And I'm not old. But I am working a very demanding 9 hour a day job for a pain in the ass boss (I know I'm not alone in feeling this way) and I just collapse at the end of each day. I have always been a news junkie but i just can't follow the news at all the same way, technology has made following world affairs and national events a minute to minute thing - even with sports it's the same way. Everything is constantly changing and moving with lightning speed. Personally, it seems every evening it seems we have something to do or some chore to take care of. There's constantly some activity we need to do, whether it's financial, doing yard work, buying groceries, deciding on furniture, family planning, dealing with some crisis with an animal or a family member.
I'm a young adult, does it get any better, do things slow down just a tad, because I need a break big time, not just a one week vacation, but just a few weeks to do absolutely nothing.
Anyone ever feel that way?
Then other times, everything is going so smooth in my life and I am just miserable for no reason.
The good thing is you seem to have a reason for your stress (your job and your boss). I hate to state the obvious but, stress can be physically draining.
There are some days - when I come home I have to take a NAP - Despite doing nothing physically taxing all day.
About 2 weeks ago, there was an article about folks who exercise, meditate, eat well, and get a good night's sleep
(same life style type that has been reported about for almost decades now) tend to be happier than those who do not.
Do you think you can be clinically depressed ... even slightly?
Also, they are all in competition for ratings - so everything seems like it is drama filled (needlessly) or that particular network's political slant.
I try to stick to the local news and the national news from 1 of the 4 major networks .... and that is it.
Good luck - things will change. You will make them change! You will do it consciously (immediate action based on a plan) or sub-consciously (your emotions will affect your behavior slightly).
You'll be alright.
Best of luck. This too shall pass.
Then, I realized I could make small changes to my attitude that may correct things. Be more positive at home and work and positive things will happen. I was right... My wife and I learned how to work as a team. My hard work and attitude were recognized enough at work that I've had several promotions since, and now I'm at the same level as my old, pain in the ass boss. We sold our starter home and bought a new home in a much better town, that we love. We also had a second kid. Life went from being a complete drag to a fun adventure in a blink of an eye.
My suggestion would be to always take a positive attitude and not to sweat the small things.. It will get better as long as you can adjust yourself. I'd also recommend pulling yourself away from technology, as others have mentioned. I can feel when my mind is running on empty. That's when I shut everything down and do something relaxing.
When I was younger I went through a similar rough patch. I just wanted to run to the hills and become a hermit. It just seemed like everything was piling up on me and no matter how hard I tried to dig out from underneath I couldn't get to the top.
But when I thought about it good and hard I realized that's what life is all about. Because after all what's the alternative. So, you have to accept the challenge and even in the most difficult of situations you figure things out and get through it. It makes you a stronger person. Someone your family can count on. Someone who when the chips are down finds a way to enjoy that aspect of life too. The daily challenges. It won't all be peaches and cream and you have to reconcile that. Life throws you plenty of rotten apples. Now the question is how do you deal with them.
Don't give up and don't give in and enjoy life no matter the circumstance because everyday is a challenge and know that tomorrow is not guaranteed. But listen, when you come out the other end you'll see things much clearer. Trust me.
sports starting 3 hours earlier for you, Monday night football ending at 8:30pm.
In the winter no snow just looking up through palm trees at snow covered mountains.
Legal marijuana
asians in yoga pants everywhere
super friendly people
give it a try what the hell
Job change ought to at least get some consideration if it's draining you to the degree it seems it is. Having enough time to enjoy things, and to relearn how to do that, is key.
I have a bunch of 20 and 30 somethings I supervise and I feel for them everyday. The demands they are faced with are much different than I had at that age. The need for double incomes, kids and activities, technology, social media, this ugly world, gangs, drugs, etc...... it never ends. We need to relearn its ok to say NO once in awhile or just cant do it. The overall respect for one another as well as self accountability continues to deteriorate. Its pretty sad.
So what I do today like many of you have mentioned is make it a point to step back every know and then and just take deep breaths and enjoy family, friends and the good things in life. Escape for a few hours in a hobby. Try to live each day like it may be your last, though that is challenging some days, I know.
I agree +10000
These talking heads now take sides, and promote one side or the other. No one just tells you the facts. Everything is twisted to sounds like the other side is "evil" and trying to destroy us. Its shameful what the media does now. I stopped watching it daily and am much happier. I also realized that 100% of my daily interactions with people are positive and have no bearing or relation to what CNN is yelling at me.
Other than that, Prozac or Valium should work.
I usually turn my phone off at the end of the work days and sometimes I shut it off over the weekends.
Make a mental picture of the way you would like things to be and work towards that goal.
I started my own business in 2003 - I usually work in basketball at lunchtime 1-2 times a week. I was going to go over the fence if I continued to work for someone.
i'm 30 and have everything i want: a job with lots of money, control, and upside, a beautiful and sweet girlfriend, a nice apartment to myself in manhattan.... but somehow i just cant find the time to relax.
If you're older and have a wife and kids, no shit it's called a midlife crisis. I never had one, but some of my friends do and they all result in different things, divorce, drugs, career change, relocation, gambling/debt, some people just move past it with no damage.
My advice is to get a hobby, something you enjoy and make time for yourself, get a gun and join a rod and gun club, or just join one and take up fishing, take up gardening, cycling, other sports league, exercising, etc. something you like and can do without your family.
Once you get something like this you will look forward to it.
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You don't want to be like one of those morons on Kimmel's Lie-Witness News who can't name the Attorney General or locate North Korea on a map. That's pathetic.
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I'm one of those people who will always hate work, and that's while working for a killer company that treats us so well. Work blows. I second those who said pick up a new, challenging hobby. Once you start to get good you'll feel a sense of accomplishment.
New instrument, learn to cook or draw or play pool. Or there's always the reliable standby of getting in ripped good shape. You'll look & feel better and turn female heads which is always rewarding. The best is when they immediately subconsciously start fixing their hair right as they pass you. As Dave Chappelle once said..."gotchya bitch!"
Good luck OP. It's a relatable problem.
It felt like the weight of an elephant was taken off my back.
Single? Quit you job and if you have any construction skills, go to whee there is a government job and get hired on buy on of the multi-national companies.
It's an adventure and opens up the whole world if you continue your education.
When I retired from the FD, I also was a certified as a Safety Engineer thru the Society of Safety Engineers. I was offered stupid money to take 3 month contracts. Never did it because I set myself and my family up. Except for a few small companies I have for tax purposes, I will not work again
A lot of work and education to set up what I have while I did what I loved,FD.
Moral of the story? Life s shorter than you can believe. Go for it.
No regrets. Good luck.
He was 100% right.
It's easy to get lost in the weeds. Focus on the important.
The news is horrid. Don't want to turn the thread into why you shouldn't watch the news but taking a break from following it isn't silly at all. Doesn't mean you can learn things from other avenues but a nice clean break from following politics will probably do many people a lot of good.
Agree 100% and I am not an atheist. Joseph Campbell is the go to course for myth and mythology.
The news is horrid. Don't want to turn the thread into why you shouldn't watch the news but taking a break from following it isn't silly at all. Doesn't mean you can learn things from other avenues but a nice clean break from following politics will probably do many people a lot of good.
I mean I guess you can make an argument that if being informed is bumming one out, it makes sense to embrace "ignorance is bliss".
When ignorance is unaccompanied by self-righteousness, it's fairly harmless.
Speaking frankly, I'd be embarrassed to not know basic facts about global affairs, but I understand that's not a universal sentiment. News junky-ism does tend to make one more cynical. but again there are many dry and unhysterical sources out there (PBS NewsHour, e.g.)
said he was -very happy- there due to "less choices".
Less shopping options, less media options, fewer social options.
Some say simplicity is the ultimate luxury (maybe some rich guy made that up, ok, but anyway).
Maybe truck driving. I dunno. Something without all the social complexity.
Remember, simplicity does not equal stupidity!
The following quote gets at only one of a group of important ideas in the article about how we as a society and as individuals might--or might not--make the needed adaptations. The article relates directly to CMicks' initial question, I think.
When I think about the role that work plays in people’s self-esteem—particularly in America—the prospect of a no-work future seems hopeless. There is no universal basic income that can prevent the civic ruin of a country built on a handful of workers permanently subsidizing the idleness of tens of millions of people. But a future of less work still holds a glint of hope, because the necessity of salaried jobs now prevents so many from seeking immersive activities that they enjoy.
The article is long and challenging. I would appreciate feedback from anyone who gets through it.
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It's sort of like the old, "find a job you love and you'll never work another day".
I've found this whole idea of separating what you do and who you are to be disingenuous. It also leads to frustration at work and it isn't exactly a great attitude to have for success at work- which can be just as fulfilling as any personal success you have once you realize that it is not just "something to pay the bills" and is actually just as much of a defining part of you as family.
-there is no spiritual rule or community responsibility that says 'you needith to payith a mortgage' or 'thou mustith drive a new car'.
Or even HAVE a car.
Treat random people with love and respect and you are doing a hell of a lot more that plenty of guys who tow the line on 'career' and all that stuff.
think about the stuff you really don't need; TV, beer, donuts, nice car, etc., reduce those and replace with a new hobby, holding the door for old ladys, trust me, this is a fun and rewarding hobby. and no, its not a 'pick-up trick' or any other scheme - there is an entire universe built on random, common, acts of kindness.
could just be some 'ugly', 'old', 'lady' in a 7-11.
so, what may seem like list of silly social rules for teenagers become like a set of keys to unlocking your own personal awareness once you start.
to not be preoccupied and therefor tuned out.
a simple way to practice might be to carry a heavy complex shaped object with someone, you need to tune into what they are doing.
or hacky sack, for kids.
that's 101, manual labor helps a lot.
but, the next thing, the 'agape' thing even maybe, is being tuned in more broadly for random strangers and for no 'reason'.
maybe all this is why we find texting drivers and rude mindless type drivers so annoying, its as if they are saying, 'no, I wont be aware, fuck all you people, i am busy!'.
And this has only been the last 25 years. The only thing I can say is that you get used to it.
wealth does not define the answer to that question either.
I had to leave a sales job in the past for this reason. Cold calls at 8am trying to sell an auto insurance policy - brutal.
What are you saying?
That us news/sports junkies take following news/sports like another task from our job that we can never keep on top of?