Neighbor buddy of mine went in for a routine prostate procedure a couple days ago and I found out he passed away last night. I'm in complete shock. He was in his early 50s, in great shape, swam every day, ate well, etc. Somehow he got sepsis and he passed last night.
He leaves behind a wife and 9 yr old son with whom he played outside with every night football, soccer, bike riding - truly a great dad.
I just saw him a few days ago and he mentioned he was a little uneasy about a procedure he was having due to covid concerns.
Any suggestions on what to do for his wife/son? Our little town house row has great neighbors and everyone's trying to figure a way to pitch in and help without overburdening the family right now.
Take care of yourselves and always tell others how much you love them
I think just raise the money and gift it to her. I think you can keep it simple. Something that's out of the blue like this, you never know the situation, but the loss of a spouse many times means a serious financial change, on top of the expenses to bury the loved one, so anything that you guys raise I'm sure would help.
Was he back home, or still in the hospital?
Of course meals is always a big help.
Maybe give them a little space before overwhelming them with attention or do whatever you plan to do kind of quietly.
you know them obviously better than me, but I think if this were friends of mine, they might want some space first to process things especially since it was sudden.
but they will probably need help, so good to see a community come together.
Lawyers are probably in a mad foot race to his widows house as we speak
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I feel awful for his family and everyone they know. Something this drastic should never come from a minor procedure.
Lawyers are probably in a mad foot race to his widows house as we speak
Great reaction - lawyers. But unfortunately a reality.
Unfortunately this is not that uncommon with sepsis. Hospitals are petri dishes for staph infections.
Condolences on your loss. Terrible thing to happen,
I dont know that there is a right or wrong way to offer support during a tragedy like this. No one really knows what to do, least of all his family. Everyone is different. While I appreciated calls/visits by close friends my dad/brother were polar opposites and didnt want to see or speak to anyone. Id say just offer your support however you deem appropriate and dont worry about it being awkward. Its the gesture that counts.
My dad was my world and I never had another relationship like that again.
I'd suggest that, after some time has passed, you try to take on his son as if he were your own. (with his mom's permission, of course).
I know it's a lot to ask, but you did ask.
Sorry for your loss
Through a "go fund me" maybe?
Sorry about your loss - early 50's is young.
My dad was my world and I never had another relationship like that again.
I'd suggest that, after some time has passed, you try to take on his son as if he were your own. (with his mom's permission, of course).
I know it's a lot to ask, but you did ask.
This is an awesome suggestion and personal revelation from Hammer.
Obviously as he noted a tough ask, but if you can accomplish a piece of that it would be awesome enough. The mom might not appreciate your over involvement with her son too, but a partial commitment to "trreat him as your own" might indeed be very welcomed.
Something to consider.