I joined BBI (Pete's Corner) during its first year or so of existence. Early on, I'd comment and discuss moreso than I do today MAINLY because it was more discussion and connection than what I see today.
What is it about Social Media that makes people so slanderous? So ugly?? So childlike???
I use various platforms on social media for "advertisement" and sharing so I am online quite a bit. The dribble I see in so many areas (aka bullying) by keyboard GIANTS saddens me. Simply put, what the heck happened to Critical Thinking and Discussion? Is the disconnect of social media the culprit?
The bad apples tilt the scales at times but it’s nothing close to what I think of for social media.
social media is defined as websites or applications that allow people to create and/or share content.
BBI = Social Media, whether you "agree" it is or not.
13 Things That Could Happen When You Quit Social Media - ( New Window )
Great link, thank you
Agree but I would also include adults in their 30s too
members do treat each other horribly. i'm not sure why. much worse than any other forum i visit (cycling, golf forums, etc.).
regarding SM, i've dropped out of FaceBook. my high school friends have said terrible things to each other making terrible accusations. things they would never say in person. and these are people that are lifelong friends with each other. it seems people conflate their identity with a cause, then start to "root for the jersey" and lose all reason.
let's just say I don't expect my High School class to ever have another reunion.
And a lot of it is being controlled by the platforms. I’m not getting into any specifics on politics but I’ll just say I am an independent and have voted for both parties in the past. During this past election cycle I think I viewed a conservative post or two that someone I went to high school with had commented on. Next thing you know my Facebook feed is flooded with conservative feeds from people like Dan Bongino, Donald Trump Jr., etc. Facebook sees a few views of a certain political viewpoint and it’s like they open the flood gates. I’m sure the experience would have been the same if I had happened to view a few liberal posts. This is one of the reasons you see such polarization in thinking now. Not just in regard to politics, but other subjects as well.
members do treat each other horribly. i'm not sure why. much worse than any other forum i visit (cycling, golf forums, etc.).
regarding SM, i've dropped out of FaceBook. my high school friends have said terrible things to each other making terrible accusations. things they would never say in person. and these are people that are lifelong friends with each other. it seems people conflate their identity with a cause, then start to "root for the jersey" and lose all reason.
let's just say I don't expect my High School class to ever have another reunion.
The bolded alludes to what I was talking about in regards to style of posting.
Again, I'm not accusing anybody, young or old as spewing bullsh-t.
I'm talking mainly about the style of communication. It feels much more... I don't know. It feels like the constructs of the conversation have changed, no matter the subject. There feels like an air of "gotcha" to every conversation. Taking things out of context, removing nuance, etc...
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It became full of people who are 45+ just spewing bullshit. This isn’t an age issue, the crazy spreads across every generation.
Again, I'm not accusing anybody, young or old as spewing bullsh-t.
I'm talking mainly about the style of communication. It feels much more... I don't know. It feels like the constructs of the conversation have changed, no matter the subject. There feels like an air of "gotcha" to every conversation. Taking things out of context, removing nuance, etc...
Agreed, it’s been headed down that path for a while now. This is the “gotcha” society where people have too much time on their hands and are looking for conflict and to find wrongs in everything. Especially since the pandemic started and everyone has been sheltered in their homes with social media their main outlet of communication in many cases.
People believe what they want, proven or not, due to confirmation bias and any other opinion is "miss information" or "conspiracy theories" or "incitement" and should be shut down or censored.
that's not how free people live. it's how communists live.
"I may not agree with what you say, but I sure as hell support your right to say it" - none of this stuff is fire in a movie theater, it's in many cases healthy dialog, but still gets shut down by arbitrary arbiters of "fact"
and as mentioned there is also the freedom of people to act or say whatever they want behind the anonymity of a keyboard with no consequences.
the two of those things merged and helped create the cesspool we see today.
Agree, its not about educated vs non-educated. In fact when I read someone say another has an un-educated opinion I Take it as that person saying the other is an idiot. Everyone has opinions, always has and always will. Social media has made it so that no matter what your opinion is, no matter how out there, you can find some people on the internet with like opinions. People spend all their time in this "echo chambers", agreeing with each other, and never having a discussion with a differing opinion and looking into why. It becomes "you're an idiot because you believe something different". All critical discussion, and looking at another point of view, are gone
I think you have nostalgic sense of BBI 20 years ago. Pre-login days this place was wild with dupes, nastiness, real world confrontations, genuine lunatics, not to mention a few real world sloppy romances that went sour in full display.
My impression, before I left FaceBook, is that the crazy is strongest with my generation (60 year olds). In all directions. It was like being in a shrapnel storm of crazy.
America is truly a melting pot. We will always have differences. Our cultural origins don't have to be eliminated. The more we are forced to unite and be equal, I fear the further apart we will be pushed. With that said, fairness is a more realistic goal.
So, in fairness, let us unite in our love for the Giants, and our dislike for the Eagles and hope they suck for decades.
I’m only on Facebook which has allowed me to find and converse with those from my past as well as those I met and friended during competitive stair climb events throughout the country..Also have a bunch of offline friends that I met on here 20 years ago..
Put down the fucking phones you Millennials and go out for a bike ride.
So, in fairness, let us unite in our love for the Giants, and our dislike for the Eagles and hope they suck for decades.
This.
Just real quick on the social media and our addictions to phones - during the summer after the pandemic, my family got together for a weekend. I came down to join them in the common area and my 41 year old sister and law and her husband and 35 year old brother in law were all sitting buried in their phones. I stated their ages because I am not sure this is just an age thing. My mother in law is going to be 70 and she has instagram, I see her on it constantly and criticizing every photo. I offered, if this stresses you out so much, why not put it down?
I also think the lack of face to face discussions and just reading texts are also a contributor. Even with e-mails or interoffice collaboration software like Jabber or Slack, things can be lost without facial expressions or body language. I also agree there is something to a lot of your suggestions above that there is a lack of consequence with anonymity.
Great post SGMen and great comments by all.
I just don't remember those days that way. There were good football posts. Some really excellent. But there was also lots of viscious and ignorant posting. Personal insults, off-topic trash, ignorant vituperative rants. I'm pretty sure that's what drove Eric to require registration and assigned user names to begin with - otherwise it was completely impossible to control the trolling.
I won't argue about the dismal quality of alot of online communications. I just don't think it 's much worse than it was unless you want to go back to the days when we used gopher and newsgroups and bulletin boards and had to install a seperate TCP/IP stack to get online.
And even then people were not any different. It was only a bit more civil because very few people were online and those who were tended to be as interested in the technology as they were in whatever topic was being discussed.
I just don't remember those days that way. There were good football posts. Some really excellent. But there was also lots of viscious and ignorant posting. Personal insults, off-topic trash, ignorant vituperative rants. I'm pretty sure that's what drove Eric to require registration and assigned user names to begin with - otherwise it was completely impossible to control the trolling.
I won't argue about the dismal quality of alot of online communications. I just don't think it 's much worse than it was unless you want to go back to the days when we used gopher and newsgroups and bulletin boards and had to install a seperate TCP/IP stack to get online.
And even then people were not any different. It was only a bit more civil because very few people were online and those who were tended to be as interested in the technology as they were in whatever topic was being discussed.
It's a great avenue for reading interesting info from smart, professional sources.
What I don't get is closely following family or friends. Who gives a shit about their politics, the endless pictures of their kids, where they went on vacation, or that they ran a 5K? That stuff is garbage. But it's a great tool for accessing smart people.
and to be honest? I love life without it.
why am I not surprised?
I believe all the observations on this thread so far are accurate, how social media allows you to be someone who you are not, with virtually no consequences for even the most outrageous statements.
My kids, early to mid 20's, are social media crazy, as are most of their friends. It has completely absorbed their lives for the last 10+ years (likely my biggest failure as a parent). What are the results?
Less of an ability to communicate face to face.
Rock solid belief that Twitter has all the real news.
Dependence on others (strangers) to look for approval.
Lack of interest in any hobby, skill, or activities.
Vocabulary limitations or oddities, including spelling like you are typing a text. (The boss will love 'ur' or 'lemme' in a report.)
Having a history of bad photos out there which may spoil a job possibility.
Constant checking of phone, attention spans are low in young people.
Easy manipulation by big tech companies to engineer your media feed, or bend the truth to fit your narrative.
Anxiety levels (Covid excluded) very high.
I do think our country is rapidly changing in almost every facet. And I feel the younger generation is going to think, act, relate differently than previous generations, a lot due to social media. Okay, maybe that is not a bad thing? (I am not a fan of always finger pointing certain generations.) I would love to see some of the 'new thinking' look at issues differently and solve some of this.
My confidence is not high. But we all can try to be more civil and positive to each other one post at a time, so when the baton is passed to the next, we know we did our best.
A good summary, alas.
Just make sure you steer clear of 27 year old movie quotes. It makes me feel unsafe
lol did another movie get banned recently? What are you referencing?
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Just make sure you steer clear of 27 year old movie quotes. It makes me feel unsafe
lol did another movie get banned recently? What are you referencing?
Think Again
Plenty of books out there to either avoid turning into that person or explain what it's doing to people's brains. The research is starting to come out. Also, people truly believe that feelings and emotions are most important in their belief systems and they're not willing to reevaluate/update their beliefs.
It's not liberal, conservative etc. Social media just shorts our brains. Lots of reasons why. Everyone has turned into snowflakes....everyone thinks they're persecuted. Everyone seeks echo chambers. You should check out the research on that. When people ruminate on social media, they think it helps them. It doesn't. The evidence is pretty conclusive at this point. An interesting thing in Chatter talks about how time is immensely helpful in processing (obviously) and how social media completely removes time/distance. "Safetyism" is another reason - again, it's blind to political/religious affiliation.
I'm a therapist...many of my clients, regardless of religion, political affiliation or age, feel aggrieved by other people's opinions.
My recommendation? Turn off the news and get off social media. I'm still not even sure why I'm a member here. I realize after I post that it doesn't really add value to my life any more than just reading what some of the informed posters have to say. Certainly not like it did 20 years ago. Unfortunately, everyone, including myself, thinks they have a valid opinion lol.
People should read those books. If people want to know more things they can read for psychoeducation, you're all welcome to email me. My website is on my profile. I love this topic. I've been into it for years.
OK, now I'll shut up.
Yeah, that's exactly what they're going for. Willfully ignorant of context just for whatever reason they can find to control (and change) speech. My collection of bannings on Facebook are all something bland, similar to something that you'd find on a sitcom. One of my FB bannings, I got a timeout because in some football trash group because.... I mentioned meth.
Whatevs. Their call I guess, just hope one day our laws do not mirror Facebook's community standards or else I'm in deep doo-doo. In real life, I'm pretty cool and have a lot of charisma and when I get going, I'm a pretty funny guy.
do not have to look another in the eye and state their case .... that is when the "troll" was invented.
It went from "breakin balls" light heartedly to VENOM very quickly. Sad.
Just know that (at anytime) it could become impossible to have an intelligent conversation on any topic.