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Major dilemma: my wife of 13 years is an Eagles fan.

BUgiantfan : 1/28/2018 6:46 pm
For the last two Super Bowls the Giants were in, she wore Giants gear to "support her husband". She asked me today who I was rooting for and the idea of saying "I'll root for the Eagles" made me want to vomit.

The odd part is that I really didn't have a huge beef against the Eagles when I was growing up on Long Island. In the mid 90's, they were the only team in the division that gave the Cowboys a run for their money and I hated the Cowboys so much. When I went to college in PA, the guy across the hall from me was the most annoying, arrogant Eagles fan on the planet. I have hated the city of Philadelphia ever since I met him. I haven't even seen or heard from him in 18 years but I can't get myself to root for the Eagles because fuck that guy!

Am I being too petty or should I stand my ground in continuing to hate the Eagles, despite my wife's wishes?
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Wear the Eagles Jersey. Of course I hate the Patriots  
Blue21 : 1/28/2018 9:11 pm : link
so what do I know.
Whether you support her or not has no outcome on ...  
Boy Cord : 1/28/2018 9:21 pm : link
... the game. You absolutely support her. But, when the Eagles lose you donít have to tell her how fkín happy you are.

Would it be too much too ask for pics?
If your wife has taken your side for the Giants,  
81_Great_Dane : 1/28/2018 9:24 pm : link
you have to at least go through the motions for the Eagles. You don't really have to be happy about them winning, or sad if they lose, but you have to reciprocate. You root for your wife to be happy.

You can't really choose how to feel but you can choose what to do and say.


RE: Super Bowl is  
MetsAreBack : 1/28/2018 9:29 pm : link
In comment 13810477 NY Blue said:
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one day a year, your marriage is for the rest of your life. Support her. You know there will be many more Giant Super bowls in your future so set up for it now.


Bad advice.
If ones marriage experiences problems down the line because one refused to put on enemy gear one day over a sport played by multi millionaires... then the marriage had far bigger issues to begin with. And as djm astutely points out, her getting you to wear her teams gear is just about ego - both internal and with her friends. It's fake bullshit and As a neighbor I'd have more respect for a man that held his ground on this.

Now, don't actively root for the pats either - that would just be dickish. Practice your game face and try not to react to any play good or bad.
If you do it once  
Peter from NH (formerly CT) : 1/28/2018 9:34 pm : link
you will have to do it again if the Eagles get back to the big game again next year - heaven forbid. Better to nip it in the bud now. If she challenges why you can't reciprocate, the best answer would be, "I'm sorry honey, but you're just better than me..."

Under no circumstance can you turn to the dark side, even for a couple of hours.
stand your ground  
Gregorio : 1/28/2018 9:39 pm : link
don't wear an Eagle's jersey. If this causes marital stress for real, like many here are fearing, over a game, then the marriage is in a bad place. Tell her you're happy for her but you can't wear green.

Your relationship won't fall apart because you differ on sport teams. It should strengthen with mutual respect.
She's your wife.  
giantsfaninphilly : 1/28/2018 9:40 pm : link
She supported you (albeit unsolicited) when the Giants played. Return the favor.
Itís a game  
mattlawson : 1/28/2018 9:49 pm : link
Marriage is the most dangerous game. Pick your battles
No advice...  
trueblueinpw : 1/28/2018 9:52 pm : link
But this reminds how lucky I am to have married my wife. I remember the last Giants Super Bowl my wife was really sick with the flu and a fever and at half time I said, ďhey you donít have to stay up to watch this if you want to go get some restĒ. She said without any hesitation at all, ďwhat the heck are you talking about?! Iím going to sit right where Iíve been for all these playoff games and Iím going watch Eli and the Giants win the Super BowlĒ.
Blast in Butt  
OBJXIII : 1/28/2018 10:20 pm : link
And take pics for verification.
RE: She's your wife.  
old man : 1/28/2018 10:30 pm : link
In comment 13810589 giantsfaninphilly said:
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She supported you (albeit unsolicited) when the Giants played. Return the favor.


+1.
If she buys you a jersey to wear, do so; don't volunteer to buy one to wear. Comment pro-Eagles: Nice catch! What was that!? Refs pro-Pats already?
After the game, take a long hot shower while thinking:! Glad thats over
RE: Itís a game  
charlito : 1/28/2018 10:31 pm : link
In comment 13810593 mattlawson said:
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Marriage is the most dangerous game. Pick your battles


+1
Return favor  
BocaGiants91 : 1/28/2018 10:45 pm : link
Itís only one day, youíll live, barely..but the brownie points will be tremendous. And you do have to live with her so Iíd not piss her off.
RE: Wear a non descript  
AnishPatel : 1/28/2018 10:47 pm : link
In comment 13810437 DC Gmen Fan said:
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green shirt


I actually like this idea. Where a green hulk marvel shirt or green shirt that is cool, shows the Eagles colors, but has nothing to do with them. DC is accurate with this!
To our brother BU...  
old man : 1/28/2018 11:00 pm : link
Come to southeastern NE for 2 days immediately!
Come watch the obnoxiously hypocritical haters of the 'Evil Empire'for their 'arrogance', smugness', 'entitlement feelings' out-do all of those things when it comes to their 'beloved Patriots'.
In the market early last week I had my bulky winter jacket with the huge ny on the front, walking in an aisle when a woman 35+ walking the other way past me said" 'oh, you're a Giants fan' in a semi-condescending manner. While we are both still walking our opposite directions, I yelled out 'Yes I am' gentlemanly, and stopped. While she's still walking away, I got back a 'Oh well' and I felt vibes of anger in the tone of her answer. Since I'm likely double+ her age I let it go reluctantly. Other incidents the rest of the week too.
Plagues, locusts,floods, NYFG fans! The world is coming to an end!up here is the thinking.
I hate to root for the Eagles, but I just have to.
If the Eagles win, I hope you folks there, don't get what we'v been getting here in NE from Pats fans Y after Y since 2001. But if you do, you soon will understand, in retrospect, why so many of us in NE had to root for the Eagles.
Brother, enjoy your marriage.
Thanks! Some good advice on this thread...  
BUgiantfan : 1/29/2018 12:14 am : link
So, I'll wear a Green Lantern shirt, not root against the Eagles, and secretly root for the patriots.


...and, of course, blast her in the butt.
IMO, there is a very simple answer for this  
NyquistX3 : 1/29/2018 1:49 am : link
for the die hard Giants fan. The Eagles must lose. Make it up to your wife in other areas of her life. Sorry :(
It is not worth your marriage  
dk in TX : 1/29/2018 7:24 am : link
Compromise is the keyword here.
...  
SFGFNCGiantsFan : 1/29/2018 7:41 am : link
Divorce.
Nightmare  
Rong5611 : 1/29/2018 8:21 am : link
You have no choice, you need to support her. The wearing of the jersey would be painful, try to avoid if you can.

My wife is a Viking fan, alittle easier. Although, the 2000 Championship Game was not fun.
If you have to wear an Eagles shirt  
Bramton1 : 1/29/2018 8:26 am : link
Wear a long-sleeved Giants shirt underneath so that the Eagles shirt doesn't touch your skin and burn you.
You said it in the OP....  
WideRight : 1/29/2018 8:27 am : link
No beef with the Eagles.

Since they have never won anything, and aren't likely to, put on the jersey and count on getting some props after the terrible loss.

It actually sounds like a win-win. You get to watch them lose and get a consolation prize!
Fans come in all sizes, shapes, and gender  
joeinpa : 1/29/2018 9:46 am : link
They also vary in the intensity of their fandom.

I would never wear Eagle garb. If that describes you, I see no reason why you have to ratchet down your fandom to match your wife s
Buy  
spike : 1/29/2018 9:49 am : link
an AMERICAN EAGLE shirt and be done with it.
Why did you marry her in the 1st place  
The 12th Man : 1/29/2018 10:08 am : link
if you knew that, hell why the hell did you date her knowing that information. Get out now while you still have a chance.
RE: If you have to wear an Eagles shirt  
Thegratefulhead : 1/29/2018 10:12 am : link
In comment 13810763 Bramton1 said:
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Wear a long-sleeved Giants shirt underneath so that the Eagles shirt doesn't touch your skin and burn you.
Wins the thread right there.
What's the big deal? It's just football.  
Ira : 1/29/2018 10:28 am : link
She supported you during two Giants Super Bowls. You owe her.
okay -- here's my take  
gidiefor : Mod : 1/29/2018 10:30 am : link
if you don't reciprocate and support your wife -- you risk losing the loyalty she has shown you going into the future

don't equivocate -- you love her -- you married her -- don't half-ass it -- especially if you plan on being together for a long time
Have "something at work come up" and...  
GiantSteps : 1/29/2018 11:15 am : link
watch the game elsewhere. Root against the Eagles in peace.
wear the jersey  
Banks : 1/29/2018 12:18 pm : link
you made the mistake of not telling her you wouldn't do the same when she rocked Giants gear during our SBs. You can try putting on a Hulk shirt and sit in silence, but if she wants you to high five a td, you have grin and bear it.
I couldn't do it  
Boatie Warrant : 1/29/2018 12:44 pm : link
My wife was a 9ers fan when we got married but is a Giants fan now. I just kept buying Giants clothes I knew she would want to steal because they are warm and comfy. Now I have only jerseys to wear and a wife who wears Giants gear almost every day :)
Reminds me of a BB King line:  
BigBlue in Keys : 1/29/2018 3:46 pm : link
"Stand up for your right, be a man, be a man!" From the song Beware, Brother, Beware.

Or maybe this was what Meatloaf meant when he said "I'd do anything for love, but I won't do that. No I won't do that!"

Wearing your Giants gear and biting your tongue would be the most I'd be willing to go. Tell her if she really loves you she wouldn't ask in the first place :)
No.  
Don in DC : 1/29/2018 3:50 pm : link
Nothing could make me root for the Eagles. Nothing. Fuck them, fuck their dirty players, fuck their fans, fuck Philly.

24-7, forever and ever.

No.
I don't see the issue here.....  
BillKo : 1/29/2018 4:21 pm : link
...her choice to wear Giants gear during our Super Bowls.

Now, it's YOUR choice :)


LOL...
RE: No.  
BigBlue in Keys : 1/29/2018 4:33 pm : link
In comment 13811375 Don in DC said:
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Nothing could make me root for the Eagles. Nothing. Fuck them, fuck their dirty players, fuck their fans, fuck Philly.

24-7, forever and ever.

No.


That's really what I wanted to say.
Tell her that you are absolutely rooting for the Eagles  
Jimmy Googs : 1/29/2018 5:06 pm : link
because its important to her. But silently, you do otherwise.

Lying is always the best policy if you can get away with it...
For  
Rolyrock : 1/29/2018 8:20 pm : link
Better or for worse, this incident is worse. Buuuut
She didn't say that if the Eagles lose you couldn't throw off the jersey stomp and burn it with unbridled joy.
RE: You think that's a dilemna?1?!  
Beezer : 1/30/2018 12:25 am : link
In comment 13810512 Eli Wilson said:
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My wife is a Patriots fan!!
We've had a couple rough Super Bowls.

She's also a freaking Red Sox fan.


Iím betting many are thinking what Iím thinking.
1. Iíd never marry an Eagles fan.  
Beezer : 1/30/2018 12:31 am : link
Seriously. No matter how much chrome she could suck off an old Chevy. Dare? Thatís one thing. Marry? No. You guys are fucking idiots and you make awful life choices.

2. Anyone married to me would know it would be ridiculous to expect me to wear the jersey or other fear if any other team.

3. Iím not ďrootingĒ for anyone to win this Super Bowl. Iíll watch and hope the Eagles lose. Splitting hairs? Maybe. But fuck you all and your Eagles- and Patriots-loving wives. You made your beds, now go lie in them. Itís YOUR personal hell. Not mine. Jerks.
Date?*  
Beezer : 1/30/2018 12:32 am : link
(Not dare)
And gear*  
Beezer : 1/30/2018 12:33 am : link
(Not fear)

Suck at typing on a phone.
I pray children are not involved.  
Beezer : 1/30/2018 12:36 am : link
.
Youíre not supporting the Eagles  
Bill L : 1/30/2018 12:43 am : link
Youíre supporting your wife.
RE: Youíre not supporting the Eagles  
Beezer : 1/30/2018 12:45 am : link
In comment 13811844 Bill L said:
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Youíre supporting your wife.


Who supports the Eagles.

They need an intervention.
Just don't let her take any pictures of you wearing it  
TheMick7 : 1/30/2018 5:43 am : link
When she tells people after the SB that you wore it,deny,deny,deny!
RE: 1. Iíd never marry an Eagles fan.  
BUgiantfan : 1/30/2018 12:54 pm : link
In comment 13811832 Beezer said:
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Seriously. No matter how much chrome she could suck off an old Chevy. Dare? Thatís one thing. Marry? No. You guys are fucking idiots and you make awful life choices.

2. Anyone married to me would know it would be ridiculous to expect me to wear the jersey or other fear if any other team.

3. Iím not ďrootingĒ for anyone to win this Super Bowl. Iíll watch and hope the Eagles lose. Splitting hairs? Maybe. But fuck you all and your Eagles- and Patriots-loving wives. You made your beds, now go lie in them. Itís YOUR personal hell. Not mine. Jerks.


Itís amazing how rosy things look before you get married. Something about that marriage license- itís the signal that tells Medusa to let her hair down.
Agree with those that say you  
T-Bone : 1/30/2018 12:54 pm : link
have to wear it. A deal's a deal and if you renege on it why should she expect you to keep up your 'end of the bargain' for anything else?

That said, as we were getting in the bed my two year old... out of the blue mind you... says 'Go Eagles!' (we've taught him how to say 'Go Giants' and 'Go Redskins', my wife's favorite team). I looked at him with the most angry face I think I've ever looked at him with and said 'I don't want to EVER hear you say that again. Do you hear me?'. He looked all sad and said 'Yes dadddy. Go Giants!'.

But the damage had been done. No milk before bed for him last night!
So...  
MetsAreBack : 2/6/2018 9:23 am : link
did you get laid at least?
if it was her choice to wear Giants jersey  
bc4life : 2/6/2018 9:31 am : link
that's on her. I would rather toss Bigfoot's salad than wear an Eagle jersey.

If I died and they they buried me in a Eagles jersey - I'd still find a way to take it off.
and when preparing  
bc4life : 2/6/2018 9:33 am : link
and serving food to her fellow Eagle fans - you know I ain't washing my hands.
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