Hey guys,
Off topic but curious for some insight. Have an Amsterdam and Munich (Oktoberfest) trip planned in a few weeks for my 30th birthday. Have a bunch of buddies meeting in Munich for Oktoberfest portion, but the one friend who was supposed to be on both legs now has to cancel the trip because he broke his foot this weekend. He broke it being a drunk asshole and kicking a wall and is getting surgery on his foot.
Now he wants me to split the costs of cancelling the hotel and the new arrangements I have to make are going to be about $300 more. All in all its probably going to cost me like 500-600 more and now being alone for the first leg of the trip. Am I wrong in thinking he should at least pay the couple hundred dollars for cancelling other hotel? I could understand if he had cancelled because of a medical emergency or family death etc, but I feel like I'm being punished for him being an idiot when he's drunk.
He's a pretty good friend so don't wanna ruin the friendship but also pretty pissed about the whole situation. Any feedback much appreciated!
My opinion is if you find common ground on anything with this person you might want to rethink your position.
I know it’s tough for younger people with generally less money - but ruining friendships over $300 isn’t worth it when you look back on life. At least he offered to split - take the long view and move on.
I know it’s tough for younger people with generally less money - but ruining friendships over $300 isn’t worth it when you look back on life. At least he offered to split - take the long view and move on.
I agree with this.
Btw, I did 3 nights in Amsterdam solo in July and it was amazing. For like 3 or 4 days it has a great amount of culture to do just about everything and go out at night. I did stay in a hostel so that I could find groups to do shit with (even though I could afford a hotel). Van Gogh museum is a must: you can do the whole thing in like 2ish hours, which is nice. Van Rijks museum is also amazing but that thing is big. They are outlawing walking tours of the red light district in 2020, so do one of those--you really get to hear about it from all different perspectives.
Amsterdam isn't really known for it's food (for good reason), but if you like meat, go to Cafe de Kloss. It's amazing. The rest of the food I ate there was pretty meh tbh.
In any event, if you don't mind traveling alone, it's a pretty cool place to do so.
To points mentioned about, this is a pretty annoying situation that you now have to not only incur more charges but also deal with being solo. That said in 10 years are you going to value that 500 dollars or friendship more?
If this is a real good friend of yours, sit down with him and in a friendly/joking manner let him know how much his stupidity is costing you. If you have a good relationship, he should be willing to give you some money to offset any increased fees. Unless he is an absolute cheapskate, he is going to be saving money by not going on the trip and since it is your Birthday and you let him know how much it meant to you, he should have no problem forking over some dough.
As many have said above, if you both value the friendship over any monetary issue, there should be an understanding that you come up with.
Good luck.
Also whose credit card is everything on?
Regardless the kid is a douchebag. He should be apologizing, not asking for reinbursement. People saying that a friendship isn't worth 300$ I would disagree completely. Getting away from this loser leech of a friend for free is a godsend.
I can’t help but think of the scene from A Bronx Tale when Sonny gives C advice after seeing the guy who owed C money.
This guy sucks.
Probably don't even have retirement savings but hey at least you get to go to Europe, YOLO!
I know it’s tough for younger people with generally less money - but ruining friendships over $300 isn’t worth it when you look back on life. At least he offered to split - take the long view and move on.
^^^This is good advice.
Lol - another old man who can't read. It is an NFT...
But all the other costs are on you
This guy sucks.
.....a friend with weed is better.
can anyone name that song?
MAB pointed it out above, if everything is already booked as far as hotels, what exactly are you being hit with if he backs out? Did you pay for his airline ticket with your CC?
Go to Amsterdam be yourself and enjoy the RLD without any of gossip coming back to the States lol , live it up young man
And this
Quote:
is an asshole indeed."
This guy sucks.
.....a friend with weed is better.
can anyone name that song?
Damnit I know the song but don’t know the name. Came out in the 90s.
Pure morning!