Hey guys. Stuck between rock and hard place here. Just looking for advice. My daughter tried out for 6th grade volleyball but was cut from team this week along with 3 other girls. At 1st I told her that I was proud of her for giving 100% and trying as she has never played the sport before.
This morning I find out that the team kept a student that is in special ed. This student is handicapped and cant physically play as the other girls. Still, I think this is good for the team to keep her and let her play. Its 6th grade and she deserves to feel the part of the team. The problem I'm having, is my 12 yo doesn't look at it like this. She says it's not fair as she constantly outplayed this girl and deserved to make the team. Her and my wife want to contact school district which I want no part of doing.
How do you guys feel about this? Am I wrong for wanting to sit this one out? I say let it go, and let that poor girl enjoy herself, but then I have my own daughter beating herself up over this? I will not have anything to do with contacting the school over this.
Work hard, practice on her own and try again next year.
Is she interested in other sports? Local club Soccer or Basketball is probably starting up.
She missed a chance to help your daughter grow.
She missed a chance to help your daughter grow.
The other girl making the team anyway was my first thought as well. I'd try and explain that to my daughter and let her know she didn't take her spot.
What about the next to last girl who made the team or any others. Did your daughter out play them? If so she has a right to be bummed but if not, she should work on getting better and beat those girls out next year.
Agreed about the teaching lesson/growing part as well.
She missed a chance to help your daughter grow.
This hits the nail on the head. Life isn't fair sometimes, and the sooner you learn that the better. 6th grade certainly isn't too early.
Sports today is crazy competitive.
By 6th grade....kids are in clinic/summer leagues/camps etc...My recommendation and is to get her more ready for the next tryout sport etc.
She is not competing against the last spot on the team.....she is competing against the starters....
what is worse....is making the team and never playing.
My son always would miss the 5th/6th/7th basketball teams....the buddies that did make it....rarely played. I would find another league that he started and played a ton....today he is better then all his buddies and most of the "stars".
The key is finding leagues/teams that allow her to play.
that is the guidance your wife should be providing.
Instead of contacting school districts, she should be focusing on developing the skills that may help her next year (if she's passionate about the sport).
Jordan not making his HS Varsity Basketball team is a good one.
No good will come from your wife pushing the issue in this case
Work hard, practice on her own and try again next year.
Agree with this. The lesson in the unfairness of life isn't that your daughter didn't make the team. It is that she doesn't understand what compassion and respect is to another human being that would give anything to have life the way your daughter does. It seems like your daughter and wife both need to learn how to walk a mile in the other girls shoes.
1. Have your daughter speak with the coach and for them to identify how she can improve for next year. Just like you see a teacher if you struggled in a class you go to extra help.
2. She could also if she could help support the team in any way. At that age don't be surprised if another member quits or maybe gets injured and that may open up a opportunity if she is around the team.
In upstate NY, there are plenty of avenues for special needs children to participate without having to displace non special needs children.
Right or wrong, though, your family will look like ogres if you fight it. Teach your daughter how to play and try again next time. No matter what the sport is, if she's a beginner while others already know the game, she's going to get beat out unless there's low turnout.
When things dont go your way, you have two choices.....keep working hard and fighting for your spot, or give up and prove the coaches right.
I have a feeling you'll steer your daughter in the right direction
It's tough to be cut. If she loves volleyball, keep her playing somewhere. She has to improve and she won't keep up with the improvement of those on the team if she isn't playing. It's a rare person that toughs it out and comes back to tryout again the following year. More power to her if she does.
If it was more of a social thing than a love of volleyball, then help her find alternatives.
...my two cents, you are doing everything right. Hold your ground and just continue to be supportive of your daughter.
I get cuts when you're at a biggest district or it's a sport where you need to cut 25 people.
But 6th-grade volleyball? Man, 6th grade is when you still have no idea what some of the kids will eventually become.
Sure you have the naturals who you know are just going to always be there, but in 6th grade, there are still kids who haven't even thought about one sport or another, and who will be key contributors in high school. Just how it goes.
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Agree with anyone who posted: teach her perspective and encourage her to work her ass off to make the next available team.
Um...IMO, you need to get on the bus, or prepared to be run over by it.
"Family demands handicapped player be removed from 6th grade team". go viral. Because it will and it's not a good look.
Personally, dont ignore your daughters feelings. They are real. However, if you are capable of surviving the immediate drama this will be a real learning experience for her and your family. My daughter chose not to try out last year for the cheerleading squad as a freshman and regrets it immensely to this day. We had a difficult time with her last year emotionally as she was adjusting to this new high school. This year, so far so good, as a sophomore. The anger and emotions have subsided and she is starting to truly enjoy HS. So, I guess for some, time heals all wounds. The middle school grades are real difficult. Try to be the common sense parent if you can, but dont ignore your daughters feelings. These things hurt. Good Luck. 👍
This will be one of the best things that will happen to her if you play it smart. Failure is just another opportunity to create more success.
Sports are extracurricular. It's completely different than a class.
Personally, dont ignore your daughters feelings. They are real. However, if you are capable of surviving the immediate drama this will be a real learning experience for her and your family. My daughter chose not to try out last year for the cheerleading squad as a freshman and regrets it immensely to this day. We had a difficult time with her last year emotionally as she was adjusting to this new high school. This year, so far so good, as a sophomore. The anger and emotions have subsided and she is starting to truly enjoy HS. So, I guess for some, time heals all wounds. The middle school grades are real difficult. Try to be the common sense parent if you can, but dont ignore your daughters feelings. These things hurt. Good Luck. 👍
With all due respect, I don't think they will be tagged as "those kinds of parents" unjustifiably. You just don't go to the school board or administration for this kind of thing. yankeeslover's instinct are completely correct. This is a great teachable moment. My own 7th grade son is a long shot to make the 7th/8th grade soccer team because so many kids are trying out for it. It is what it is. Learn to deal with rejection, and use it as an opportunity to build grit.
They dont cut the weak students from algebra, but they do get a poor grade. Typically, algebra is a requirement. Students have to take it by law, rule or policy. If it is an elective, a student can elect to not take the course.
Interscholastic athletics are not required. It is a privilege to play sports and yes, students do have to try out and do get cut. Athletics are not clubs. Clubs are voluntary and everyone gets to participate.
This is an important lesson and in a few years your daughter will understand that. In the moment I am sure it is frustrating for her and your wife, but it will pass. Encourage her not to call the district.
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and professional perspective. Ive been an attorney for 25 years, more than half of that time as an education law attorney, the last 14 as in-house counsel for a large school district. I am no longer in that position and have transitioned back to the private sector. I am also the father of a 15 year old daughter who has had difficulty assimilating to a high school where she doesnt know anyone. Professionally, I would advise you not to complain to anyone at the school. The complaints will go largely unheeded and your family will unjustifiably be tagged as those types of parents. Many here have advised you of such. I had a front row seat countless times to this type of situation.
Personally, dont ignore your daughters feelings. They are real. However, if you are capable of surviving the immediate drama this will be a real learning experience for her and your family. My daughter chose not to try out last year for the cheerleading squad as a freshman and regrets it immensely to this day. We had a difficult time with her last year emotionally as she was adjusting to this new high school. This year, so far so good, as a sophomore. The anger and emotions have subsided and she is starting to truly enjoy HS. So, I guess for some, time heals all wounds. The middle school grades are real difficult. Try to be the common sense parent if you can, but dont ignore your daughters feelings. These things hurt. Good Luck. 👍
With all due respect, I don't think they will be tagged as "those kinds of parents" unjustifiably. You just don't go to the school board or administration for this kind of thing. yankeeslover's instinct are completely correct. This is a great teachable moment. My own 7th grade son is a long shot to make the 7th/8th grade soccer team because so many kids are trying out for it. It is what it is. Learn to deal with rejection, and use it as an opportunity to build grit.
Valid point. It may not be unjustified depending on the approach. Well put.
Of course a middle school team cuts kids. My son just started 6th grade. His school has over 1000 students. Are there supposed to be 100s of kids on the teams?
Kindness is the name of the game.
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Man youth sports sucks.
Of course a middle school team cuts kids. My son just started 6th grade. His school has over 1000 students. Are there supposed to be 100s of kids on the teams?
Kindness is the name of the game.
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a student can be denied a spot regardless of skill level. Do they cut the weak math students out of algebra?
They dont cut the weak students from algebra, but they do get a poor grade. Typically, algebra is a requirement. Students have to take it by law, rule or policy. If it is an elective, a student can elect to not take the course.
Interscholastic athletics are not required. It is a privilege to play sports and yes, students do have to try out and do get cut. Athletics are not clubs. Clubs are voluntary and everyone gets to participate.
Yes - if you're in 8th grade, only certain kids can take algebra. The others have to wait.
Multiple teams = multiple coaches. You want higher taxes?
Well played...LOL
That being said, does your town have a local youth volleyball program that your daughter can participate in? Where I live, we have a travel program where cuts are made and then everyone is part of the in-town league. If you just have a middle school program then they are free to make cuts or not make cuts based on the number of players the coach wants to carry.
Situation definitely sucks and if your daughter is serious about volleyball, perhaps there is another program she can join to improve her skills
Exactly. My kid won't make the school team I don't think, but he plays in the town's intramural league.
You should probably explain this to your daughter and wife as politely as possible. And just tell your daughter she should use this as motivation to practice and put herself in a better position to make the team next year.
In class, you dont try. You dont hope for an A. You do anything and everything to get an A. If you want an A, dont try to get a 90. Get high 90s to ensure it happens. Now if youre not an A student, so be it. You may have to just try harder than the kid sitting next to you. But if you want As, thats what you have to do. Now if youve done everything possible and got Bs. Im proud of you, and you should be proud that you did anything and everything to do your best. And accept the fact that in that one subject your just not an A student.
Same lesson carries on to youth sports. Be an a player. Whatever it takes. Your goal shouldnt be to MAKE the team. Or even to start. But to be the best player you can possibly be. You can only control your effort, so dont ever let someone have more desire or more effort than you. Thats the only thing you can control. Now if your skill or talent makes you a borderline cut, then there is politics. And you either play that game or not. But if you ever get cut, but tried your absolute best and left everything out there, again Im proud of you and you should be proud of yourself. No excuses, coach chose other players for whatever reason and wish them success.
Long winded, and not necessarily right or wrong.
In the case of taking a special ed kid for the last roster spot. Yeah, that kid may very well appreciate his role more than anyone. He may motivate his teammates. They may all rally around him. Not saying your wife would be a complainer but if shes already trying to talk to the school about getting cut, maybe coach thinks she will complain about your daughters playing time? Just a perspective from the coaches side, thats all
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a student can be denied a spot regardless of skill level. Do they cut the weak math students out of algebra?
Yes - if you're in 8th grade, only certain kids can take algebra. The others have to wait.
I don't know about your district but in mine if the kid is capable of taking it in 8th grade and wants to they do not deny anybody no matter how much extra it costs the district.
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a student can be denied a spot regardless of skill level. Do they cut the weak math students out of algebra?
Yes - if you're in 8th grade, only certain kids can take algebra. The others have to wait.
I don't know about your district but in mine if the kid is capable of taking it in 8th grade and wants to they do not deny anybody no matter how much extra it costs the district.
My wife is a teacher. I have two kids in public school. I myself went to public school. I have literally never heard of this kind of course scheduling. In 99.9% of the rest of the world, kids get placed in classes based on their demonstrated abilities. A low-performing student doesn't get placed in advanced classes just ti give it a try.
I didn't make the JV baseball team as a 9th grader. They kept 5 football players who had hardly played baseball before. I don't even think a coach watched anything I did in tryouts.
That Summer, I pitched a perfect game in Babe Ruth and led the team in almost every pitching and hitting category. The varsity coach came to one of the games and pulled me aside afterwards and said "You should come out for the team next year". I told him I had the previous year and was cut. He said "next year will be different".
Played varsity the next three years as a starter.
Don't worry about who else has made the team - work on how your daughter can make the team.
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a student can be denied a spot regardless of skill level. Do they cut the weak math students out of algebra?
Yes - if you're in 8th grade, only certain kids can take algebra. The others have to wait.
I don't know about your district but in mine if the kid is capable of taking it in 8th grade and wants to they do not deny anybody no matter how much extra it costs the district.
My wife is a teacher. I have two kids in public school. I myself went to public school. I have literally never heard of this kind of course scheduling. In 99.9% of the rest of the world, kids get placed in classes based on their demonstrated abilities. A low-performing student doesn't get placed in advanced classes just ti give it a try.
My point is from the OP's post it seems his daughter is perfectly capable of playing on the volleyball team and is being denied. If she was capable of taking algebra in 8th grade there is no way she would be denied a spot in a class.
Its a public school. They all should be playing
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No the other girl is most likely not playing.
Its a public school. They all should be playing
I think you meant to say an entry level rec league team....
a. there is a finite number of players most sports teams can accept, there are very few "everybody makes the team' sports in competitive sports.
b. there is also no expectation that "everyone plays" even in public schools.
it's not surprising that some kids have entitlement mentality when adults have these perceptions.
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No the other girl is most likely not playing.
Its a public school. They all should be playing
Cute meme(you hitting that?) but just because it has been done this way for so long doesn't make it right.
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No the other girl is most likely not playing.
Its a public school. They all should be playing
Cute meme(you hitting that?) but just because it has been done this way for so long doesn't make it right.
HAHAHA! A sex joke! Hilarious!
OK, so say the school has 1000 students and 200 want to play on the soccer team. Do 200 kids make the soccer team? Do you hire 9 more coaches and make 10 soccer teams? I am not sure you are thinking this one through to the conclusion.
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No the other girl is most likely not playing.
Its a public school. They all should be playing
Cute meme(you hitting that?) but just because it has been done this way for so long doesn't make it right.
HAHAHA! A sex joke! Hilarious!
OK, so say the school has 1000 students and 200 want to play on the soccer team. Do 200 kids make the soccer team? Do you hire 9 more coaches and make 10 soccer teams? I am not sure you are thinking this one through to the conclusion.
Yes I am thinking it through.
This post is glorious.
There isn't some God-given right that if you play on a team that you are given any chance to succeed. It doesn't work that way in sports and it doesn't work that way in life.
But be mindful of alternatives; she might find her true passion. I remember trying out for HS basketball and getting cut and then joining the drama club instead. Got me beat up all the time. So, maybe choose wisely.
There isn't some God-given right that if you play on a team that you are given any chance to succeed. It doesn't work that way in sports and it doesn't work that way in life.
The next level is...and you actually do hear this a lot, even for varsity sports...is that all the kids on the team should get to play (even equal times)...because it's not about winning.
There isn't some God-given right that if you play on a team that you are given any chance to succeed. It doesn't work that way in sports and it doesn't work that way in life.
No divine rights or entitlement. If you are capable and willing to put in the work you should play just like in any other part of school. If that takes 1 coach or twenty coaches it doesnt matter.
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Why is it "right" for every person to play? This entitlement shit has gotten fucking ridiculous.
There isn't some God-given right that if you play on a team that you are given any chance to succeed. It doesn't work that way in sports and it doesn't work that way in life.
No divine rights or entitlement. If you are capable and willing to put in the work you should play just like in any other part of school. If that takes 1 coach or twenty coaches it doesnt matter.
Must be nice to live in a school district with no limit on budgets and no knowledge of competition or reality
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Why is it "right" for every person to play? This entitlement shit has gotten fucking ridiculous.
There isn't some God-given right that if you play on a team that you are given any chance to succeed. It doesn't work that way in sports and it doesn't work that way in life.
The next level is...and you actually do hear this a lot, even for varsity sports...is that all the kids on the team should get to play (even equal times)...because it's not about winning.
Totally agree with that. It is not about winning, Its about learning and growing
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Why is it "right" for every person to play? This entitlement shit has gotten fucking ridiculous.
There isn't some God-given right that if you play on a team that you are given any chance to succeed. It doesn't work that way in sports and it doesn't work that way in life.
No divine rights or entitlement. If you are capable and willing to put in the work you should play just like in any other part of school. If that takes 1 coach or twenty coaches it doesnt matter.
this is the hill you are going to die on?
my high school had 200 kids try out for our hockey team.
20 kids made it.
you think because the other 180 kids were technically capable and willing to put in the work they should play?
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Why is it "right" for every person to play? This entitlement shit has gotten fucking ridiculous.
There isn't some God-given right that if you play on a team that you are given any chance to succeed. It doesn't work that way in sports and it doesn't work that way in life.
The next level is...and you actually do hear this a lot, even for varsity sports...is that all the kids on the team should get to play (even equal times)...because it's not about winning.
Totally agree with that. It is not about winning, Its about learning and growing
And everyone should get the same grade in algebra.
Hey - I know who can be my first victim, um er patient!!
Hey - I know who can be my first victim, um er patient!!
I'm not sure he could qualify.
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Why is it "right" for every person to play? This entitlement shit has gotten fucking ridiculous.
There isn't some God-given right that if you play on a team that you are given any chance to succeed. It doesn't work that way in sports and it doesn't work that way in life.
No divine rights or entitlement. If you are capable and willing to put in the work you should play just like in any other part of school. If that takes 1 coach or twenty coaches it doesnt matter.
this is the hill you are going to die on?
my high school had 200 kids try out for our hockey team.
20 kids made it.
you think because the other 180 kids were technically capable and willing to put in the work they should play?
Yes. It is a public service and we are all equal citizens.
"here you go in for 6 seconds, and then you go in for seconds, and then ..."
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Why is it "right" for every person to play? This entitlement shit has gotten fucking ridiculous.
There isn't some God-given right that if you play on a team that you are given any chance to succeed. It doesn't work that way in sports and it doesn't work that way in life.
No divine rights or entitlement. If you are capable and willing to put in the work you should play just like in any other part of school. If that takes 1 coach or twenty coaches it doesnt matter.
this is the hill you are going to die on?
my high school had 200 kids try out for our hockey team.
20 kids made it.
you think because the other 180 kids were technically capable and willing to put in the work they should play?
Yes. It is a public service and we are all equal citizens.
this has to be trolling
when it comes to athletic ability (and almost any other trait), we are assuredly *not* equal citizens.
I should have gotten my daughter some instruction early on with B-ball, would have helped big time.
Did not make the same mistake with my son and he thrived.
After about 28 school sports seasons, my one observation I wanted to pass along is that most parents are never happy:
1) kid makes team but not playing - not happy
2) Kid makes team, plays, but does not play enough - not happy
3) Kid make team plays, but does not play the position the parents want them to play - not happy
4) Kid makes team, plays, plays the position that the parent thinks they should play, but doesn't get the ball enough - not happy
and so on......
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My son plays soccer.
This post is glorious.
I have failed as a father, yes
She'll probably learn more there anyways. A lot of school coaches have no idea what they are doing. They'll tell the kids to do drills and hustle, but probably won't really give any real individualized instructions on the finer points of technique.
If you sign her up for regular workshops with a real pro or former pro (someone with an AVP Ranking) and you'll look like a hero.
(and please ignore the 'and' from the last sentence in my past)
when it comes to athletic ability (and almost any other trait), we are assuredly *not* equal citizens.
Agreed we are not equal in our abilities but that doesn't mean the services meted out by government should be biased in favor of people with higher ability.
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and it should be patently obvious..
when it comes to athletic ability (and almost any other trait), we are assuredly *not* equal citizens.
Agreed we are not equal in our abilities but that doesn't mean the services meted out by government should be biased in favor of people with higher ability.
What are you talking about. SPorts is not an entitlement program, it's a competitive venture.
The recommendation would be to have your daughter practice and improve. My daughter plays on a travel soccer team (year up) and is a keeper. She won't play keeper at first on this team because she's in sixth grade. The 8th grade keeper will get to play. They don't look at who's good and who's bad as much as their ages. She is going to come off the bench and play the field.
I think it's part of the learning process of life that kids need to know not everything is handed to them.
Her older brother I invested time and money on a hitting coach. After three years he makes any team he tries out for and always starts. If you have a big bat they will always find a spot for you.
You mentioned your daughter never played volleyball before. if she is extremely interested and really wants to do it then spend the time working with her to get her skills up and if she eclipses you are skills get her a Coach that can help her do that. If she can jump real high and block the ball they will find a spot for her, if she can serve real well and dig on the back line they will find a spot for her. At 11 I think it's important just for them to find something they like to do and they can work at. They are kids have a need to have fun at the same time.
You should get a participation ribbon for Delusion Class....
Totally agree with that. It is not about winning, Its about learning and growing
Are you Bernie or Roz Focker?
You should get a participation ribbon for Delusion Class....
Who's paying for the coaches, uniforms, fields,refs etc Santa Claus?
Its obviously not allowed in public schools but my high school essentially cut gym and ensured that through sophomore year 90% of the kids were on a sports team. (Fielded two freshman basketball teams + jv + varsity for instance). Which do you think was better for the fringe athletes - gym or a team?
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are services meted out by Government??
You should get a participation ribbon for Delusion Class....
Who's paying for the coaches, uniforms, fields,refs etc Santa Claus?
Depends on the sport. My son plays lacrosse. It is self-funded. I guess that gives them liberty to be heartless bastards while those funded by the school district have to play all comers, right??
It is such a moronic stance.
It was a nightmare.
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are services meted out by Government??
You should get a participation ribbon for Delusion Class....
Who's paying for the coaches, uniforms, fields,refs etc Santa Claus?
Depends on the sport. My son plays lacrosse. It is self-funded. I guess that gives them liberty to be heartless bastards while those funded by the school district have to play all comers, right??
It is such a moronic stance.
Sorry if you cant wrap your head around the paradox I am pointing out.
If we have 100 physics students who are capable of passing we don't say well we will only take the top twenty students and the rest of you can go pound sand come back next year. We must have competition! Only the best can participate in Physics. How would we ever hire 4 extra teachers for these 80 students anyway? Yet we accept this situation in athletics.
If these sports teams are so important that the schools should provide them then anyone that is capable should be accommodated in some way to participate.
They both need to get it through their heads that your daughter's exclusion has absolutely nothing to do with the disabled girl's inclusion. Nothing. Zero. Nada. If it were possible to decouple the issues, maybe you could tactfully raise the question of why anyone has to be cut. Under the circumstances, though, it's going to be difficult to keep the subjects separate. Hence, best to let your daughter back away with dignity, work on her game and try again next fall.
Yes happens all the time but ask yourself how the colleges pick who gets in those limited spaces? Do they let the students with the highest GPA in or they base it on seniority or need?
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If we have 100 physics students who are capable of passing we don't say well we will only take the top twenty students and the rest of you can go pound sand come back next year.
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In sports, Trying hard and attending practices is "passing"? Nope.
Just because you study physics doesn't mean you automatically get to be in the physics classes of your choice, nor, even if you get a degree is physics are you guaranteed a job in the field of physics.
And your example falls flat on it's face in many levels. There are literally tens of thousands of students who have the credentials to get into a school of their choice, yet they aren't guaranteed acceptance, even to state-schools or to government-run academies.
This idea of equal participation for all didn't even happen in Communist or Socialist countries - why would it be in place here?
There's nothing to wrap a head around - it is simply moronic thinking.
What about the other girls that got cut? Why is your daughter more deserving than them? Not saying she is or isnt better than them but just pointing out the sense of entitlement your wife is showing.
As far as the handicapped girl goes I agree with others her spot on the team has no bearing whatsoever on your daughter making the team or not. If say 10 kids make the team Id bet she number 11(just an example not sure the rules for volleyball). There are rules and exemptions for handicapped student athletes so this child can participate without having to cut another deserving child.
Even if there isnt any exemption I would explain to your daughter the experience for this child is worth exponentially more to the girl who has the deck stacked against her in life than someone who just wants to play and to be frank not good enough to make it. Theres a valuable lesson here for your daughter to learn
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Classes, including physics classes, get over-subscribed all the time. When you get to be college-age, and if you go, youll see that theres just some classes you cant take when you want them because theres no space.
Yes happens all the time but ask yourself how the colleges pick who gets in those limited spaces? Do they let the students with the highest GPA in or they base it on seniority or need?
Whatever they use, its a metric. Its not everyone gets in because they just want to...which was your original contention.
I gotta ask, when your high school drama club does Shakespeare, how many Juliets are there on stage in a performance?
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Classes, including physics classes, get over-subscribed all the time. When you get to be college-age, and if you go, youll see that theres just some classes you cant take when you want them because theres no space.
Yes happens all the time but ask yourself how the colleges pick who gets in those limited spaces? Do they let the students with the highest GPA in or they base it on seniority or need?
Whatever they use, its a metric. Its not everyone gets in because they just want to...which was your original contention.
I gotta ask, when your high school drama club does Shakespeare, how many Juliets are there on stage in a performance?
I'm not saying everyone gets to play Juliet or Quarterback but I don't think they cut kids from the drama club either like the football team.
If we have 100 physics students who are capable of passing we don't say well we will only take the top twenty students and the rest of you can go pound sand come back next year.
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In sports, Trying hard and attending practices is "passing"? Nope.
Just because you study physics doesn't mean you automatically get to be in the physics classes of your choice, nor, even if you get a degree is physics are you guaranteed a job in the field of physics.
And your example falls flat on it's face in many levels. There are literally tens of thousands of students who have the credentials to get into a school of their choice, yet they aren't guaranteed acceptance, even to state-schools or to government-run academies.
This idea of equal participation for all didn't even happen in Communist or Socialist countries - why would it be in place here?
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We are not talking about the competitive job market or universities here. The OP's daughter was in public middle school. No reason the school shouldn't let everyone that is competent and will do the work play. Have an A and B team or junior varsity etc if it must be competitive.
My daughter settled in on Field Hockey...flipped to goalie in rec leagues because she hated to run and made HS varsity her Sophmore year and starts as a Junior. She found her spot and practices hard.
Hey - I know who can be my first victim, um er patient!!
This post alone makes this thread kinda awesome.
The notion of giving FMiC a license to crack skulls and snip out gray matter... LOL
But come to think of it - considering some posters here - maybe that wouldn't be so bad?