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NFT: What's your opinion of the Irish exit/goodbye?

SFGFNCGiantsFan : 12/13/2018 1:14 pm
Helluva game tonight between the Chargers & Chiefs. Obviously, because the sports gods hate me, we have our office holiday party tonight.

So I was telling a buddy here that I was going to bounce discreetly around 7:15 to get home in time for opening kickoff. He gave me some undeserved (or possibly deserved) heat for doing that.

I don't see anything wrong with the Irish goodbye. Am I alone? Does anybody else do this?
for years i used to sneak out of the house to go to parties  
Jints in Carolina : 12/13/2018 1:18 pm : link
now i sneak out of parties to go to the house.....or something like that
Timely thread  
figgy2989 : 12/13/2018 1:19 pm : link
I have mine tonight as well.

It really depends on a few things. How many people/colleagues are going to be there and would your exit be noticed.
How long will you be  
section125 : 12/13/2018 1:19 pm : link
at the party before leaving?

To the point, whose business is it if you need to leave early?
Also  
figgy2989 : 12/13/2018 1:19 pm : link
What time does the party go to?

If you are already going to be there for a good amount of time, no reason anyone should give you shit about leaving early.
RE: How long will you be  
SFGFNCGiantsFan : 12/13/2018 1:20 pm : link
In comment 14217453 section125 said:
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at the party before leaving?

To the point, whose business is it if you need to leave early?


Probably will be there for around 2 hours. I'll be looking for exit after dinner/dancing begins.
huge fan  
UConn4523 : 12/13/2018 1:21 pm : link
especially at weddings. At large gatherings I see no point in saying bye to everyone. If its a small get together with friends that I'd tell everyone i'm leaving.
at a work event  
ron mexico : 12/13/2018 1:21 pm : link
its completely fine.


I avoid gatherings  
Greg from LI : 12/13/2018 1:22 pm : link
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To be honest I wouldn't have even mentioned anything  
Jints in Carolina : 12/13/2018 1:22 pm : link
Just leave.
How senior are you?  
Mad Mike : 12/13/2018 1:22 pm : link
To me, it's a bit important for senior folks to do more than a brief appearance. Them being there is showing everyone else that they appreciate all their work and want to celebrate it. I think it sends a positive message. If you're not in a position like that, I don't think it matters at all. Also depends on how big your office is. Mine is 100+, so no one really notices who's there or not, other than the specific people they're close with. For a smaller party, an early exit might stand out a bit.
RE: I avoid gatherings  
figgy2989 : 12/13/2018 1:23 pm : link
In comment 14217463 Greg from LI said:
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Probably one of the most un-shocking posts you will ever see.
Mine is tonight as well  
JonC : 12/13/2018 1:23 pm : link
not going, prefer the comfort of home with the football game.
mine is also tonight  
UConn4523 : 12/13/2018 1:24 pm : link
starts at 4. I've got an early flight tomorrow morning so I'm probably going to irish goodbye around 7pm.
RE: RE: How long will you be  
Mad Mike : 12/13/2018 1:24 pm : link
In comment 14217456 SFGFNCGiantsFan said:
[quoteProbably will be there for around 2 hours. I'll be looking for exit after dinner/dancing begins. [/quote]
Didn't see this when I responded. 2 hours is more than long enough. I thought you were talking about something like 30 minutes. You should definitely have no hesitation.
I never  
Chef : 12/13/2018 1:29 pm : link
even go to the Office Holiday party so I would think it is fine.
RE: RE: I avoid gatherings  
Greg from LI : 12/13/2018 1:29 pm : link
In comment 14217468 figgy2989 said:
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Probably one of the most un-shocking posts you will ever see.


In general 4-5 people is the optimum group size. Once you start adding more people beyond that, it gets steadily less interesting.
RE: How senior are you?  
SFGFNCGiantsFan : 12/13/2018 1:30 pm : link
In comment 14217465 Mad Mike said:
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To me, it's a bit important for senior folks to do more than a brief appearance. Them being there is showing everyone else that they appreciate all their work and want to celebrate it. I think it sends a positive message. If you're not in a position like that, I don't think it matters at all. Also depends on how big your office is. Mine is 100+, so no one really notices who's there or not, other than the specific people they're close with. For a smaller party, an early exit might stand out a bit.


Not senior at all. And definitely more than 100 people. I'd figure 100-200.
Love it. I do it all the time  
Sean : 12/13/2018 1:31 pm : link
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Have mine tonight  
JayBinQueens : 12/13/2018 1:33 pm : link
Irish exiting is totally fine. Most people who will be there late will be drinking and you can always just pretend you were there later


Interesting so many of you are dreading it. I actually like my coworkers/company parties
Sometimes it has to be done  
mattlawson : 12/13/2018 1:35 pm : link
Other than one’s lovely grandparents, how insufferable is it to parade around the party saying goodbyes for an hour before you leave
RE: How long will you be  
Mr. Bungle : 12/13/2018 1:37 pm : link
In comment 14217453 section125 said:
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at the party before leaving?

To the point, whose business is it if you need to leave early?

His question is not "Is it OK to leave early?"

His question is "Is it OK to just slip out early without saying goodbye to anyone?"

I did exactly that at a recent Happy Hour with about 10 colleagues. It wasn't a problem.

Obviously, you pick your spot. You don't just stand up in the middle of a table conversation, put your coat on, and blatantly walk out. But I'm sure you're experienced in how to do it "gracefully."
RE: RE: How senior are you?  
section125 : 12/13/2018 1:37 pm : link
In comment 14217481 SFGFNCGiantsFan said:
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In comment 14217465 Mad Mike said:


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To me, it's a bit important for senior folks to do more than a brief appearance. Them being there is showing everyone else that they appreciate all their work and want to celebrate it. I think it sends a positive message. If you're not in a position like that, I don't think it matters at all. Also depends on how big your office is. Mine is 100+, so no one really notices who's there or not, other than the specific people they're close with. For a smaller party, an early exit might stand out a bit.



Not senior at all. And definitely more than 100 people. I'd figure 100-200.


Enjoy the party for the 2 hrs and then go home and enjoy the game.
Except for a couple folks, you will likely not be missed.

I delayed my honeymoon for a day so as to not miss the Giants Eagle game(many moons ago - still married).

Priorities!
RE: RE: How long will you be  
section125 : 12/13/2018 1:39 pm : link
In comment 14217494 Mr. Bungle said:
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In comment 14217453 section125 said:


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at the party before leaving?

To the point, whose business is it if you need to leave early?


His question is not "Is it OK to leave early?"

His question is "Is it OK to just slip out early without saying goodbye to anyone?"

I did exactly that at a recent Happy Hour with about 10 colleagues. It wasn't a problem.

Obviously, you pick your spot. You don't just stand up in the middle of a table conversation, put your coat on, and blatantly walk out. But I'm sure you're experienced in how to do it "gracefully."


You are being too technical. Suppose he says good bye to his close friends? Does that change anything?
An evening Christmas party just seems like more work  
Mayhap : 12/13/2018 1:47 pm : link
We start ours at lunchtime and then party until closing time. The last thing I want to do after a full day of work is continue hanging out at the office.
It comes in handy..  
Chris684 : 12/13/2018 1:49 pm : link
It depends on how large and who is a part of your group.

Small crowd including important people, not a great move.

Large crowd including all types of people, not a problem.

Obviously execution is key, taking a leak before leaving is always solid because it gets you away from the group without having to abruptly get up and walk out of the door in plain sight. Timing is important as well, ideally when those around you have had more to drink if possible.
Why would anyone...  
Chris in Philly : 12/13/2018 1:51 pm : link
give a coworker shit about splitting from an office party. Your buddy is a douche...
Before I ever knew it was called an Irish goodbye  
bradshaw44 : 12/13/2018 1:52 pm : link
My friends called it "Pulling a bradshaw44" but using my real name obviously. I hate saying goodbye to everyone. Half hugs, handshakes and trite conversation. Yuck, no thanks.
I do it all the time  
McNally's_Nuts : 12/13/2018 1:53 pm : link
especially when I'm with my girlfriends friends.

I just leave. I see nothing wrong with this.
Very appropriate in crowded situations  
weeg in the bronx : 12/13/2018 1:55 pm : link
I employ the Irish goodbye liberally in crowded bar/party situation. Totally acceptable provided you are not stranding anyone. The abandoned party must have other friends to hang with.
A long time ago, in the 1 year I actually worked for someone  
Stan in LA : 12/13/2018 2:13 pm : link
I had a plane ticket to the East Coast which was the same day as the office party. I told the boss I couldn't make it and he offered a later flight - First Class - if I would attend. Of course, I took the offer and thoroughly enjoyed the First Class treatment.
Anyone that cares about an Irish exit sucks  
NoGainDayne : 12/13/2018 2:18 pm : link
who the hell needs a personal goodbye?

If you want to thank the host a text message is just fine. A call the next day if you really want to make a point of it.
Its great  
TyreeHelmet : 12/13/2018 2:21 pm : link
But you can't say you are doing beforehand or speak about it after... Just do it.
depends... is this Irish exit in conjunction with  
SHO'NUFF : 12/13/2018 2:25 pm : link
an Asian-time arrival? With a Dirty Sanchez sandwiched somewhere in between?
We called it  
RobCrossRiver56 : 12/13/2018 2:25 pm : link
The move was go to the bathroom then out the door.
Mine is tonight as well  
jcn56 : 12/13/2018 3:01 pm : link
and I'd rather go to the dentist. Not only because I hate these things, but this year nobody I actually like (it's a short list) is attending. If I make it to 7 it's a miracle.
Halftime of the Cotton Bowl  
GeneInCal : 12/13/2018 3:14 pm : link
you're going to be looking for a party to go to.......
Irish exit  
GiantsLaw : 12/13/2018 3:21 pm : link
best way to leave non-family gatherings. I think for family gatherings it's important to say goodbye.
.  
arcarsenal : 12/13/2018 3:24 pm : link
Very big proponent of this move.

Never understood the need to go one by one to every single person at a large party/gathering/whatever just to let them know you're leaving unless there's a specific reason for doing so.

I don't need everyone to tell me when they're leaving, so I don't feel the need to tell other people when I am.

Obviously it depends on the situation. I wouldn't do this to really close friends or family. But if it was a big work party or something like that, yeah - I would just leave when I felt like I was ready to leave and not worry about announcing it to the entire room.
It is also just as much of a defense mechanism  
Chris684 : 12/13/2018 3:32 pm : link
against when you leave and everyone and their brother is trying to convince you to stay for reasons X, Y, Z when all you want to do in this case is get home to watch the game.

Nothing I hate more than trying to be persuaded to do stuff I have no interest in, or goodbyes that take a million years.

Unfortunately my wife is the queen of never-ending goodbyes. I could leave somewhere a million times in the time it takes her to leave once.
Mine was last week  
RinR : 12/13/2018 4:00 pm : link
Glad I stayed; both my raffle tickets were called! (~300 people there)
So do Irish people do Irish goodbyes  
lawguy9801 : 12/13/2018 4:13 pm : link
because they can't wait to get home to make Irish twins?

(If I were Irish, I don't know if I'd like all these "Irish" adjectives)
There isn't anything wrong with it  
Scyber : 12/13/2018 4:18 pm : link
IMO, interrupting everyone just to say goodbye is a bit selfish.
My wife is irish  
Les in TO : 12/13/2018 4:37 pm : link
And she’s all about the sneaking out of events without doing the tedious farewells but have never heard that expression irish goodbye until this
Pop smoke and vanish  
djm : 12/13/2018 4:45 pm : link
...
Why  
mitch300 : 12/13/2018 5:10 pm : link
not just DVR the game and leave the party a little later. With all the commercials and half time, you could catch up by the 4th quarter.
...  
26.2 : 12/13/2018 5:31 pm : link
Just say that your son/daughter/niece/nephew has a Christmas singing thing or some bullshit and you can't miss it. According to Facebook, its prime season for that stuff.

Or say that you really want to plow one of your coworkers and you don't trust your own judgement after the booze starts flowing.
Tried and true...  
trueblueinpw : 12/13/2018 5:43 pm : link
The Irish have given us this gift and it’s our responsibility to use it.
I bounced after 2 hours, saying goodbye to two close buddies.  
SFGFNCGiantsFan : 12/13/2018 8:12 pm : link
Home. Brew in hand.
RE: So do Irish people do Irish goodbyes  
Rob in Rockaway : 12/13/2018 8:36 pm : link
In comment 14217704 lawguy9801 said:
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because they can't wait to get home to make Irish twins?

(If I were Irish, I don't know if I'd like all these "Irish" adjectives)


Trust me the Irish aren't easily offended snowflakes and the Irish exit as it is properly known is a rather important skill to master.
Technically, a true Irish goodbye  
Lurts : 12/13/2018 10:20 pm : link
requires an exit through the bathroom window.
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