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RC02XX : 7/20/2017 12:26 pm
For those of us with a sibling(s) or have multiple children, I'm sure we've all experienced/witnessed sibling rivarly. However, I'm sure we've also experienced/witnessed siblings having each others' backs.

Today, my pregnant wife took our two kids to the local mall to get them out of the house while still staying out of the triple digit heat. She took them to a store with multiple bounce houces, and while my daughter (6 years old) was jumping around, another kid (she thinks he was around 6 years old as well) came and started to crowd her and started to get rough with her. Not sure if he was trying to play or whatnot, but my son (almost 3 years old) came up and pushed the kid down and said, "that's my sister!" While my daughter is still trying to get used to having an extremely rambunctious younger brother, my son just adores his sister, so it doesn't surprise me that he would go and push the boy down even though the boy was much bigger than my son is. My wife and I were proud of him and honestly, consequences be damned if the boy's parents want to complain.

Anyone else have similar incidents themselves or with their kids?
Great story, Ronnie. Good for him.  
yatqb : 7/20/2017 12:30 pm : link
At age 3 that takes some balls to take on a 6 yo. Well done.
Complain?  
Taggart : 7/20/2017 12:30 pm : link
Watch they'll probably sue you.
Great story  
Gap92 : 7/20/2017 12:32 pm : link
I also have a 6 year old daughter and a 3 year old son! He also adores her and has "intervened" on her behalf before, as has she.

Good job by your little dude.
My son turns two on Sunday.  
T-Bone : 7/20/2017 1:03 pm : link
Everyone who has met him says that he's the most aggressive child they've ever seen. The boy just has no fear of anyone and he's a fighter. My mother-in-law watches him along with two other kids... my nephew (who's 5) and another nephew (who's 3). Everyone says that although the other two are older than him, it's my kid who's the boss. About a month and a half ago I came home from work to see him mounted on and pummeling the 5 year old (while laughing mind you) and the 5 year old was just pinned on the ground with his hands up yelling 'Stop it CJ!', looking completely helpless.

He swung on my barber because he was trying to give him an edge up.

He verbally was about to attack another little girl (had to be about 2 years old herself) who, while at a restaurant, started calling me 'Dada' (probably the only word she knew) and was sitting behind us with her family. As soon as she started calling me that I immediately looked at my kid, who I know is very possessive of me and his mom... and by this time he had already turned around and started trying to get up out his baby seat as if he was about to attack the girl! I was like 'Cam, she's not talking to me... Cam, relax... Cam... CAM!'. By the time I got the last 'CAM!' out he'd gotten himself out his seat... turned around to the girl... pointed his finger at her and said 'That's MY daddy!'. All I could do is apologize to the little girl's parents who were at the table (who were cracking up).

He's extremely smart (can already count to 10 and almost knows his ABC's) but man... the boy is rough! Everyone keeps asking me how I'm going to deal with his extremely aggressive nature.. I tell them I'm not worried about it because I'm the Big Dog in the house until further notice.

And he has a brother or sister coming in late November/early December. That should be fun. The ONLY reason why I'm slightly hoping more for a girl is because I'm hoping he'll be more... friendly... with her. But if it's a boy (we find out at gender reveal party this Saturday, also my kids 2nd b-day party)... heaven help him.

TBone  
MadPlaid : 7/20/2017 1:09 pm : link
thank you for sharing. It is hard sometimes to be tough with our little kids when the misbehave because it is just so hilarious.

Congratulations on the second one. Best of luck to you and yours.
Congrats again T-Bone!  
RC02XX : 7/20/2017 1:17 pm : link
We had a small gender reveal party (mainly to give our daughter a bit more ownership of the new arrival than she had with our son), so we know that we're having a little girl in December.

I will admit that my son is far more aggressive when it comes to rough housing than my daughter was at the same age, but thankfully, he's a sweet kid, who plays extremely well with other kids, especially little girls (my brother's daughters are 4 and 2, so he gets to play with them frequently).

Good luck with this one and with your next one!
RE: TBone  
T-Bone : 7/20/2017 1:21 pm : link
In comment 13533403 MadPlaid said:
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thank you for sharing. It is hard sometimes to be tough with our little kids when the misbehave because it is just so hilarious.

Congratulations on the second one. Best of luck to you and yours.


Thanks MadPlaid!

The kid's a character. We (wife and I, moreso her though) are just concerned about the aggressive behavior. He reminds me of my lil brother (also a Leo) in that he's just always looking for a fight. In a sense I like it though because I know he's not going to be a punk... but at the same time I damn sure don't want him to be a bully either.

By the way, would you mind e-mailing me when you get the chance? I'd like to talk to you about something more personal. Thanks.
My daughter  
Alan in Toledo : 7/20/2017 1:27 pm : link
now a triathlete at 52, punched (at around 6 or so) a neighbor hood boy in the gut when he'd bullied one of her older brothers.

She's still a force -- in a good way.
RE: Congrats again T-Bone!  
T-Bone : 7/20/2017 1:27 pm : link
In comment 13533415 RC02XX said:
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We had a small gender reveal party (mainly to give our daughter a bit more ownership of the new arrival than she had with our son), so we know that we're having a little girl in December.

I will admit that my son is far more aggressive when it comes to rough housing than my daughter was at the same age, but thankfully, he's a sweet kid, who plays extremely well with other kids, especially little girls (my brother's daughters are 4 and 2, so he gets to play with them frequently).

Good luck with this one and with your next one!


CONGRATS TO YOU TOO! Very happy to hear. Who knows, we both might be having our kids around the same time.

Yeah... the kid's borderline mean. He seems to get along with most kids but he's quick to grab a kid around his neck if he has a problem with them. He's a good kid... who can be sweet when he wants to be... but the kid is just mad for no reason sometimes.

similar story, RC02XX  
Csonka : 7/20/2017 2:10 pm : link
I've got twins, big for their age. They were like 5, and an older kid maybe 8 and about the same size got a little cocky talking crap to twin #1 on the town playground. Twin #1 was naive and unsure what to do. It came more natural to twin #2 who saw what was happening and came running over. He got right in the kid's face and yelled "leave my brother alone!". Looked ready to drop the gloves. Proud daddy moment. blood is thicker than water, boys. Fight all you want at home, but have each others back out there.
T-Bone  
njm : 7/20/2017 2:19 pm : link
By any chance was your son in an Esurance commercial?
RE: similar story, RC02XX  
RC02XX : 7/20/2017 2:33 pm : link
In comment 13533504 Csonka said:
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I've got twins, big for their age. They were like 5, and an older kid maybe 8 and about the same size got a little cocky talking crap to twin #1 on the town playground. Twin #1 was naive and unsure what to do. It came more natural to twin #2 who saw what was happening and came running over. He got right in the kid's face and yelled "leave my brother alone!". Looked ready to drop the gloves. Proud daddy moment. blood is thicker than water, boys. Fight all you want at home, but have each others back out there.


Twins are awesome.

While not a great story, my twin brother once saved my ass in middle school fight. We were in seventh grade.

A much bigger kid, who used to bully kids in my middle school started messing with my group of friends. Being sort of a hot head myself, I went up to his face and we ended up talking shit, which led to us arranging a fight that afternoon after school. Now, I knew that if he got me on the ground, I would be dead since I weighed 125lb and he weighed about 180lb or so (mostly blubber since he was sort of chunky big).

After school, we meet around the corner from school and there must have been like 30 kids or so. Without hesitating, we went at it with windmill, heymaker, and all. It was a bit of a blur, but eventually we fall to the ground, and he's on top of me. Thankfully, his punches didn't hurt much (a lot of padding around those knuckles and he wasn't punching all that hard). I guess my brother saw that I wasn't going to be able to get him off me, so he jumps in and starts pounding on the back of the kid's head. The kid eventually falls off and now we both end up pounding on him until we hear someone yell, "POLICE!!!"

I fully admit that me picking a fight with a bully wasn't a smart move, but people were sick of his shit. And my brother jumping in to save my ass wasn't fair; however, everyone in seventh grade enjoyed the fact that we both gave the kid a beating. Not sure what changed after the fight, but my brother and I actually become real good friend with the kid...and he stopped being an asshole to everyone. So I guess something good came of the unfair fight.
Bullies ...  
Csonka : 7/20/2017 2:46 pm : link
need an ass kicking to get themselve wired right sometimes.
RE: T-Bone  
T-Bone : 7/20/2017 2:54 pm : link
In comment 13533524 njm said:
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By any chance was your son in an Esurance commercial?


Ha! You referring to the lights in the house one? Too funny! But that's exactly what he does with our phones. Erased my Mail app on my I phone just last week so I had to back it up to get it back. So we gave him a phone of his own with no service on it. So he can watch the Disney Channel and Micky Mouse Clubhouse on his own phone.

And yet... he still demands ours.
Good stuff Ronnie.  
Beezer : 7/20/2017 3:05 pm : link

Too many stories. You'll have many more.

Mine are 19 and 16 ... at each other's throats non-stop at home. But in quiet moments they're close. (Hard to explain unless your kids are that way, then you know exactly how it goes.)

But if someone from outside the family crosses one of them? Oh dear God, I pray for the well being of that person because they've made an immediate enemy - an active one, as well - in the OTHER of my two kids. lol
RE: RE: T-Bone  
njm : 7/20/2017 3:07 pm : link
In comment 13533593 T-Bone said:
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In comment 13533524 njm said:


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By any chance was your son in an Esurance commercial?



Ha! You referring to the lights in the house one? Too funny! But that's exactly what he does with our phones. Erased my Mail app on my I phone just last week so I had to back it up to get it back. So we gave him a phone of his own with no service on it. So he can watch the Disney Channel and Micky Mouse Clubhouse on his own phone.

And yet... he still demands ours.


That's the one. "Poltergeist 2"
No having backs in my family  
pjcas18 : 7/20/2017 3:09 pm : link
among my oldest kids at least, I have twin daughters who are mortal enemies at 15. everything is f-ing competition. everything.

and as soon as a 3rd person is introduced to the situation they fight to get the third person on their side and gang up on their twin.

I'm surprised one of them didn't eat the other in the womb. People keep saying they'll be best friends when they're older but it can't get here fast enough.
RE: Good stuff Ronnie.  
RC02XX : 7/20/2017 3:14 pm : link
In comment 13533619 Beezer said:
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Too many stories. You'll have many more.

Mine are 19 and 16 ... at each other's throats non-stop at home. But in quiet moments they're close. (Hard to explain unless your kids are that way, then you know exactly how it goes.)

But if someone from outside the family crosses one of them? Oh dear God, I pray for the well being of that person because they've made an immediate enemy - an active one, as well - in the OTHER of my two kids. lol


I hear you. Lately, my daughter has been wanting to read bedtime stories to my son, which makes me feel good that she's starting to warm up to him more and more. She even told my wife, "Mommy, I like Booboo now." I just hope that when our third arrives, the dynamic between these two won't change too much since I see a lot of improvement from my daughter.
This was the first thing ...  
BMac : 7/20/2017 3:18 pm : link
...that leaped to mind:

RE: No having backs in my family  
RC02XX : 7/20/2017 3:19 pm : link
In comment 13533627 pjcas18 said:
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among my oldest kids at least, I have twin daughters who are mortal enemies at 15. everything is f-ing competition. everything.

and as soon as a 3rd person is introduced to the situation they fight to get the third person on their side and gang up on their twin.

I'm surprised one of them didn't eat the other in the womb. People keep saying they'll be best friends when they're older but it can't get here fast enough.


Being one half of a twin, my experience is almost opposite of your experience with your daughters. My brother and I were always close throughout our lives but needed a break once we got older, so going away to different colleges was a welcome change. But now at 37, I love that my brother lives only 10 minutes from me (they moved last year to our area).

I'm hoping that your two get through this phase since there is no bond as strong as that of twins, in my opinion.
I find it so interesting that siblings can have such opposite  
yatqb : 7/20/2017 3:20 pm : link
personalities.

My oldest girl was getting picked on a bit when she was 7. I told her that if it's a girl, one sock in the nose would end it forever, and if a boy, she knew where to kick. My daughter responded, "It's just not me, Dad" -- not her style. She's almost a 6 footer, and strong, btw.

My younger daughter has reached full height of perhaps 5'3". In junior high school, a tough boy she was sitting on a radiator with called her a bitch. She said to him that if he called her that again she'd "break his face". Of course he did, and my daughter proceeded to hit him so hard it knocked him off the radiator and broke his nose. A teacher saw it, and just let the whole thing go since she explained what had happened and he was a big kid and my daughter was not, and was a very good and well-liked kid. I only found out about this a few years ago, when I met the teacher socially and the story was recounted to me.

Thankfully, my oldest is much more assertive as an adult, and my youngest has harnessed her energies into being a highly successful and admired professional.



RE: This was the first thing ...  
RC02XX : 7/20/2017 3:20 pm : link
In comment 13533656 BMac said:
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...that leaped to mind:



It would be more accurate if Ralphie's little brother was the one beating up the bully.
RE: No having backs in my family  
njm : 7/20/2017 3:27 pm : link
In comment 13533627 pjcas18 said:
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among my oldest kids at least, I have twin daughters who are mortal enemies at 15. everything is f-ing competition. everything.

and as soon as a 3rd person is introduced to the situation they fight to get the third person on their side and gang up on their twin.

I'm surprised one of them didn't eat the other in the womb. People keep saying they'll be best friends when they're older but it can't get here fast enough.


With my nieces, 2 years apart but it sounds similar, it happened once both were in college.
RE: No having backs in my family  
BillKo : 7/20/2017 3:29 pm : link
In comment 13533627 pjcas18 said:
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among my oldest kids at least, I have twin daughters who are mortal enemies at 15. everything is f-ing competition. everything.

and as soon as a 3rd person is introduced to the situation they fight to get the third person on their side and gang up on their twin.

I'm surprised one of them didn't eat the other in the womb. People keep saying they'll be best friends when they're older but it can't get here fast enough.


PJ - I am very surprised. I know several twins, and they are usually very close. In fact, so close they kinda know what the other is thinking.

RE: I find it so interesting that siblings can have such opposite  
RC02XX : 7/20/2017 3:32 pm : link
In comment 13533660 yatqb said:
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personalities.

My oldest girl was getting picked on a bit when she was 7. I told her that if it's a girl, one sock in the nose would end it forever, and if a boy, she knew where to kick. My daughter responded, "It's just not me, Dad" -- not her style. She's almost a 6 footer, and strong, btw.

My younger daughter has reached full height of perhaps 5'3". In junior high school, a tough boy she was sitting on a radiator with called her a bitch. She said to him that if he called her that again she'd "break his face". Of course he did, and my daughter proceeded to hit him so hard it knocked him off the radiator and broke his nose. A teacher saw it, and just let the whole thing go since she explained what had happened and he was a big kid and my daughter was not, and was a very good and well-liked kid. I only found out about this a few years ago, when I met the teacher socially and the story was recounted to me.

Thankfully, my oldest is much more assertive as an adult, and my youngest has harnessed her energies into being a highly successful and admired professional.




My two are extremely different as well. While we can potentially attribute it to my six year old being a girl and my almost three year old being a boy, my daughter is the overachieving rules follower while my son is the IDGAF kid going around hitting everything and everyone with a toy hammer (we obviously had to put it away).
Terrific story  
LCtheINTMachine : 7/20/2017 5:14 pm : link
Kids should learn at a young age that when someone gets violent with you to get even more violent back. When they get older, they will be mature enough to start packing and handle their differences that way.
RE: Terrific story  
T-Bone : 7/20/2017 5:51 pm : link
In comment 13533888 LCtheINTMachine said:
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Kids should learn at a young age that when someone gets violent with you to get even more violent back. When they get older, they will be mature enough to start packing and handle their differences that way.


You're weird.
RE: Terrific story  
RC02XX : 7/20/2017 8:53 pm : link
In comment 13533888 LCtheINTMachine said:
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Kids should learn at a young age that when someone gets violent with you to get even more violent back. When they get older, they will be mature enough to start packing and handle their differences that way.


That's funny coming from someone, who sees nothing wrong with a shirt that makes light of one human being killed by another human. But hey...whatever logic you want to use, go ahead. I'll use the logic that a two year old defending his older sister is far more honorable than peoole like you fanboying shitty t-shirts because it shows the might of our military or whatever the fuck kind of logic you used to defend that jackass of a t-shirt worn by Bill B.
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