She: Have a great idea I'm really excited about (goes into detail). What do you think.
He: Not so sure it's a great idea. I wouldn't do that.
& lt;later that same day& gt;
She: I really want to do my idea.
He: Then do it, but it's not a good idea.
& lt;that night& gt;
She: I just think it's a great idea. Why don't you think I should do this?
He: {explains why logically it's a bad idea and won't work.
& lt;next morning& gt;
She: I don't want you to be upset, but I think I'm going to do that idea.
He: Fine. Do what you want - I wouldn't, but whatever.
& lt;a few days later, after idea was implemented and failed& gt;
She: I'm so upset, this was such a bad idea. I feel so stupid. (tears of regret)
He: _______________________
P.S. Asking for a friend
Think: I told you so, idiot
or
Pass the beer nuts.
- Norm
But if your "friend" hasn't learned by now that when a woman asks your advice she's very likely to do whatever she feels like doing anyway regardless of what you say, this was hopefully a learning experience for him too.
She: I can't believe I did this, this was so stupid.
He: (long pause) It will be okay.
She: I need to undo this.
He: Just leave it alone would be best.
<next day>
She: How can I fix this.
He: You can't. It is what it is, you just have to move on.
She: I can't believe I did this, I have to fix this. I think I'm going to...(enter new idea)
He: That will only make it worse. Please just let it go.
<repeat this conversation for another two days>
She: I have an idea about how to fix this. (explains idea)
He: Please don't do that. It's not a good idea. Just leave it alone.
She: Really? I think this could be good.
He: _________________________
What do you say now?
Friend wants to know.
Wait, She sounds like a real winner and your "Friend" should run away...very very far away. If "Friend" is married to "she", "friend" needs to grow a sack and tell "she" that she is an idiot.
After 28 years of marriage, friend knows that she does this from time to time. Darn thing is that friend loves she and is luck to have she. Friend's mistakes far outweigh she's.
The time for itoldyouso is later, my friend, if at all.
He: "If it makes you happy, then go for it.
That's it. No more discussion. She sinks or swims on her own. If it fails then it's "That's terrible. I'm so sorry it didn't work out."
They aren't looking for opinions. They are looking for support.
He: "If it makes you happy, then go for it.
That's it. No more discussion. She sinks or swims on her own. If it fails then it's "That's terrible. I'm so sorry it didn't work out."
They aren't looking for opinions. They are looking for support.
That sounds good, but she isn't satisfied with that response. She wants to hear friend say friend is on board with the idea, even though friend isn't and won't be.
Not a big deal, friend isn't in any kind of marital trouble, knows how to deal with this, just thought it would be interesting to hear viewpoints on this kind of relationship dilemma that happens from time to time.
This is what my friend asked me to communicate to you. So I’m doing him a favor.
LOL...
Be positive, supportive, it's what anyone would want.
Flip that around, if your child was in a relationship with someone who always was negative about her projects, what advice would you give her? Find more positive, supportive, enthused relationships!