Family friend was complaining about shortness of breath when he was running, got checked out, and was told he had pneumonia. Antibiotics did not improve him, so he went got a PET scan and they found masses in his lungs.
He's late 30s, never smoked, fit, exercises, eats well, etc etc etc, young kids and one on the way. Absolutely horrific.
What do I do to help out? What can I offer? Anyone know if lung cancer is treatable these days? Just really puts things in perspective.
Sorry for the vent.
As far as the treatment being asked I am sorry that I cannot help. My coworker amd friend just died as well from lung cancer. She tried chemo but it didn't help.
DC all I would say is support him. Find the best DR you can (and a 2nd opinion is always a good idea). They are coming up with better treatments every day. It will really matter what the chemistry of the cancer is and how it responds to each person. A positive attitude, even though it can be very overwhelming, is a step in the right direction.
I would recommend not reading all over the internet for stories of people who beat it or not. Find a good DR and listen to them. It's very scary at first but once you have a plan in place you'll feel better. Best of luck, tell him to kick it's ass.
Cancer is the worst. To say I’m haunted by it’s existence would be an understatement.
Being a very fortunate and blessed parent of a cancer surviver, the best advice I can give on what you can do or offer is 1st, treat them the same as you always did.
They know what they're dealing with and the last thing they want is to be reminded of it or treated differently by having people walking on egg shells around them. If you always busted his chops, continue that. If you just sat around and watched a game every Friday night, continue to do that.
Secondly, ask if there is anything they need or want. If there is, he'll tell you, if not stay the course.
Just let him know you're there and can be counted on. There might come a time you can offer to drive him so he can relax and save his strength from his treatments, or "I'm going to the store, you need anything"? That type of thing.
Another thing to try and stay clear of is bugging him to eat, or hey you gotta keep your strength up. Let him find his way and what works for him. If he does have a good appetite, join him in a good meal. If he doesn't really want to eat much maybe find something light he does like, eg, a donut,ice creme, whatever. Just find a subtle way of keeping his spirit and strength up.
A positive attitude when battling this fucking disease is HUGE, and its importance can't be overstated.
Best of luck to your friend, and hang tough with and for him.
BTW when I said don't read all over the internet I meant it as a new patient. Lot's of scary stories out there that is not necessarily what will happen to you, stay positive and listen to your DR was my main point. Not trying to take away from anyone's personal cancer stories.
Whats helped him is offering to drive, offering to do grocery store trips. Offering to help with the day to day stuff so he can focus on treatment.
And even more excruciating, when she reached the end (she had been fairly fine and responded well to treatment), she went in with shortness of breath and they told her her lungs were filling with fluid and there was nothing more they could do, and that she would pass away within 24 hours or so and to gather the family, which she did.
Just an awful disease.
We found the best things to offer are:
1. Concrete gifts. That is time , in specific ways , that will help them . Imagine being in their shoes , with young kids , and him unable to do normal chores . Offer to mow lawn weekly , sit for their kids this Tuesday. When he’s at chemo , transport their kids to soccer so mom can attend to other stuff , take the garbage down , so shopping, or laundry . Essentially simple tasks that still gotta get done everyday anyway .
2. Be specific “ can I mow your lawn once a week for next 2 months ?”
3. Be practical . Makes no dinner for them every Tuesday , for example
4. Listen to what they need nor what you think they do
5. Don’t bevaftaid to offer prayers and tell them so . I’ve never had a patient reject good wishes and in that foxhole you need all the help you can fejyst a few ideas but you get the jist . i hope it helps . Good luck
As far as the treatment being asked I am sorry that I cannot help. My coworker amd friend just died as well from lung cancer. She tried chemo but it didn't help.
My condolences Robbie .... Cancer sucks and they still really do not know the real cause IMO. Look at the OP's friend - never smoked and ends up with lung cancer. How about children 6,7,8 years old? What could they possibly been doing or ingesting to end up with tumors? And, then you hear (not often) about 80 year old smokers who smoked all their lives .... how the hell is Keith Richards still alive? The cigarettes alone should have gotten him by now ... Fuck cancer.
Sorry about you Dad.
Anyway - stories like that always mystify me. A non smoker who ends up with lung cancer?
Concur.