I have a "friend" that is a bit of a "bully / alpha dog" type, always in "sales" mode. His father is an extremely successful man, worth maybe $50 million in total and he never went to college even.
I've known for awhile that he is selfish but we do a lot of things together, including some business, and I allowed thing to go.
But one thing I didn't think he was capable of was stealing. He took some $2,000 worth of items from my home. I don't have footage of him doing it but he was the only person in my home and then BAM things that were there the day before were gone. It happened over TWO occasions. I was hoping I was wrong but I'm not, I just don't have "camera footage" of him taking said items.
So what do I do here? I politely remove him from my life by not bothering to communicate with him. Calling him out won't work as he has already expressed "I don't know ?" to me (bullshit, I read body language and tone). I like his wife and 3 kids and we have many common friends but the entire group overall is something I'm going to move away from and change up my relationships.
I feel good about this decision. In truth, by not setting boundaries, I hurt myself BUT because of the investments in education and business we all made together I was timid in moving on. Now I have the strength to learn from this so this type of thing doesn't happen to me in the future.
If your GUT tells you something is wrong about someone or something, trust it. My GUT is never wrong, I just make the wrong decision to look past things. Lesson learned.
Anyone else have negative people they must remove? How did you do it?
Once he does that, say "I accept your apology" and shoot him in the head at point blank range....
If there is anyway to secure your property or not let the sick fuck out of your sight maybe...
Else, move on slowly but surely. Don't bother leaking that the guy's a thief. It will come back to haunt you.
Once he does that, say "I accept your apology" and shoot him in the head at point blank range....
LOL! My wife and I just saw that last night!
You should do what you believe is the right thing for you. Don't worry about your 'friends' feelings. Apparently, he's used to marching to the beat of his own drummer. If you can just wash your hands and move-on, you should do that. If you feel you need closure by presenting your belief to the guy and put a nail in the coffin of your friendship, you should do that. I've had experiences with both options for different reasons and in different stages of my life. There's no right answer, it's about your ability to have closure.
Then, you can let the cops know of your situation and they can drop by his place without notice. You may get lucky.
You can just tell the guy that the cops wanted a list of people who have been to the home during that time and they took it upon themselves to go over there.
Meanwhile, check craigslist and ebay for the stuff you are missing. He is going to unload it somewhere.
Once he does that, say "I accept your apology" and shoot him in the head at point blank range....
Time for me to move on, cut bait, and even our group of friends that travel together to events and take some educational classes together (Neuro Linguistic Programming class, Hypnosis class, Entrepreneurial classes, etc., well I'm just going to move on from that "world" as it hasn't blessed me).
It was a class, 6 weekend days over 3 months plus a simple final exam.
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might help with my reply.
$1200 worth of prescriptions was the big one. Glutathione which isn't covered by insurance.
two options - one confrontational - but succinct and explanatory - gives closure and the other more passive.
1. Confront him and see his response and explain you want nothing to do with him, and see what he has to say for himself
2. just don't return any communications (texts, calls, etc. and don't allow him in your house) and don't include him in any gatherings. He'll get the hint. People drift apart all the time.
I'd do #1, but if you like to avoid confrontation #2 also works. With #2 though he may not know that you know and things could be weird for a while, but eventually he'll get the hint.
I found some much better friends
I found some much better friends
So he cut you out of his life (gin)
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might help with my reply.
$1200 worth of prescriptions was the big one. Glutathione which isn't covered by insurance.
two options - one confrontational - but succinct and explanatory - gives closure and the other more passive.
1. Confront him and see his response and explain you want nothing to do with him, and see what he has to say for himself
2. just don't return any communications (texts, calls, etc. and don't allow him in your house) and don't include him in any gatherings. He'll get the hint. People drift apart all the time.
I'd do #1, but if you like to avoid confrontation #2 also works. With #2 though he may not know that you know and things could be weird for a while, but eventually he'll get the hint.
Then, you can let the cops know of your situation and they can drop by his place without notice. You may get lucky.
You can just tell the guy that the cops wanted a list of people who have been to the home during that time and they took it upon themselves to go over there.
Meanwhile, check craigslist and ebay for the stuff you are missing. He is going to unload it somewhere.
The guy deal steroids for a living. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't used some though not to the level he does. I have an Rx for testosterone, legit, but he took the bag with that in it as well. My point is that in all honesty I'm not totally clean here and don't need the trouble / headaches.
The first day I actually spent real time with him, he came to my house, and asked me if I'd mind if he used my stove to cook his steak. I said sure. He cooked it, ate, and left the pan and a grease mess as he didn't cover the pan up. I was just stunned when he left without consideration. That same day, he wanted to try some goji berries that I had as he had never ate them before.
He ate the whole $10 bag. I didn't even realize as we were going back n forth on things. He is ADD, Selfish and is always in "sales" mode (aka not real) and I knew it but looked past it as I also saw someone I could work out with; learn from; travel with to conferences; hang with at times (I'm new to the area I live in) and so forth. A mistake I will never make again!
If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck and swims like a duck it is a fucking DUCK. Period.
Fatman in Charlotte can attest to my attitude about a "friend" who stiffs you on a loan and refuses to be accountable for something you both openly know he took. That person is a friendship-killing lowlife.
Someone who actually steals from you? DEAD TO ME, and no need for being polite about it.
Shake the dust from your feet.
Fatman in Charlotte can attest to my attitude about a "friend" who stiffs you on a loan and refuses to be accountable for something you both openly know he took. That person is a friendship-killing lowlife.
Someone who actually steals from you? DEAD TO ME, and no need for being polite about it.
Shake the dust from your feet.
Just venting and seeing how others have handled.
[quote] I would absolutely do this. File a police report. Be extremely detailed about what was taken. You need to get this out there now.
Then, you can let the cops know of your situation and they can drop by his place without notice. You may get lucky.
You can just tell the guy that the cops wanted a list of people who have been to the home during that time and they took it upon themselves to go over there.
Meanwhile, check craigslist and ebay for the stuff you are missing. He is going to unload it somewhere. [/quote
Good idea
Just make the break complete and final. I wouldn't even tell other friends privately, unless it's someone you absolutely trust 100%.
suggestive hypnosis?? really?
good luck in your career of peddling pseudo science horseshit to marks
The first step is admitting it.
Seems sort of a fail on both ends there.
This is an appropriate comment, since you've stolen my line :(
$1200 in medication is no joke. But if this is all hearsay based on your read of his body language, then perhaps you need to consider whether or not you're connecting dots that aren't there. Weigh all possible scenarios against the one you believe to be true. Then, even if you still conclude that him stealing is the most likely scenario, you have to consider whether or not "the field" of other possibilities has a greater likelihood of occurring than him being a thief.
You said yourself he never stole from you. Think it through... really think it through.
Then when you've done so, if you still think he stole your medication... call the police.
Mind..........
Blown! BOOM!
Fatman in Charlotte can attest to my attitude about a "friend" who stiffs you on a loan and refuses to be accountable for something you both openly know he took. That person is a friendship-killing lowlife.
Someone who actually steals from you? DEAD TO ME, and no need for being polite about it.
Shake the dust from your feet.
Maybe give him a chance to explain because he doesn't have any proof it was this guy who stole the stuff.
No one likes to be falsely accused of something and it makes you look like an ass.
My point: his dad is tough, doesn't believe in just giving money to kids but rather seeing them earn it. Old school.
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Fuck that to even giving them an opportunity to explain. I'd regard any attempt at explanation by them as sociopath bullshit. Stealing alone is the line that was crossed, from which there is no return.
Fatman in Charlotte can attest to my attitude about a "friend" who stiffs you on a loan and refuses to be accountable for something you both openly know he took. That person is a friendship-killing lowlife.
Someone who actually steals from you? DEAD TO ME, and no need for being polite about it.
Shake the dust from your feet.
Maybe give him a chance to explain because he doesn't have any proof it was this guy who stole the stuff.
No one likes to be falsely accused of something and it makes you look like an ass.
I let my guard down, not paying attention, because I didn't think I'd ever need to.
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