I was hesitant to bring this to BBI, but there are a lot of people here with knowledge about how to handle these situations. I have been working in restaurants for about a decade after my sales office was closed. At first I really took an interest in food and liquor and have been doing it at quite a high level. My knowledge about this stuff has comstantly been enhanced with every move Ive made. I have worked every type of party, am able to confidently talk about any spirit (except sherry, lol) and I have saved multiple places from dealing with an allergy fuck up because I pay attention to all the tickets. I am very good at my job but dont want to manage a place. I am not into the hours being my career and the ceiling is too low. I want to do things at a higher level.
A couple years ago, I thought I was out with a potential POS sales gig where I would have a monstrous territory and strong relationship with the director, but that fell thru. Since then I have been interviewing for other sales gigs and lately got very interested in event planning. In fact I have a 2nd interview on Tuesday on location. So I took a job that had me working 4 days a week so I had M-W off to interview and job hunt.
The guy that hired me, hired me because I was a man and would be the only male on the floor. The money is solid for the hours I work, but being the only male on the floor, he is making an example of me and it has been getting worse every single week. Many think it is because he tried the same shit with a couple of the girls and he made them cry during a shift. He blames me for things that are not my responsibility and I have not talked back, just apologized and went about my job. Last night, when I was done and just changed, he pulled me aside for "a talk" during which he completely cuts me apart in front of co-workers and in ftont of guests because of an emailed complaint he got for a table I know I didnt work. I respectfully told him that wasnt my table but he insisted it was and that if it happened again he would fire me. I asked him if he could show me the closed out check because it would have my name on it and he told me he needed me to "just shut up and listen."
At that point I went from nervous to quietly livid. I know there is something I did to piss him off (like maybe show him up by learning the job so quickly) or that he has nobody else to put the fear of God into because of how the other girls react. Its to the point that others acknowledge it happening and now it seems he is willing to just pull anything (founded or not) out of his ass. Im prepared to take precautiins to cover my ass at this point.I wanted to know if anybody can add to or alter this list:
1) I wad planning on recording any other 1 on 1 conversation he had with me. Should I tell him that I am doing so?
2) Calling unemployment on Monday to see if I can chip thru any potential red tape I could have to deal with should I get terminated. Is this a tactic anybody has done before?
3) If he starts writing me up for horse shit, I am debating not signing it because that can demonstrate cause and prevent me from getting unemployment. Note: I started this job about a month ago but I have been consistently employed for over 5 years.
4) How logical is it to go directly to HR to discuss the issue? I understand that this is a scorched Earth move and that I might as well clean out my locker immediately, but I legitimately have been treated unfairly. Ideally, I would like to get another job, train while Im still on the floor earning normal money, then go to them and tell them I am quitting out-roght because of his approach and tact
I have a great resume. I can get a job rather quickly and I have other career prospects. But finding a job in Philly is very tought midsummer...real opportunities dont really happen until mid August. But its to the point I am having dreams every night with him in it. I am not going to act oit, but last night startled me and I dont want to be unprepared.
Any and all advice would help. I dont expect much....Philly is an at will employer. But maybe there is something out there.
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Honestly, if you wanted to, you could be a real dick and threaten legal action for both the manner in which you were fired, the circumstances of it and the subsequent threat for you not to set foot on the property again.
Likely wouldn't give you anything but personal satisfaction, but you could be a thorn in that jackasses side of so wished.
Im definitely going to contact the HR and tell them how I was treated and include that little post script he sent my way. If for no other reason to piss in his soup.
Also, regarding Del's, the one here in Philly does CRAZY business. But they also staff the floor with like 40 servers on Sat nights and your section is really determined by seniority alone. Ive worked in those places and its immensely frustrating. You work your dick off for a turn and a half and leave with rought a third the money some of these senior servers make who arent even paying attention to their sections. A lot of these times a manager will just grab you and tell you to go water and help bus their tables.
Believe me, the steak house route is the way to go...I know that. I would kill it there too because my wine and booze knowledge beats up even that of their somms and what not.
Maybe the pressure, maybe they just enjoyed it, but it was common. If it's still the case it may explain the behavior of this asshole chopper had to deal with (assuming drugs cause you to be an asshole though I know some people don't need much assistance).
that ribeye was on par with Peter lugers and Sparks.
and unlike Peter Luger's they take credit cards and have better sides (though Sparks is even better IMO, but we're splitting hairs now).
If you can get into Barclay Prime I'd try that.
What city/state is this place in?
What city/state is this place in?
Philly.
Eric, I fear that that will make me seem petty to others I know in the industry, will actually hirt my getting another gig if I need to and that people will chalk it up to disgruntled former employee.
So, you’d be breaking the law to “secretly” record your boss.
Now, here in New York, you don’t need that permission.
So,all those years of watching "The Good Wife", where they said in Illinois it was one party consent were wrong??
Just stick a banana in his tail-pipe and call it a day.
I thought for sure you'd be roadying for the Biscuits by now.
Just stick a banana in his tail-pipe and call it a day.
I thought for sure you'd be roadying for the Biscuits by now.
Bahahaha! Naaaah, its an overrated experience. While everybody parties at the show, I am stuck working and schlepping.