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.McL. : 5/3/2019 7:32 pm
No that a few days have passed and the dust has settled on this week's tragic thread (you all know the one to which I am referring), I wanted say a few things to the BBI Community.

Threads like the one that happened this week are not a laughing matter. I see folks making jokes about it. The internet community as a whole has a problem of mob bullying. Singling out a poster for ridicule. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that the individual poster in question behaved well, but for sure the BBI community piled on, ridiculed and didn't let it go. We are all bonded by a common love for our football team. I would hope that we can take the high road in these situations. To some extent, I know how the target poster felt, I have been the target poster on some threads for posts I would to this day defend if I cared to. I don't think I said anything wrong. Part of the problem with the internet is that we can't see body language, intonation and various other subtle forms of communication. It leaves our posts open to interpretation at times.

I for one will not engage in a mob pile-up on a poster. Its a tragic situation. How would some of you feel if you later found out that the poster truly had psychological issues and committed suicide shortly after a tragic thread. Nothing good comes out of those threads. Now this does not mean I won't fire back at somebody that trolls me, or call bullshit on another post. But if the mob kicks in, I'm out.

I have seen numerous posts this week calling that thread an all time classic. Its not an all time classic. Its an all time embarrassment. I would like to think we are better than that.

I hope that the vast majority of posters here are mature enough to help avoid adding fuel to the fire on these tragic threads. Anybody else willing to make the same statement as I have about not ganging up and bullying posters, even when they have said something stupid. Just let it go and walk away.
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I don't have a lot of sympathy  
Sneakers O'toole : 5/4/2019 6:28 pm : link
for fake asshats.
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BigBlueDownTheShore : 5/4/2019 10:12 pm : link
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BigBlueDownTheShore : 5/4/2019 10:14 pm : link
I haven't read this thread yet  
madgiantscow009 : 5/5/2019 12:46 am : link
I am assuming the OP doesn't want any more Mets threads.
The pussification bit is what it is...  
Dunedin81 : 5/5/2019 7:55 am : link
I don't see what refraining from jabbing at someone who doesn't seem to be well has to do with pussification. Tragic is probably a rhetorical bridge too far. Asking that folks step back and apply a little basic decency is not.
I don't frequent this site  
River Mike : 5/5/2019 8:36 am : link
nearly as much as I used to, and I didn't see the thread in question. There seems to be no good excuse for what it apparently devolved into but I see a parallel in the many political "discussions" I've participated in on Facebook over a period of 2 plus years rather than the hours that thread lasted.

I originally began by attempting rational discussion using facts, logic, appeals to ethics, truth, etc. Met by complete dismissal of easily checked facts, derision, name calling, threats, I soon devolved into similar behavior rather than just recognizing the futility of further engagement. I began to ridicule them with no hope of persuasion, but somehow took satisfaction in at least exposing their B.S.

When I later re-read some of my posts, I didn't recognize myself and wasn't particularly fond of that person. To me, that thread in question appears as a microcosm of our times, human nature, and the nature of the faceless internet.
River Mike  
Big Al : 5/5/2019 10:21 am : link
Just a question because I would like your input. I saw the thread and as you said you did not. I really do not think it was the mob attack that some have led you to believe. Frankly most of the posters tried to engage in a reasonable conversation and/or calm down the poster who was sprewing out insults, not responding to reasonable questions and acting totally irrationally. Some but not the majority were ridiculing him and mostly after hours of hearing nonsense and insults from him.

Should we just have abandoned the thread and left it to an irrational i
unbalanced individual sprewing slanderous statements with no response? Probably the noble wise thing to do but not the typical human response to attacks. Should BBI thread simply be left to the
unbalanced individuals insulting the site owner and others?

I think that you are making a case for simply banning posters which would be an easy solution. Personally I am against banning except for extreme circumstance and would rather challenge a speaker than silence them. I am also not big on deleting threads and in this case I understand why it was not done by the moderators.

You probably have a point about starting all these follow up threads and we should move on but there is a natural human reaction to discuss things of interest after they have been concluded.
Al..  
FatMan in Charlotte : 5/5/2019 10:32 am : link
I thought that thread was actually one that should give BBI hope.

There was a lot of restraint showed to a poster that had a lot of stamina to keep pushing forward that he deserved an apology - to the point that he hurled insult after insult to Eric, arc and others.

Like you said - many pleaded with him to step back and reconsider what was going on. But one can't underestimate the sheer effort to keep that thread alive that day. A poster was literally engaged for 12+ hours on that thread.

And even at the end - even though the act had worn thin, most posters still kept the comments above board. Eris showed the most humor and restraint I've seen from him. And he had some classic one-liners - that weren't even attacks on the guy who started the thread.

There could have been a lot of piling on
RE: River Mike  
River Mike : 5/5/2019 12:48 pm : link
In comment 14432623 Big Al said:
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Just a question because I would like your input. I saw the thread and as you said you did not. I really do not think it was the mob attack that some have led you to believe. Frankly most of the posters tried to engage in a reasonable conversation and/or calm down the poster who was sprewing out insults, not responding to reasonable questions and acting totally irrationally. Some but not the majority were ridiculing him and mostly after hours of hearing nonsense and insults from him.

Should we just have abandoned the thread and left it to an irrational i
unbalanced individual sprewing slanderous statements with no response? Probably the noble wise thing to do but not the typical human response to attacks. Should BBI thread simply be left to the
unbalanced individuals insulting the site owner and others?

I think that you are making a case for simply banning posters which would be an easy solution. Personally I am against banning except for extreme circumstance and would rather challenge a speaker than silence them. I am also not big on deleting threads and in this case I understand why it was not done by the moderators.

You probably have a point about starting all these follow up threads and we should move on but there is a natural human reaction to discuss things of interest after they have been concluded.


Well, as you said, I didn't see the thread, so I really can't judge it. My comment was more about understanding how its possible for decent people to act out of character in this venue as I am guilty of it myself. I also have always been against banning posters … except maybe for threats of violence. Hated seeing MiS go and several others. I have no good opinions on how to make everyone play nice, and perhaps that shouldn't be the goal. But the variety of personas, make it interesting and what experienced here isn't unique to this site. In fact, probably our shared interest keeps it from going off the rails as much as other social media
I didn't see this particular thread  
santacruzom : 5/5/2019 1:23 pm : link
But I observed a pretty serious deterioration in that guy's ability to hold a civil conversation in a thread he'd posted just before the draft. He used the line, "Guys, you aren't listening... ______ is not going to happen" innocently and civilly enough several times in weeks prior, but that sentiment of his began to be delivered in a much more derogatory and personal way in that thread.

Still, you had guys enabling him and chastising those who were resisting him as "the reason asshats don't post here anymore." I guess this final thread put an end to that.
He was attacking people for weeks  
Zeke's Alibi : 5/5/2019 2:37 pm : link
Fuck that guy. Everytime you questioned his information he'd attack about calling him a liar. Guy was a fucking moron that couldn't rationalize that the info he was getting wasn't 100 percent accurate.
Missed All Of Whatever This Is About  
Percy : 5/7/2019 8:39 am : link
And glad I did. Hope everyone's self esteem and values are back in place with no permanent damage done. BBI is a good place, all things considered. I hope it stays that way.
Reallllly sanctimonious post, and way off the mark.  
Mike in Long Beach : 5/7/2019 9:27 am : link
1) The guy had been a poster here for years. He knew exactly what he was getting into.

2) He was the aggressor. He was the one name calling and bullying the owner of the site.

3) He continued to produce the very same behavior that led to his ridicule. For days!

That is the least sorry I've ever felt for a poster ever. This wasn't some guy coming here and then being chastised for his looks, intelligence, or a disability... aka things out of his control. He was a willing and aggressive participant--the catalyst--in a thread he started with fake information.
In fact  
Mike in Long Beach : 5/7/2019 9:28 am : link
I think it's an even more reasonable argument to say he was the bully, not the bullied. I know you said he behaved poorly, too. But if you look at that thread, of all the dozens of insults thrown around by many people, he probably accounted for a good 40% of them. That's a hell of a number when you're going against the field.
Difficult thread to watch  
JonC : 5/7/2019 9:39 am : link
jtgiants dig and dig himself a deeper hole, and the posts that were designed to really get under skin as well.
I asked JT numerous times to step away and take a breath  
montanagiant : 5/7/2019 9:51 am : link
As did many others. Instead he would double down to the point where it was childish on his part. Was there piling on? Yeah, but that was inevitable with the way he was going.
Tolerance  
idiotsavant : 5/7/2019 2:56 pm : link
"makes community stronger" in the words of someone above.

Tolerance implies patience and gentleness with people who are less than perfect, even when they ask for attention.

It's still bullying , even when they "deserve it".

Because we all "deserve it"
Bullying..  
FatMan in Charlotte : 5/7/2019 3:11 pm : link
has morphed from being physical and verbal abuse to being a catchall for when people's opinions aren't validated.

Schools struggle with bullying right now because the card is constantly played. We just had a couple situations where bullying didn't apply, yet was alleged. One was when a student didn't turn in their homework and the teacher lectured the entire class about how when you have a week to do an assignment and don't finish it is procrastination and unacceptable. The other was a lacrosse player was benched in the middle of the game for insubordination and his parents filed a complaint because other players were bullying him.

Turns out several players yelled at him to get his head out of his ass.
Fatty  
idiotsavant : 5/7/2019 3:20 pm : link
You are the worst if the lot. The quickest and most frequent to slap down some 12 year old trying out his pet theory.

There is something to the idea that people who seek an odd corner Luke thus to find a voice and validation might already be damaged, and here comes fatty with his bully cudgel.

Shameless bastard.


LOL..  
FatMan in Charlotte : 5/7/2019 3:22 pm : link
you've been here a long time and still don't understand things very well.

You can crusade for the little guy if you wish, but not validating a shitty opinion isn't bullying.
RE: Fatty  
arcarsenal : 5/7/2019 3:25 pm : link
In comment 14435603 idiotsavant said:
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You are the worst if the lot. The quickest and most frequent to slap down some 12 year old trying out his pet theory.

There is something to the idea that people who seek an odd corner Luke thus to find a voice and validation might already be damaged, and here comes fatty with his bully cudgel.

Shameless bastard.



So, what does this critical and assumptive post qualify as?

Let me guess; you're just a "voice of reason" sharing your unbiased observations (whilst name-calling and flexing your armchair psychology muscle, of course...) ?

But yes, I'm sure he's just some ruthless poster constantly knocking down 12 year olds testing out pet theories. Those poor kids.
RE: Tolerance  
bradshaw44 : 5/7/2019 3:49 pm : link
In comment 14435565 idiotsavant said:
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"makes community stronger" in the words of someone above.

Tolerance implies patience and gentleness with people who are less than perfect, even when they ask for attention.

It's still bullying , even when they "deserve it".

Because we all "deserve it"


But we only have to be tolerant to those that share are viewpoint right? Cause F--k everyone else.
RE: Bullying..  
Greg from LI : 5/7/2019 4:29 pm : link
In comment 14435593 FatMan in Charlotte said:
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has morphed from being physical and verbal abuse to being a catchall for when people's opinions aren't validated.


Bingo. Anything that anyone can perceive as critical or oppositional in nature now gets tagged as "bullying".
eh. Its not tragic nor is it wrong to debate the poster  
Bill2 : 5/7/2019 4:36 pm : link
I think of it differently.

I try to stay away from people whose behavior is consistently inconsistent with their own self interests. Especially if they are blind to reason or self interest for awhile.

Something else is going on and im not smart enough to figure it out.

So my obligation is only to do no further harm blundering around when I don't know wtf they want or need.

Who has brain cells or time to devote to more chaos? Learning nothing and wasting time and not earning and not producing and not healing is net energy lost to stupid

In general, Martin Buber had a note worth remembering when I can remember it in time: Everybody else's cry of anger is a some kind of cry of pain.
I learned a great lesson when I was a kid...  
Dan in the Springs : 5/7/2019 5:30 pm : link
we were playing kickball - I was probably about 8 or 9 years old. Some kid decided he wanted his little brother - maybe 6 yrs old - to have a turn. He kicked the ball and was promptly thrown out. The older brother complained - why did they have to throw him out? Couldn't we show him some compassion and let him get on base?

Another kid responded - "let him play with the six year olds then, if he wants to play with the big kids he needs to learn the big kids rules".

I felt compassion for the little kid. After all, he was little and what did it matter if we let him kick a "home run".

But I learned that day that sometimes that just ruins the game for all the other kids. Every time that six year old wanted to come up the game was interrupted. Soon his other little friends also wanted to play. Before long it was late and we couldn't play or finish the game.

BBI is a place treasured because of the great minds that contribute. It's best when we have wiser minds doing most of the posting and the rest of us reading. Compassion has its place, but so does keeping the site intelligent enough to be of interest to everyone else.

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arcarsenal : 5/7/2019 5:34 pm : link
Good post, Dan.

(And a reminder to myself that I should post a lot less than I do and read a lot more!)
RE: .  
Dan in the Springs : 5/7/2019 5:40 pm : link
In comment 14435819 arcarsenal said:
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Good post, Dan.

(And a reminder to myself that I should post a lot less than I do and read a lot more!)


You and me both. Sometimes when my schedule frees up I start posting a bunch. Sooner or later brighter minds speak up and tell me why I'm wrong about something, which is a great reminder to me that my contributions are greatly outweighed by those of quality posters here.

I think we can do both things - but sometimes a poster comes along and insists on posting the same stuff over and over again. It gets old, and worse yet, sometimes it starts getting repeated as fact. Brighter minds try to intervene and correct the thinking but sooner or later, a little harshness in criticism is the best remedy.

I think silence  
crick n NC : 5/7/2019 5:55 pm : link
Is the best answer most of the time. I'd say attempt to advise the individual in a reasonable manner why they are getting so much grief. If they choose to ignore or retaliate that should show you all you need to know. Chances are any conversation will not be worth the time or grief.
the thread, for most not named jt,  
fkap : 5/7/2019 6:30 pm : link
was not about an opinion not being validated. any who seriously think that it is are delusional.

as for the claims of 'I repeatedly told him to calm down, but he only got angrier and angrier', well, after the first time or two and seeing the result, maybe one would figure out that it wasn't a very good approach since it was so counter productive. It becomes a case of taunting, no matter how well intentioned, and I'm of the opinion that much, if not most, of it was not well intentioned.
RE: And McL  
EricJ : 5/7/2019 6:42 pm : link
In comment 14431192 Eric from BBI said:
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With all due respect, the guy in the end proved to be a fraud. He got outed and didn't like it. But he took advantage of this community by pretending to be something he wasn't.

He's not the victim.


True.... plus HE was the one who was throwing around insults.
We come here for Giants news  
Sneakers O'toole : 5/7/2019 6:54 pm : link
Not to be jerked around. F him and all like him.
If everyone ignored him  
steve in ky : 5/7/2019 9:35 pm : link
wouldn't that be shunning and just another form of bullying?

RE: If everyone ignored him  
crick n NC : 5/8/2019 8:51 am : link
In comment 14436098 steve in ky said:
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wouldn't that be shunning and just another form of bullying?


Hi Steve, I'm not sure if your reply was meant for my post above about deciding to be silent. For any particular thread heading down that same path, choosing the to disengage wouldn't be shunning. Now, if that poster is meant with the same silence on other posts that have nothing to do with their past thread then, yes I see your point.

Personally, I feel it's right to be respectful and polite as much as possible, even if the other chooses to use insults. I am not a big fan of "taking the gloves off" so to speak. I believe there are better ways to handle a hostile situation in regards to a message board discussion. In the past when I have chose to engage with an individual in an insulting manner it was typically because I was allowing my self pride to take control of my actions. My thoughts were a lot of times insulting, but me choosing to allow the thoughts to come out as visual words were fueled by my pride not wanting them to "best" me.

Now this is my personality, and the way I prefer to handle things. What I have said above isn't meant to be a solution for others. I also don't handle every situation perfectly in regards to my standards or beliefs.

I guess "at the end of the day" (Hi Antrel) I have no idea where people are in life, or what is going on in their life or what has happened to them. I also don't have the ability to change anyone's view on life, and I shouldn't be able to. I have only learned a very tiny amount in life, that certainly disqualifies me as a life expert. One thing I have learned is that people tend to look for acceptance, compassion, and understanding. But, to the point, if I attempt to help the person see why others are coming at them in a genuine way and they choose to ignore then to me the best way to handle the situation is to disengage, at least for that subject, not for future unrelated subjects.

Ignoring them is what causes this  
Sneakers O'toole : 5/8/2019 9:03 am : link
We're told not to chase away the asshats, so we hold back. Then they spend months and years lying to the board.
Let their record  
crick n NC : 5/8/2019 9:05 am : link
Speak for itself
I never attacked him  
Sneakers O'toole : 5/8/2019 9:07 am : link
But I find the hand wringing over hin puzzling. He led all of you on for a long time
That wasnt to crick  
Sneakers O'toole : 5/8/2019 9:08 am : link
I typed that before I saw it
RE: That wasnt to crick  
crick n NC : 5/8/2019 9:10 am : link
In comment 14436400 Sneakers O'toole said:
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I typed that before I saw it


It's 🆒
RE: He was attacking people for weeks  
Gatorade Dunk : 5/8/2019 9:47 am : link
In comment 14432967 Zeke's Alibi said:
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Fuck that guy. Everytime you questioned his information he'd attack about calling him a liar. Guy was a fucking moron that couldn't rationalize that the info he was getting wasn't 100 percent accurate.

Weeks? It was more than a year. He was pulling the same garbage last year leading up to the draft too, except that his "predictions" (which were really more just preferences that the Giants remain loyal to Eli at all cost) didn't blow up in his face last year, so he got to keep the asshat title that he clearly craved.

This year that changed - not only did the Giants not abide by his personal wishes for Eli when they selected Jones at #6, it also represented a major ding against his asshat cred (in his own perception at least, which made him extra defensive).

That's what triggered that thread and the meltdown that followed, IMO. He was so emotionally invested in not only being seen as an asshat here, but also in the Giants believing in Eli in perpetuity, that when both of those two things evaporated simultaneously, he seemed genuinely distraught.

I feel bad about a lot of the things I posted in that thread - I can't claim innocence here because I felt like he was having a meltdown and I kept poking the bear. I'm not proud of that despite the fact that I didn't think there was anything wrong with pointing out that he was not nearly the credible source that so many believed he was.

If he was in fact experiencing some sort of emotional breakdown, I do hope he gets whatever help he needs.
It may have been a dogpile  
jhibb : 5/8/2019 1:58 pm : link
but I kind of figured jtgiants was the Bugs Bunny in this situation.


In the wake of yet another school shooting  
.McL. : 5/9/2019 2:56 am : link
I find that I have something more to add...

In my OP I stated that I would not participate in the mob culture of ganging up on some posters. I also asked who else was willing to say the same.

I want to make it clear that the behavior of the poster who was ganged up on is in no way acceptable or easily forgiven. It was reprehensible. He has been here a long time and never behaved that way before. At the end of the day it doesn't really matter, because what matters is that each of us should examine our own behavior and decide if that behavior is that behavior a point or pride or not? How are others perceiving that behavior and is that perception desirable? What are the impacts of that behavior, and are those impacts desirable?

I am not forcing anybody to change their behavior. I am not pointing a finger at anybody, passing judgement, being presumptuous, or as one poster said being a pussy.

It is about taking responsibility for myself, my actions, and working (emphasis on the working) to be a better version of myself than I was the day before. And doing that every day of my life. When I started this thread, I knew that I would get flamed by some. And I make this post knowing that I will get flamed again. Taking responsibility for myself is not presumptuous, it is not passing judgement, it is not preachy. That said, I have the courage of my convictions, to speak up for what I believe in. I leave it to individuals to decide for themselves if they agree or not. But speaking up when you know that some will excoriate you for doing so, is the exact opposite of being a pussy.

And let me be clear on this, it’s not about just BBI. BBI is just a microcosm of the rest of Society. Personal responsibility, honor, and real service to making our society better has never been at a lower point than it is now. The evidence is everywhere. We have a mass shooting once a week, including the one that happened yesterday. Road rage violence. Out of control corporate and personal greed. We have divisive politics threatening our democracy. Suicide rates are at all-time highs, especially amongst children. Hate crimes on the rise. Nuclear proliferation and climate change that present us with serious existential threats. We didn't just suddenly arrive here. As a Society, bit by bit, we have allowed our souls to be eaten, our honor to be eroded, and our personal responsibility abdicated. We all want to get ahead and have a better life, and I am by no mean saying it should not be that way, but it should come with responsibility.

You can say it’s not a big deal it’s just fan message board for a football team. But if I cannot take responsibility for the way I behave here, how is that I can say that I am taking responsibility anywhere else. Am I spending time with my son making sure he is happy, and noticing any changes? Am I teaching him the right values? Am I setting the right examples? Am I doing my best I can to leave him a world and society in which he can thrive when it’s his turn? As a parent, that I must take these responsibilities seriously. I need to set the right example for my son. I need to face him and say that not only am I not participate in the continued erosion of our Earth and society, but that I tried to make it a bit better. As a Society, how far do we need to sink before we start taking responsibility, when does it stop?

There is the aspect of BBI being a rough place, post at your own risk, and in that way, it is self-policing. I even said in my Op that if somebody trolls me, I will fire back, if somebody posts stupid, I will call bullshit. And I encourage that kind of self-policing, otherwise this place will get overwhelmed with stupid, it will lose part of the fun of the hard debate, and be plain boring. However, in this case I agree with fkap, I first opened that thread after about 2 hours. In fact, I saw when it was first created, but I knew just from the title what was going to happen. And the thread itself was exactly as I expected, it was a clear meltdown pretty much from the get go, the thread starter was getting lots of “help”, over, and over, and over again. Even when it was clear that the poster was not reacting well to the “help”, there was no shortage of more “help”. As Bill2 said, I knew I wasn’t in a position to know what the underlying issue was with the poster, and I was not in a position to provide real help. There was simply no benefit to be had by me spending time and posting on the thread.

To tie all this together with the sad and tragic news from Colorado, every time we participate in the disaffection of another human being, we inch a little bit closer to the next Columbine, Sandy Hook, or Parkland. Every time we abdicate responsibility, we allow another nibble on our collective soul, and help create an environment that enables the hate, enables loneliness, enables the corruption, enables the bullies, enables the anger, etc. Will my taking responsibility for my actions on BBI matter in Society as a whole. Probably not. You can criticize me for using the word tragic as a euphemism, but, the point is the little things in life matter, doing lots of little things right eventually adds up to something much bigger, doing them wrong eventually leads to bad results, sometimes tragic results.
You said  
Big Al : 5/9/2019 7:58 am : link
“In my OP I stated that I would not participate in the mob culture of ganging up on some posters. I also asked who else was willing to say the same.”

I will not participate in a mob culture of hanging up on people. However, again as I and others have said I do not consider that thread a mob attack. Being a chat forum, I will post when I feel like posting saying what I want to say (which is not necessarily part of a mob because I am part of the majority opinion). If I want to try to “help” someone I disagree with I will do so without worrying about those who are on a higher moral plain than me disagreeing and passing judgment.


Ganging  
Big Al : 5/9/2019 7:59 am : link
Not hanging.
RE: In the wake of yet another school shooting  
ron mexico : 5/9/2019 8:12 am : link
In comment 14437284 .McL. said:
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I find that I have something more to add...

In my OP I stated that I would not participate in the mob culture of ganging up on some posters. I also asked who else was willing to say the same.



I'm with you. Once the crowd moves in I back away.

That wasn't always the case. In my early years of message boarding I would seek out stupid posts from stupid posters to shred them apart.

I am still a wise ass from time to time but for the most part I keep it focused on the guys who can handle it.
I just did some research on a phrase I got wrong above.  
Big Al : 5/9/2019 8:20 am : link
““Plain” is also an adjective which can describe things that are ordinary, simple, or unattractive. But whether you go the airport to catch a plane or meditate to achieve a higher plane of consciousness, the meanings that have to do with things high up are spelled “plane.”‘
Personal..  
FatMan in Charlotte : 5/9/2019 8:37 am : link
responsibility is a slippery slope to navigate on a message board because the assumption is usually directed at people who respond instead of those who create content or handles.

There should be a personal responsibility to deliver material that is worth contributing. There should be a personal responsibility to not create multiple usernames with the intention of trolling a board until banned and then repeat. Those two things alone would elevate the level of discourse

IMO, the tie to Colorado here is misguided. That shooter was a bully. He would whisper into student's ears that he was going to start shooting when pencils hit the floor and then throw pencils on the floor to scare them. He wasn't bullied to the point of snapping or disaffected by other's rebuke. Same with the shooter in Charlotte.

One can be reflective in the wake of tragic events, but let's not pretend that the actions on a thread where a poster self-destructed is a microcosm of anything.
Seems  
Harvest Blend : 5/9/2019 9:36 am : link
that being a big shot on BBI or any other site that people frequent is a very big deal to some people. It's curious but it's reality.

No amount of these threads will ever change that.
RE: Seems  
RicosRoidedElbow : 5/11/2019 7:08 pm : link
In comment 14437435 Harvest Blend said:
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that being a big shot on BBI or any other site that people frequent is a very big deal to some people. It's curious but it's reality.

No amount of these threads will ever change that.


One could say that goes for any message board. Footles.
RE: RE: Seems  
Gatorade Dunk : 5/13/2019 10:03 am : link
In comment 14440126 RicosRoidedElbow said:
Quote:
In comment 14437435 Harvest Blend said:


Quote:


that being a big shot on BBI or any other site that people frequent is a very big deal to some people. It's curious but it's reality.

No amount of these threads will ever change that.



One could say that goes for any message board. Footles.

May '19. Interesting choice to weigh in on this thread.
Happily I Missed Whatever Triggered ThisThread  
Percy : 5/18/2019 9:45 am : link
But I'm glad to see so many trying rationally to deal with "piling-on-insult" stuff on this -- or any other-- board. Nastiness by a group turning on a single person can do real damage to a loner who's already a badly alienated individual. What that loner does in some other aspect of his or her life at least in part as a reaction is going to remain unknown. But no board is a "safe place" or should become one IMHO. Mental cases exist. Doesn't mean anyone has to hang out with them or take care of them here or anywhere. Hope whoever started this recovers somehow. But it's not everyone else's problem. Whoever this was about should find another sandbox.
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