Friend of mine at work is getting married in October and invited me to wedding. Worked with him for five years . Nice guy but marriage will be a disaster. He is 44 and never been married and never owned a home. She is 48 and has been paying for everything. He didn't buy her a ring and the wedding is being held in his hometown 300 miles away even though they both live and work on LI.
I will have to take a day off from work and stay two nights in a hotel to attend . Should I go ?
Gotta start and end there, imo.
Seems you're a bit pissy in his direction. lol
I feel like I'm in a conversation with my wife lol. No, honey, you don't need to go because everyone else ISN'T going. No, honey, just because you feel bad doesn't mean you need to take off work, burn personal time, travel 5-6 hours, spend likely big-ish bucks on hotel, food, gift, etc. No honey, you don't go to these weddings ... of people you borderline like from work. No.
See my thread about traveling without a plan.
If the timing is right and you're looking for an adventure, maybe make his wedding the catalyst for the trip, but not THE reason. Head out a few days early ... see what's along the way ... and if you get sidetracked? Awwwww man, by car broke down ... shit, sorry man.
Or you make it to the wedding. Have a blast. Then take a different route back ... same premise.
Everything else flows from there...
(For the record, Giants have only 2 Sunday games this October - so the coast is clear).
From the sound of it, the work-buddy relationship sounds sketchy at best. Take him out for drinks before the wedding or party with him at his Bachelor party (if there is one). The, you did your duty and won't have to kill a nice October weekend killing 10 hours going back-and-forth...
sounds like a great time. I don't think I'd go to this even if it was family.
Good point. Maybe he only knows the groom.
Don't be the cheapskate.
Don't be the cheapskate.
Uh no.
And what cip and pj said. Fuck no.
Think through what you actually *want to do* -- cut out the nonsense of guilt, or what you might be perceived as, and just do what you want.
That is very generous of you, but you shouldn't feel obligated. If those ten people were going, would you still go? If not, then don't.