pricing on these laptops and sold them all around noon and I drove him back to his house.
As I pulled into his driveway to split the money, we split the money evenly. Except he pocketed $50 extra for the monitor he bought along. I ask him that didn't we agree to split everything 50/50 but he then replied that the monitor was his. So I bought 10 laptops to the table and he bought 1 monitor but he kept on claiming that $50 monitor was his. I didn't even need to include him but did so because of our friendship and the month long salary he didn't get a chance to recoup with a new born baby at home. Yet this guy wanted to pocket $50 over the two grand I just gave him for the laptops we split evenly. I was beyond shocked.
I completely cut him out of my life and have maybe seen him casually twice in 15 years at group events with shared friends of ours. In the end I chalked this up to a life lesson I learned in my early 20s, that this guy wanted to put $50 over our friendship.
Age impacts testosterone too, of course.
I knew this guy was selfish and about him, even his own brother who is a great guy "warned" me he is a bit of a bully and a prima donna. But I have to say I did not see stealing as one of his faults.
The moral of the story is to LEARN from this situation and share with others so they maybe take a moment to consider their own lives. We all have struggles; we all have people in our lives who don't live up to unconscious expectations. You figure if you are a good guy, helpful to others they'd return with similar behavior but they don't.
That is life 101.
For those with liver and bloodwork issues, glutathione will regenerate and restore like nothing else.
The huge jump in development between Arnold and say Dorian Yates was the introduction of HGH.
The huge jump in development between Arnold and say Dorian Yates was the introduction of HGH.
Most men over 45 will have low testosterone due to the toxins in today's environment. This is a statistical fact, especially when you compare to the testosterone levels of men 40 years ago or more. Testosterone, injectable, is good for you in ths case...
Jesus H Christ
I think those positions might be two rungs below a Nigerian scammer.
Unfortunately in society some do not learn their lesson and want to see the good in others that does not exist and then allow them to rent parking space in their head hoping they will change. Don't be that guy...move on and focus on more positive people and things.