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NFT: Poker Etiquette - Opinions from Poker players requested

allstarjim : 1/21/2017 1:22 am
I'm a member of a couple of private organizations that have social club aspects to them. Every Friday, one of them has a Texas Hold 'Em tournament. I have never attended one of these tournaments before but am a fairly seasoned Hold 'Em player and very familiar with tournament play.

Buy-in was $20 with a optional re-buy of $20. So here's the issue...

We're playing, and the table is very loose (making a lot of huge bets with marginal hands). So I'm biding my time, trying to be very patient, where I can trap a player. As the night goes on, and as other players overplay their hands, people start going out. A few people go out and I ask the player next to me how many players does it pay out to? And he tells me 1st and 2nd. We started with about 9 players.

I went out and re-bought, as I felt like I was playing good poker but had a bit of bad luck. At this point I am trying to survive as the table is whittling down, but I was not in a good position and the leaders had enormous chip stacks comparatively. At about 9:30, someone says that another player needs to increase pace of play because there is only a half-hour left. We started a bit after 7:00, with blinds raising every half-hour. I was curious about this remark so I said to the same guy next to me, "what is he talking about?" Guy says the game always ends at 10:00pm, and whoever is first and second in chips are the winners.

This revelation has me super-pissed. I'm a small-stack, playing very patiently trying to pick spots all night long. I survived until there was just 4 players left... and towards the end I doubled my stack about 3 times in a row, to the point I was now a threat with my chip count. But 10:00pm hit, and that supposedly means I just forfeited my $40 because at that moment in time, I was not first or second in chip count.

I made it known that I don't have anywhere to be, and I don't feel that it's fair at all that I automatically forfeit my buy-in when I'm still in the game with chips in front of me, and am more than happy to continue playing down to 2 or to a winner, as was my understanding based on EVERY OTHER FUCKING POKER TOURNAMENT I HAVE EVER PLAYED.

My point was that big stacks can simply slow play to run the clock out, and this would be a natural strategy, and not in the interest of fair play. My point also was that without any disclosure, that if the game is to stop at a certain time, then the pot should be divided among the remaining players proportionately to their chip counts.

I still feel that it is theivery to take people's money as winnings in a Hold 'Em tournament that you did not win, when they still have chips in front of them.

I was fine with ending the game, but that in doing so, the chips in front of me represent some share of the money posted, and certainly represented more than my share of the money I posted.

I was told I could get my money back, which I accepted as a compromise, even though I was certain that my play and chips in front of me was worth more than the $40 posted. The players conceded that I should have been told that this is how they play and how they do things prior to the game... which I agreed with... such a disclosure absolutely would've affected my strategy as well as my decision to even participate in or re-buy back into the tournament.

But the big stack actually said, "you can have your money back, but don't come back." He later apologized. Another player questioned my integrity, and the way I played at the end, insinuating that I was somehow "taking advantage." Taking advantage of what? Taking advantage of being railroaded with some arbitrary cut-off time and forfeiting my buy-in when I'm still very much in the game? At this point, I stood up ready to fight that guy, and said, "what do you have to say about it?" Which a couple of guys jumped in and said that isn't going to happen... and everybody calmed down. So at the end, I received no apology. Nor did I offer any, even though I felt I shouldn't have provoked a fight (despite my integrity being questioned).

One of the guys came over to me after to tell me again they should've told me how the game was, and that they won't ever make that mistake again. I said I felt like I was caught in between being a douchebag about it or rolling over and conceding something that I didn't feel was ethically right.

Question... what is your opinions on my complaint? If you were in that position, would you have rolled over and took it, or said something like I did?

Am I justified in taking my money back? I'm sure the chip leaders felt I cheated them out of some of their winnings. Thoughts?
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That's a bullshit way to run a poker game  
Ben in Tampa : 1/21/2017 1:36 am : link
But that seems like a lot of drama for $40
Agreed  
allstarjim : 1/21/2017 1:43 am : link
but it's the point of it. Felt like I was being wronged, and it wouldn't have mattered if it was $10.
Thoughts  
Furman : 1/21/2017 1:54 am : link
If you know going in that you're only going to play for three hours, you either should be playing a cash game or re-buys should not be allowed. You should never have a home-game that encourages people to play stupid. When everyone is overly aggressive (in the beginning), it's not fun, and when everyone is overly conservative (at the end), it's not fun. And in both cases, ceases to be poker.

I get the time limit, but it should really be up to the players left in the game. In my home games, if it got late, the final group would just chop the pot, regardless of chip count. But we never kicked anyone out at a certain time... the blinds would eventually force the action.
Thanks  
allstarjim : 1/21/2017 2:07 am : link
Furman those were my thoughts.

I told the guy that came up to me and talked with me at the end that the way to solve it is to pay out remaining players in proportion, or even better is to raise blinds more often. 16000 in chips and we're starting off with 50 and 100 blinds, which raise only every half-hour... I mean, more than half way through we're still playing 200-400 blinds. I couldn't believe the way guys were betting, too. Betting enormous pots with two-pair, and flush and straight draws on the board. Sometimes making huge bets with multiple players, and all they had was small pair. I thought, "what kind of game did I go into?"

And yes,  
allstarjim : 1/21/2017 2:08 am : link
I have split pots before regardless of chip count. Just because you are chip-leader at that moment doesn't mean squat when there would've been a lot more poker to play.
not to be a dick  
Boatie Warrant : 1/21/2017 2:20 am : link
but you started playing a game without knowing all the rules. Thats on you all day. never get into a game of chance without knowing all the rules, especially house rules.

The rules for this game sound dumb to me but maybe not to them becuase they got stuff to do on Saturdays. Always know the rules of any game you play. Be thankful you learned this lesson on the cheap.
Understand your point  
allstarjim : 1/21/2017 2:29 am : link
I assumed a tournament was a tournament. Still losing me on how people with chips in front of them get cut out of the kitty at the end. Regardless of any rules, that doesn't seem ethical from a fair play stand point.
How people with chips in front of them lose?  
manh george : 1/21/2017 2:45 am : link
This seems kind of easy. It's called, "Whomever has the top two stacks when time runs out shares the pot."

There isn't anything unfair, except that someone should have told you what the house rules were. Or you should have asked.

I have heard before of games that were played to a time limit, like that one was.
Just to reinforce the point, I've played plenty of games/tourneys  
glowrider : 1/21/2017 4:12 am : link
That were rime restrained rather than playing to a showdown.

Unfortunate you didn't know the rules going in, but as much as I'd like to say it's in the host, and it is, it's also in you for entering a tourney without knowing the parameters. Sorry for your misfortune.
There's a sucker born every minute...  
Torrag : 1/21/2017 4:14 am : link
If you sat down to a cash game without knowing the house rules that's your problem. Consider the $40 bucks you lost an educational expense. You won't make that mistake twice.
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I am Ninja : 1/21/2017 3:42 am : link
Youre playing with a bunch of hacks at the Elks club. What are you expecting? Move on.
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I am Ninja : 1/21/2017 3:48 am : link
Youre playing with a bunch of hacks at the Elks club. What are you expecting? Move on. But taking your buy in back is weak weak weak.
I don't think it's allstarjam's responsibility...  
Milton : 1/21/2017 3:50 am : link
...to ask about a rule that is not the custom in any official tournament. I don't play in enough friendly tournaments to know what's customary and what isn't, but the one I do play in doesn't have a cut-off point (if it's getting late, the players who are left decide it amongst themselves). And it's not unusual to hang back in a tournament (especially if you're off to a slow start) waiting for the others to knock each out while playing for a second place finish.

I think it's the responsibility of the person hosting the tournament to inform anyone new to the game of any arbitrary rules that are their custom. That being said, allstarjam didn't even ask how many players finished in the money before the game began so that shows a certain degree of nonchalance/negligence on his part. If he had asked the group before the start of the game how the money would be distributed, he might've be told about the cut-off time as well.
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I am Ninja : 1/21/2017 3:42 am : link
Youre playing with a bunch of hacks at the Elks club. What are you expecting? Move on.
There's a sucker born every minute...  
Torrag : 1/21/2017 4:06 am : link
...if you sat down to a cash game without knowing the house rules it's all on you pal. The $40 you lost was worth the education you got.
I don't think it's allstarjam  
Milton : 1/21/2017 3:31 am : link
I don't think it's his responsibility to ask about a
I don't think it's allstarjam's responsibility...  
Milton : 1/21/2017 3:42 am : link
...to ask about a rule that is not the custom in any official tournament. I don't play in enough friendly tournaments to know what's customary and what isn't, but the one I do play in doesn't have a cut-off point (if it's getting late, the players who are left decide it amongst themselves). And it's not unusual to hang back in a tournament (especially if you're off to a slow start) waiting for the others to knock each out while playing for a second place finish.

I think it's the responsibility of the person hosting the tournament to inform anyone new to the game of any arbitrary rules that are their custom. That being said, allstarjam didn't even ask how many players finished in the money before the game began so that shows a certain degree of nonchalance/negligence on his part. If he had asked the group before the start of the game how the money would be distributed, he might've be told about the cut-off time as well.
There's a sucker born every minute...  
Torrag : 1/21/2017 4:10 am : link
If you sat down to a cash game without knowing the house rules that's your problem. Consider the $40 bucks you lost an educational expense. You won't make that mistake twice. Frankly your lucky you were playing for chump change Mr. High Roller. LOL.
There's a sucker born every minute...  
Torrag : 1/21/2017 4:06 am : link
...if you sat down to a cash game without knowing the house rules it's all on you pal. The $40 you lost was worth the education you got.
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I am Ninja : 1/21/2017 3:47 am : link
Youre playing with a bunch of hacks at the Elks club. What are you expecting? Move on. But taking your buy in back is weak weak weak.
The 3 AM post not seeming to go through thing eh?  
adamg : 1/21/2017 5:53 am : link
Makes you guys sound a little nutty.

And on topic: that's just a shitty situation. Don't let it color the idea of going back. Just let it be a teachable moment.
Look at it as a lose the battle, win the war scenario  
mfsd : 1/21/2017 6:02 am : link
OK maybe you got screwed a bit and would have played differently had you known...and maybe you should have gotten the rules upfront

But by being agreeable about it, you now know you can go back on future fridays and likely win back your $40 and plenty more from a table of less experienced players
I think you have a right to be frustrated  
bigbluehoya : 1/21/2017 7:40 am : link
Based on the circumstances, it sounds like everyone knew the rules but you, and that there was an oversight in fully disclosing them to you. To me it doesn't sound intentional, so I'd be hesitant to refer to it in ethical terms. No one tried to get one over on you. Just a shitty situation.

If it were me -- now that I know the rules of the game, it doesn't sound like a game I want to play in again, but I also wouldn't want to damage my relationship with the guys. I'd have probably bit my tongue for the $20 (or $40 since you re-bought) and let myself cool off at home, especially before escalating anything like a physical altercation (though it doesn't sound like you came all that close to that).
Those rules are BS  
ZogZerg : 1/21/2017 7:54 am : link
If it has to end at 10pm, then you split the winnings with everyone left. Or, you keep playing.
You did the right thing  
JerebilJ : 1/21/2017 8:22 am : link
That is not how you run a poker tournament. They should either increase the blind structure such that the tournament ends in 2-3 hours, or run a cash game. That is an unethical way to run a tournament and if I were you, I'd never play it again.
If they were raising the blinds  
HBart : 1/21/2017 8:35 am : link
As every tourney I've ever played in does, any set time limit is a non issue.

If they didn't do that or say there was a time limit, I'd be peeved. I'd have try to handle it with humor with the home of getting my money back. Sounds like you did.

I got my lunch eaten in a non hold-em game because of a time limit and screwy rebuy rules. Came to learn afterwards that they invite one good player as a guest each month and fuck them with the screwy re-buy. I said with a smile after we were done "when you described the re-buy rule I looked around the table and then it hit me - the sucker was me - very crafty!". They laughed knowingly. We all knew I was there to contribute $100 and if I came back some other guy would be.

It's a game.
I don't buy the sucker argument  
UConn4523 : 1/21/2017 9:50 am : link
the logical thing to do is be a decent person and at the bare minimum give back the $40 with the understanding that both sides could have done a bit better in the situation to ask/tell the rules.

As a side if blinds don't raise high enough or fast enough to be in line with the chip volume in an X hour time limit, there's no point in limiting the time at all.
Thanks for the opinions.  
allstarjim : 1/21/2017 9:56 am : link
It was not at the Elks, but I've played at the Elks and I know some little old ladies that play every week,that would've eaten these guys' lunch at the table. There are some seriously good old farts playing at my local Elks, and they run a fair game with no b.s. rules.
You got hosed  
pjcas18 : 1/21/2017 10:01 am : link
but whatever. Now you know. they shouldn't allow rebuys in a less than 3 hour game either (depending on how many people involved). I'm not a big fan of re-buys anyway.

You'd think someone may have mentioned the 10pm hard stop and top 2 payout when you bought back in. that had to be after 8 or so right? if you were playing well but had back luck what time was it when you bought back in?

no one thought to say "you know the game ends in an hour or an hour and a half?"

Much ado about nuthin  
gidiefor : Mod : 1/21/2017 10:03 am : link
imo -- you do have to ask about the rules when you hit a new venue -- and accept the house rules - especially at your own club for pete's sake

RE: I don't buy the sucker argument  
allstarjim : 1/21/2017 10:03 am : link
In comment 13334742 UConn4523 said:
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the logical thing to do is be a decent person and at the bare minimum give back the $40 with the understanding that both sides could have done a bit better in the situation to ask/tell the rules.

As a side if blinds don't raise high enough or fast enough to be in line with the chip volume in an X hour time limit, there's no point in limiting the time at all.


I'm a decent person, I stand up for what I think is right. I don't think not paying out to remaining players at an undisclosed time limit is ethical. Appreciate your viewpoint. As a decent person, I would let players know the rules going in if they were so radically different than typical tournament play. That's not a tourney I will play in with rules like that again. As previous poster stated, it encourages poor play and ceases to become poker.
Just be glad it wasn't strip poker.  
Sarcastic Sam : 1/21/2017 10:16 am : link
Or.. be glad that it was, maybe.
My post was in agreement with you  
UConn4523 : 1/21/2017 10:17 am : link
I think it's unethical but there's an argument to also be made about asking the official rules. That's why I think the middle ground is your money back and a lesson learned for both sides.
Perfect response  
steve in ky : 1/21/2017 10:34 am : link
Quote:
That's a bullshit way to run a poker game
Ben in Tampa : 1:36 am : link : reply
But that seems like a lot of drama for $40
I am more interested in these  
bhill410 : 1/21/2017 10:38 am : link
Private clubs you seem to frequent on such a regular basis

Also it's 40 bucks dude, now you are known as that guy
I get the frustration, anger, etc  
Taggart : 1/21/2017 10:41 am : link
But you kind of lost me at "you stood up ready to fight". Holy crap man. You got snookered for $40. You're gonna rumble over that? What are you an eagles fan?
Your reaction was pretty bad  
Patrick77 : 1/21/2017 10:43 am : link
You didn't know the rules which is on you in pretty much any situation in life.
RE: There's a sucker born every minute...  
Beer Man : 1/21/2017 11:01 am : link
In comment 13334674 Torrag said:
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If you sat down to a cash game without knowing the house rules that's your problem. Consider the $40 bucks you lost an educational expense. You won't make that mistake twice. Frankly your lucky you were playing for chump change Mr. High Roller. LOL.
LOL
Rules should be crystal clear  
mavric : 1/21/2017 11:06 am : link
before any newcomer comes to the table - period.

I hate the many different rules bars have for playing pool - "money breaks"...no "winner breaks"..."no dirty pool" or "anything goes"..."must hit the 8 ball or lose"..."ball cannot leave the table or automatic loss - including jump shot", etc.

I tell every owner of a bar to "POST THE RULES ON THE WALL". Oh well, got that off my chest.
Its not just $40  
mdthedream : 1/21/2017 11:10 am : link
It is also 3 hours.
You're both wrong  
AcesUp : 1/21/2017 11:29 am : link
It's a bullshit way to run the tourney and they should have told you upfront. However, it's a friendly ham and egger social club game. These guys are just blowing off steam and trying to have fun for a few hours. They weren't hustling you, just ignorant to how that may affect play. It's not the cleanest analogy, because there is money involved, but it's sort of like counting every penalty stroke in a friendly golf match or calling every foul in a pickup game. Maybe comment on it and suggest a new structure for next time, even that's a maybe based on how involved you are in the group. You just leave it.
40 bucks....  
Joey from GlenCove : 1/21/2017 11:35 am : link
I'm sure if you went to a bar for 3 hours you would have spent more.

On you for not knowing albeit terrible rules.

It should just be a cash game.
Enough blame to go around.  
Crispino : 1/21/2017 11:57 am : link
They should have told you, but coming into a new game, you should ask. I also don't think nearly getting into a fistfight about it did you any good.
RE: I get the frustration, anger, etc  
allstarjim : 1/21/2017 11:59 am : link
In comment 13334775 Taggart said:
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But you kind of lost me at "you stood up ready to fight". Holy crap man. You got snookered for $40. You're gonna rumble over that? What are you an eagles fan?


No, the dude questioned my integrity like I was being sneaky or something. That had nothing to do with the money. I wouldn't fight over money, but question my integrity... that's where I have a problem.
And that's not the point, anyway  
allstarjim : 1/21/2017 12:02 pm : link
I did feel bad for escalating like that and shouldn't have done that, I should've walked away, but maybe it's the Irish in me... so although I know I shouldn't have done that, it's also my integrity being called out, and people shouldn't make careless accusations about someone's integrity and expect that to go unchallenged.
RE: 40 bucks....  
allstarjim : 1/21/2017 12:04 pm : link
In comment 13334821 Joey from GlenCove said:
Quote:
I'm sure if you went to a bar for 3 hours you would have spent more.

On you for not knowing albeit terrible rules.

It should just be a cash game.


I was at the bar for 3 hours, and yes, I did have drinks with the game, and no, I only spent about half that. Beauty of a private club... cheap drinks.
Did the guy  
pjcas18 : 1/21/2017 12:05 pm : link
who didn't tell you the rules look like this and deal from the bottom of the deck?

Bullshit Game  
WillVAB : 1/21/2017 12:39 pm : link
I've never heard of or played in a tournament with a time limit -- and I've been playing for over 12 years. Tournaments are played out until there's a winner, or until a deal is made.

If they want to cut the game at a specific time, and it's a tournament, the fair solution is an equity chop between the remaining players. That's really the only solution in my opinion.

This group should just play cash games if they're trying to shut it down at a specific time.
There's a sucker born every minute...  
Torrag : 1/21/2017 12:45 pm : link
It's on you if you don't know the house rules when you put your hard earned cash into play. Consider your $40 bucks money well spent you won't make this mistake again.
As far as "knowing the rules"  
WillVAB : 1/21/2017 12:46 pm : link
I don't buy that argument. We're not talking about a variation in blind structure, rebuys, bounties, etc. Arbitrarily stopping a tournament is so out of the ordinary everyone needs to be made aware of it before they agree to play.
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