Stupidest day of the year IMO. My wife always told my sons when they were younger that if they had a girlfriend, break up with her before the day if she expects some kind of acknowledgement.
Love to see all the panicked, sweaty, husbands at the food store buying up shitty roses or boxes of chocolates at the last minute.
My wife gets a hand signed card every year from the sheet below and I know she treasures it.
Anybody here waste money on chocolates or flowers?
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What's the big deal? If you have half a decent relationship with your better half, it's not a huge deal, or it's exactly the right amount of a deal.
Why not get flowers, or a vacuum cleaner, or take her out and make her feel good? It's all positive if you play it well.
If she's a psycho about this "holiday," maybe it's time to re-evaluate?
Two cents' worth from a doofus who completely out-kicked his coverage more than 22 years ago and she still likes me most days, especially when I clean the damn cat box.
But when you're dating or new in a relationship, not acknowledging Valentine's Day (even if the significant other says "don't buy me anything for Valentine's Day, it's stupid, it's a Hallmark holiday") can be a relationship ender, even for the more pure hearted woman.
Now, I do agree that it's fairly contrived holiday, but I still don't mind it.
I'll make us a heart shaped meatloaf.
The restaurants will be flooded tomorrow.
But when you're dating or new in a relationship, not acknowledging Valentine's Day (even if the significant other says "don't buy me anything for Valentine's Day, it's stupid, it's a Hallmark holiday") can be a relationship ender, even for the more pure hearted woman.
Solid advice.
Years 1-2 you wanna spend $$$
3,4,5... spend $$
After year 5 spend $ on a card, maybe some roses, go out to dinner. That's all. No materialistic gifts..
I'm in.
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20 years, so we no longer care about Valentine's Day.
But when you're dating or new in a relationship, not acknowledging Valentine's Day (even if the significant other says "don't buy me anything for Valentine's Day, it's stupid, it's a Hallmark holiday") can be a relationship ender, even for the more pure hearted woman.
Solid advice.
Years 1-2 you wanna spend $$$
3,4,5... spend $$
After year 5 spend $ on a card, maybe some roses, go out to dinner. That's all. No materialistic gifts..
Ha, nailed it. This is my 10 year and I got my wife and 5 year old daughter a dozen roses, chocolates and a teddy bear from 1-800 Flowers. We'll go out for a bite to eat Friday night as well, but it stays really simple.
I sent my wife flowers to her office only because her one coworker for some reason always trys to one up my wife (who is slightly higher than her career wise) she is annoying and is always blabbing about how her husband doles on her all the time.
So I at least sent flowers. Other than that a card and home cooked meal.
We don't go crazy gift wise. Just some thoughtful little stuff. We don't do dinner out because the reservation competition is nuts and FFS it's a wednesday this year. We usually plan a nice night out on the weekend before or after.
I used to have a real beef with VDay because of a relationship I had that went south in a way that tarnished it. Now, I love it.
Why not get flowers, or a vacuum cleaner...
Yeah, nothing says "I love you" quite like a new vacuum cleaner! You are quite the romantic.
Florists have to pay a lot more for the flowers. Production costs are much higher. Producing and delivering such a large volume of flowers for a single day is expensive.
Florists have to pay a lot more for the flowers. Production costs are much higher. Producing and delivering such a large volume of flowers for a single day is expensive.
They do pay a little more, but there is plenty of profiteering. My ex-sis-in-law used to run a florist shop, and it was by far their biggest day of the year.
I sent my wife flowers to her office only because her one coworker for some reason always trys to one up my wife (who is slightly higher than her career wise) she is annoying and is always blabbing about how her husband doles on her all the time.
So I at least sent flowers. Other than that a card and home cooked meal.
The pre set menus are a pain in the ass. On a normal Valentine's day, while restaurants are busy, you typically do less business than a normal Saturday night. I don't do a set menu for two reasons. First, people really don't want them, and second, nothing sucks more than planning a set menu, and having it snow. You are then left with a lot of food that isn't on your regular menu, forcing you to sell it as specials for the next few days. I think your better off just offering a couple nice specials on Valentine's day.
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Why not get flowers, or a vacuum cleaner...
Yeah, nothing says "I love you" quite like a new vacuum cleaner! You are quite the romantic.
Actually it does depending on the person and their priorities....
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Why not get flowers, or a vacuum cleaner...
Yeah, nothing says "I love you" quite like a new vacuum cleaner! You are quite the romantic.
lol ... we have a handful of very furry pets and she actually asked for a new hi-tech whatever the name of those animal-fur-crazy-ass-expensive vacuum cleaners are for Christmas ... her birthday ..,. now Valentine's Day. Me? I've kinda ignored it all, as a "gift," anyway.
Mrs. Beez is practical, at times.
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Thnx
Maybe i should have put this on the complaint thread
Thnx
Maybe i should have put this on the complaint thread
Isn't that a bannable offense? ;-)
It was a fun day when my wife and I were dating. Now 13/14 years later it isn't a big deal but its nice to do something to remind ourselves how things were when we were in college, no kid, no responsibilities, etc.
Married almost 40 yrs
Vacuuming doing the dishes can get more than flowers and candy
Hell it can be an aprodsiac to most women
Yeah, well my wife's birthday is on Christmas.
If VD is bothering you, you should really see your doctor.
That stinks, too. Christmas Eve, Christmas and Valentine's Day are probably the worst days to be born.
Too many amateur drunks on the road.
Thnx
Maybe i should have put this on the complaint thread
It's a scene, man.
The good news for you? It doesn't happen often (enough for Mrs. Beez).
You mean you have to try them on to make sure they're comfortable?
it's not hard, flowers and a card.
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and she told me exactly what she wanted: comfortable cotton thong undies.
You mean you have to try them on to make sure they're comfortable?
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and she told me exactly what she wanted: comfortable cotton thong undies.
You mean you have to try them on to make sure they're comfortable?
ha - if the salesperson is hot the Al Bundy in me willask her to try them on to ensure size is correct.
Couldn't be much hooter, I mean hotter, than it is right? Did I say nipply? Haha, hey Russ.
After that, if your stressing out over it you're doing something wrong.
We don't go crazy gift wise. Just some thoughtful little stuff. We don't do dinner out because the reservation competition is nuts and FFS it's a wednesday this year. We usually plan a nice night out on the weekend before or after.
I used to have a real beef with VDay because of a relationship I had that went south in a way that tarnished it. Now, I love it.
Considering that you are not doing anything special,
what beef could you have?
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In comment 13831335 Les in TO said:
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and she told me exactly what she wanted: comfortable cotton thong undies.
You mean you have to try them on to make sure they're comfortable?
ha - if the salesperson is hot the Al Bundy in me willask her to try them on to ensure size is correct.
Couldn't be much hooter, I mean hotter, than it is right? Did I say nipply? Haha, hey Russ.