for display only
Big Blue Interactive The Corner Forum  
Back to the Corner

Archived Thread

Major dilemma: my wife of 13 years is an Eagles fan.

BUgiantfan : 1/28/2018 6:46 pm
For the last two Super Bowls the Giants were in, she wore Giants gear to "support her husband". She asked me today who I was rooting for and the idea of saying "I'll root for the Eagles" made me want to vomit.

The odd part is that I really didn't have a huge beef against the Eagles when I was growing up on Long Island. In the mid 90's, they were the only team in the division that gave the Cowboys a run for their money and I hated the Cowboys so much. When I went to college in PA, the guy across the hall from me was the most annoying, arrogant Eagles fan on the planet. I have hated the city of Philadelphia ever since I met him. I haven't even seen or heard from him in 18 years but I can't get myself to root for the Eagles because fuck that guy!

Am I being too petty or should I stand my ground in continuing to hate the Eagles, despite my wife's wishes?
Pages: 1 2 | Show All |  Next>>
Your wife wins this one, she paid her dues!  
wgenesis123 : 1/28/2018 6:50 pm : link
.
Put the Eagles jersey on and then kill her  
Route 9 : 1/28/2018 6:50 pm : link
Just joking, don't take it to the extreme (by wearing the Eagle jersey I mean)
Divorce is  
section125 : 1/28/2018 6:53 pm : link
the only honorable choice.
You have to clarify -  
Diver_Down : 1/28/2018 6:54 pm : link
Did she wear the Giants gear by her choice to support her husband or did you ask her to do so?

If the former, then you are in the clear. You can still hold true in your hatred for the Philthy. If the latter, then you are screwed. You made a deal with the devil and sold your soul. Enjoy your penance.
My  
mitch300 : 1/28/2018 6:55 pm : link
Wife is a 49er fan. I have rooted against them before I met her. In fact she would have a picture of the team on a wall in her house. Every time I passed that wall I would give the finger to the picture. This was in 1989. I still root for them to lose. Except for this year when I wanted for the Giants to get the 2nd pick in the draft. Every team has bandwagoners. However, the niners I think have the most of any sport.
...  
Route 9 : 1/28/2018 6:58 pm : link
All the women in my life never watched sports. Is it good to have a companion, even if she likes a weird team like the 49ers or Broncos?

I'd just lol her out of the building
RE: You have to clarify -  
BUgiantfan : 1/28/2018 7:06 pm : link
In comment 13810413 Diver_Down said:
Quote:
Did she wear the Giants gear by her choice to support her husband or did you ask her to do so?

If the former, then you are in the clear. You can still hold true in your hatred for the Philthy. If the latter, then you are screwed. You made a deal with the devil and sold your soul. Enjoy your penance.


Good point! She wore the Giants sweatshirt by her own volition! I did not ask her to root for the Giants.

I might just say I'm rooting for the Eagles but behind every "I can't believe he dropped that" will be a secret celebration in my head.
...  
bLiTz 2k : 1/28/2018 7:07 pm : link
Quick! Call your boss!  
paesan98 : 1/28/2018 7:09 pm : link
Tell him he needs to force you to work that day. If that's not gonna work, better suck it up. There are some pretty decent anti-nausea medicines on the market, though.
Wear a non descript  
DC Gmen Fan : 1/28/2018 7:11 pm : link
green shirt
One other thing  
paesan98 : 1/28/2018 7:13 pm : link
I'm pretty sure your wedding vows contained the clause "for better or worse". If it did, and if there was not a caveat about the Eagles getting to the Super Bowl, then you're screwed.
RE: RE: You have to clarify -  
Diver_Down : 1/28/2018 7:16 pm : link
In comment 13810432 BUgiantfan said:
Quote:
In comment 13810413 Diver_Down said:


Quote:


Did she wear the Giants gear by her choice to support her husband or did you ask her to do so?

If the former, then you are in the clear. You can still hold true in your hatred for the Philthy. If the latter, then you are screwed. You made a deal with the devil and sold your soul. Enjoy your penance.



Good point! She wore the Giants sweatshirt by her own volition! I did not ask her to root for the Giants.

I might just say I'm rooting for the Eagles but behind every "I can't believe he dropped that" will be a secret celebration in my head.


You are safe. But you are also a smart man - Happy Wife, Happy Life. You need to practice your game face in the mirror and repeat the catch phrases for the game. You don't want a smile to sneak out while you are playing the charade.
You made your bed ...  
DonQuixote : 1/28/2018 7:18 pm : link
... go lie in it.

And actually cheer them, it is more important for your wife's team to win than for some rival to lose.
Wow guys BBI is  
commonthe0ry : 1/28/2018 7:30 pm : link
Getting slow with the mandatory advice postings:

Blast her in the butt!

Lol j/k

Bend the knee and wear the green this once; Happy Wife, Happy Life
In Judaism there is a concept  
Jay in Toronto : 1/28/2018 7:34 pm : link
Of 'peace in the home.'

A wise value.
Happy wife, happy life  
markky : 1/28/2018 7:38 pm : link
my wife of 26 years is also an Eagles fan.
Look on the bright side  
paesan98 : 1/28/2018 7:38 pm : link
Based on past history, the Giants will be playing in the Super Bowl a few more times before the Eagles do, so she'll have to root for the Gmen again and again before you have to humble yourself again
As god is my witness  
djm : 1/28/2018 7:44 pm : link
I never would have asked or expected my wife to wear a Giants jersey for any moment or game if she wasn't a Giants fan. Matter of fact I would have demanded (asked meekly) she not wear it.

I have a hard time understanding that whole dynamic between spouses. My brother went through similar shit with his jets fan wife. It only leads to trouble.
Super Bowl is  
NY Blue : 1/28/2018 7:44 pm : link
one day a year, your marriage is for the rest of your life. Support her. You know there will be many more Giant Super bowls in your future so set up for it now.
RE: As god is my witness  
bLiTz 2k : 1/28/2018 7:49 pm : link
In comment 13810476 djm said:
Quote:
I never would have asked or expected my wife to wear a Giants jersey for any moment or game if she wasn't a Giants fan. Matter of fact I would have demanded (asked meekly) she not wear it.

I have a hard time understanding that whole dynamic between spouses. My brother went through similar shit with his jets fan wife. It only leads to trouble.


+1
This  
Jon in NYC : 1/28/2018 7:50 pm : link
is like when you turn on the biggest loser and you see someone who is 400 pounds, and you think "how did they let it get this far?"
if you cant root for the eagles  
CGiants07 : 1/28/2018 7:51 pm : link
just say your rooting for your wife to be happy and rooting for patriots to lose is never bad
Why  
Allen in CNJ : 1/28/2018 7:55 pm : link
the hell did you marry her?
Do you really need to wear  
pjcas18 : 1/28/2018 7:57 pm : link
Eagles gear? Can't you just fake to root for them without any gear on?

Imagine if someone snaps a picture. It would crush me more to see myself in Eagles gear than it did to see Mark Bavaro in Eagles gear.

Love is love and we do crazy things for love, but there are limits.

Think about it  
djm : 1/28/2018 7:59 pm : link
You're asking your spouse to display disloyalty. For what? What does it prove to pressure your wife or husband to do something they don't want to do just for the sake of.... what exactly? Posterity? Bullshit. It's for ego.

I would ask my spouse not to be the heel at the super bowl party... maybe... don't root for the other team. Even then, I think I'd just shut my mouth and let her root for who she wants to root for. Wearing another team's jersey? Fuck the hell off and shame on you (not the op) for even suggesting it. I find the whole thing abhorrent. Abhorrent I tell you!
You knew this day may one day come  
Beer Man : 1/28/2018 8:04 pm : link
when you married her, plus she has endured two Giants SBs, time to pay up and do your part.
You think that's a dilemna?1?!  
Eli Wilson : 1/28/2018 8:04 pm : link
My wife is a Patriots fan!!
We've had a couple rough Super Bowls.

She's also a freaking Red Sox fan.
Ps  
djm : 1/28/2018 8:05 pm : link
Don't fight this battle because some dickwad (me) on a message board said to. Pick your battles.
Is she really an Eagles fan?  
moze1021 : 1/28/2018 8:11 pm : link
Or was she just associated with them growing up and is bandwagoning? Or another way to ask: is she as big an Eagles fan as you are a Giants fan?

My wife's whole family is diehard..and she grew up an "Eagles fan"..but the is pretty much indifferent now and the extent of her fandom is that she just hopes her family ends up being happy. I don't share that sentiment, of course.
Be honest?  
Reale01 : 1/28/2018 8:14 pm : link
You might say I can't root for the Eagles. It would not be sincere. However, I will not root against them, and if they win, I'll be genuinely happy for you.
RE: Be honest?  
moze1021 : 1/28/2018 8:15 pm : link
In comment 13810522 Reale01 said:
Quote:
You might say I can't root for the Eagles. It would not be sincere. However, I will not root against them, and if they win, I'll be genuinely happy for you.


That's good advice
My wife’s a Pats fan too. She’s from Maine!  
Simms11 : 1/28/2018 8:18 pm : link
Needless to say the two Super Bowls we won against them didn’t make her too happy. Anyway, maybe an Eagles jersey on a Giants fan will reverse the Karma! If you wear one, make sure you have a Giants Jersey on underneath. Ugh! I don’t know if I could do it!
It seems the mistake was made 13 years ago.  
smshmth8690 : 1/28/2018 8:47 pm : link
Kidding of course. Brother, only you know what you have to do.
My cousin had 2 tickets to the Super Bowl. He offered me one  
George from PA : 1/28/2018 9:01 pm : link
But it was my wedding day. So I needed to get a replacement....so I put an ad in the paper.



She is a lovely lady and great cook......
To be fair.....  
Eli Wilson : 1/28/2018 9:11 pm : link
On my wife's behalf - I've "rooted" for the Patriots in each of their non-Giants super bowls and didn't root against the Red Sox in their World Series appearances.
Wear the Eagles Jersey. Of course I hate the Patriots  
Blue21 : 1/28/2018 9:11 pm : link
so what do I know.
Whether you support her or not has no outcome on ...  
Boy Cord : 1/28/2018 9:21 pm : link
... the game. You absolutely support her. But, when the Eagles lose you don’t have to tell her how fk’n happy you are.

Would it be too much too ask for pics?
If your wife has taken your side for the Giants,  
81_Great_Dane : 1/28/2018 9:24 pm : link
you have to at least go through the motions for the Eagles. You don't really have to be happy about them winning, or sad if they lose, but you have to reciprocate. You root for your wife to be happy.

You can't really choose how to feel but you can choose what to do and say.


RE: Super Bowl is  
MetsAreBack : 1/28/2018 9:29 pm : link
In comment 13810477 NY Blue said:
Quote:
one day a year, your marriage is for the rest of your life. Support her. You know there will be many more Giant Super bowls in your future so set up for it now.


Bad advice.
If ones marriage experiences problems down the line because one refused to put on enemy gear one day over a sport played by multi millionaires... then the marriage had far bigger issues to begin with. And as djm astutely points out, her getting you to wear her teams gear is just about ego - both internal and with her friends. It's fake bullshit and As a neighbor I'd have more respect for a man that held his ground on this.

Now, don't actively root for the pats either - that would just be dickish. Practice your game face and try not to react to any play good or bad.
If you do it once  
Peter from NH (formerly CT) : 1/28/2018 9:34 pm : link
you will have to do it again if the Eagles get back to the big game again next year - heaven forbid. Better to nip it in the bud now. If she challenges why you can't reciprocate, the best answer would be, "I'm sorry honey, but you're just better than me..."

Under no circumstance can you turn to the dark side, even for a couple of hours.
stand your ground  
Gregorio : 1/28/2018 9:39 pm : link
don't wear an Eagle's jersey. If this causes marital stress for real, like many here are fearing, over a game, then the marriage is in a bad place. Tell her you're happy for her but you can't wear green.

Your relationship won't fall apart because you differ on sport teams. It should strengthen with mutual respect.
She's your wife.  
giantsfaninphilly : 1/28/2018 9:40 pm : link
She supported you (albeit unsolicited) when the Giants played. Return the favor.
It’s a game  
mattlawson : 1/28/2018 9:49 pm : link
Marriage is the most dangerous game. Pick your battles
No advice...  
trueblueinpw : 1/28/2018 9:52 pm : link
But this reminds how lucky I am to have married my wife. I remember the last Giants Super Bowl my wife was really sick with the flu and a fever and at half time I said, “hey you don’t have to stay up to watch this if you want to go get some rest”. She said without any hesitation at all, “what the heck are you talking about?! I’m going to sit right where I’ve been for all these playoff games and I’m going watch Eli and the Giants win the Super Bowl”.
Blast in Butt  
OBJXIII : 1/28/2018 10:20 pm : link
And take pics for verification.
RE: She's your wife.  
old man : 1/28/2018 10:30 pm : link
In comment 13810589 giantsfaninphilly said:
Quote:
She supported you (albeit unsolicited) when the Giants played. Return the favor.


+1.
If she buys you a jersey to wear, do so; don't volunteer to buy one to wear. Comment pro-Eagles: Nice catch! What was that!? Refs pro-Pats already?
After the game, take a long hot shower while thinking:! Glad thats over
RE: It’s a game  
charlito : 1/28/2018 10:31 pm : link
In comment 13810593 mattlawson said:
Quote:
Marriage is the most dangerous game. Pick your battles


+1
Return favor  
BocaGiants91 : 1/28/2018 10:45 pm : link
It’s only one day, you’ll live, barely..but the brownie points will be tremendous. And you do have to live with her so I’d not piss her off.
RE: Wear a non descript  
AnishPatel : 1/28/2018 10:47 pm : link
In comment 13810437 DC Gmen Fan said:
Quote:
green shirt


I actually like this idea. Where a green hulk marvel shirt or green shirt that is cool, shows the Eagles colors, but has nothing to do with them. DC is accurate with this!
To our brother BU...  
old man : 1/28/2018 11:00 pm : link
Come to southeastern NE for 2 days immediately!
Come watch the obnoxiously hypocritical haters of the 'Evil Empire'for their 'arrogance', smugness', 'entitlement feelings' out-do all of those things when it comes to their 'beloved Patriots'.
In the market early last week I had my bulky winter jacket with the huge ny on the front, walking in an aisle when a woman 35+ walking the other way past me said" 'oh, you're a Giants fan' in a semi-condescending manner. While we are both still walking our opposite directions, I yelled out 'Yes I am' gentlemanly, and stopped. While she's still walking away, I got back a 'Oh well' and I felt vibes of anger in the tone of her answer. Since I'm likely double+ her age I let it go reluctantly. Other incidents the rest of the week too.
Plagues, locusts,floods, NYFG fans! The world is coming to an end!up here is the thinking.
I hate to root for the Eagles, but I just have to.
If the Eagles win, I hope you folks there, don't get what we'v been getting here in NE from Pats fans Y after Y since 2001. But if you do, you soon will understand, in retrospect, why so many of us in NE had to root for the Eagles.
Brother, enjoy your marriage.
Pages: 1 2 | Show All |  Next>>
Back to the Corner