interesting article from 538 on what we all think it means to be a man. The most interesting part was the things men worry about most day-to-day:
Your weight 54%
Your finances 53%
Your physical health 49%
Your physique 33 %
Your ability to provide for your family 32 %
Your mental health 32 %
Sexual performance or amount of sex 23 %
Your hair or hairline 19 %
Your clothing or style 18 %
Appearance of your genitalia 13 %
Your height 6 %
None of the above 13%
https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/what-do-men-think-it-means-to-be-a-man/?ex_cid=story-twitter&fbclid=IwAR1zsSVifsk1Qan3No9RGjjhE1N0L_WnFbGdHBfiQa8eDshnMRy98MPmSHw - (
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"Your ability to provide for your family 32%"
I kid, I kid!
I mean by the time your genitalia makes an appearance, you're in. I can't imagine it would be a deal breaker.
I mean by the time your genitalia makes an appearance, you're in. I can't imagine it would be a deal breaker.
I agree. We don't call it our junk for nothing.
Is it being prepared to do the right thing, whatever the cost? Isn't that what makes a man?
My generation judges a man by the amount of alcohol he can consume.
this list is done by a bunch of pussies. hairline? clothes? weight? money? health? what a joke.
But, but, but those are difficult things to maintain.....
That was my first thought too, integrity is nowhere on that list. Also funny/sad that 42% of men ages 18-34 take their cues from pop culture.
We're living on a ship of fekkin' RATS.
I mean by the time your genitalia makes an appearance, you're in. I can't imagine it would be a deal breaker.
Humble brag from Mr. NormalLookingGenitalia over here
I mean by the time your genitalia makes an appearance, you're in. I can't imagine it would be a deal breaker.
They call it "bumping uglies" for a reason.
"Well, yeah, that and a pair of testicles. Mind if a do a J?"
Hmm, I'm only worried about what my wife thinks of my junk...FWIW
I definitely do. I'm 5'9 and while it could be worse, it could be much better. I have used dating apps in the past and I can't tell you how many girls state flat-out that they have a height threshold. They could be a fucking midget and still won't "settle" for any guy less than 6'.
Gotta agree. Clothing style? I'm 28, but call me old-fashioned: what happened to the days where men didn't know what the fuck to wear and couldn't be paid to go shopping? And now you're less of a man if you have no fashion sense?
Physique? Weight? Al Bundy, Archie Bunker, Peter Griffin, Homer Simpson and tons of other traditionally virile men would like to have a word...
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of adult men worry about their height? Put that in the "things you can't change" category and move on. The NBA isn't calling the vast majority of us.
I definitely do. I'm 5'9 and while it could be worse, it could be much better. I have used dating apps in the past and I can't tell you how many girls state flat-out that they have a height threshold. They could be a fucking midget and still won't "settle" for any guy less than 6'.
Why worry about something you can’t change? Due to my age and having met my wife relatively early in life, I just missed the on-line dating scene so I don’t understand it at all. That said, any woman who absolutely wouldn’t date a man based on his height alone is not someone you want to pursue anyway. Obviously, it is natural to stress about our own insecurities but when you literally can’t do anything to change something, why waste mental time on it? There are many things you can change about yourself on that list. Height and junk are not two of them.
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In comment 14246458 Pete in MD said:
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of adult men worry about their height? Put that in the "things you can't change" category and move on. The NBA isn't calling the vast majority of us.
I definitely do. I'm 5'9 and while it could be worse, it could be much better. I have used dating apps in the past and I can't tell you how many girls state flat-out that they have a height threshold. They could be a fucking midget and still won't "settle" for any guy less than 6'.
Why worry about something you can’t change? Due to my age and having met my wife relatively early in life, I just missed the on-line dating scene so I don’t understand it at all. That said, any woman who absolutely wouldn’t date a man based on his height alone is not someone you want to pursue anyway. Obviously, it is natural to stress about our own insecurities but when you literally can’t do anything to change something, why waste mental time on it? There are many things you can change about yourself on that list. Height and junk are not two of them.
True. I do understand that but it's when the insecurities and the depression overlap. Like seeing the 6'3 guy get the girl of your dreams even though he's a douche and is dumb as a box of rocks. That kind of stuff.
Your weight: 0%.
Your finances: 10%.
Your physical health: 20%
Your physique: 0%.
Your ability to provide for your family: 35%.
Your mental health: 35%.
Sexual performance or amount of sex:
Your hair or hairline: 0%.
Your clothing or style: 0%.
Appearance of your genitalia: 0%.
Your height: 0%.
None of the above: 0%.
The responses in this thread indicate not many understood the difference.
The responses in this thread indicate not many understood the difference.
What it means to be a man is very simple. The discussion became more philosophical. I'm pretty sure most of us understood the difference, except for you. Thanks for stopping by.
Yeah, but you compensate in other ways...like being pessimistic and cynical and a Rebel :)
I understand it just fine. Many of the responses here indicate many were misguided by the thread title. The definition of masculinity is lamented because it is not on the worry list.
Many men have a very good basis for what it means to be a man, and that is not at the top of our worry list.