My wife and i have been separated for a month and i want her back.i wanna work things out.when i ask her what she wants she says she just wants to work on the kids and co parenting right now.any advice on how i can get her back?? Thanks
but if you really know the reason she wants to leave then you need to determine how important that thing is to you...and if you are willing to fix or help fix it.
It's been a while since "blast her in the butt" has been used around
but once someone is done with a marriage, there is no getting them back. You should think about whether that is the case here because the hardest part is the initial split which she has already done.
There’s no way you just registered to ask the BBI shrinks how to save your marriage. Although I’m sure we are world renowned for our marital advice.This is an obvious troll job.
But as was already mentioned, you probably should have been blasting her in the butt. Turns out, she loves it!
for all involved, but it sounds like your wife is ready to move on. Maybe that changes at some point, but I wouldn’t continue asking her to reconcile. Work on a fair custody situation for your kids, one that takes their interests to heart over any inconveniences that may present to you and/or your wife.
and don't seek answers about your marriage on a Giants message board.
Disagree. He (or she) would definitely get better instruction on what to do compared to those overpaid losers.
I totally love interacting with you - no joke. But I can tell there are many things we won't agree on.
I believe in experts with training and education. Of course, not every psychologist is a good fit for every person, and one needs to keep an open mind and sometimes shop around for someone they trust. Dismissing a field as overpaid losers strikes me as an impulsive approach. But as I said, I always enjoy my interactions with you. I appreciate your humor and irreverent take on things.
Me to focus on the kids and work on co-parenting after being separated for 6 months, I knew that was code word for it’s over. I tried everything I could to get her back, but it just didn’t work. I’m going to keep it all the way real, time to start focusing you yourself and your kids. Shit is going to hurt like hell for a min, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. A lot of people on here helped me so much, especially with their words of encouragement and I greatly appreciated it. If you are religious, zone in on your faith and pray, it really helps. I know this isn’t what you want to read, but it’s the only truth I have. Also found out mine was already seeing someone else too. Hopefully that’s not the case with you but most of the time it is. Fast forward almost a year and I’ve moved on, been hitting the gym heavy and building myself up and now my ex-wife wants me back, too little too late as I have found someone else who is just flat out amazing. Things will get better, believe that. We here if you need to reach out!
Just been through this.
My divorce lawyer ( who’s also my niece)
First things she said “nice guys get fucked)
And I did
Don’t leave the house .
She needs space let her be the one to go.
Feel free to email me. Misery loves company.
If she has bailed --or is "testing the waters"--recognize that is your new reality. Hoping is not a workable plan.
I won't deny that it will be painful. But the sooner you realize that she is not your partner and may well be an adversary the more quickly you can rebuild your life.
Great advice above about not leaving your house. Guard your ass(ets). Be civil, no more, no less.
Good luck. You're in for a tough go, but you will get through it. Just respect/take care of yourself.
There’s no way you just registered to ask the BBI shrinks how to save your marriage. Although I’m sure we are world renowned for our marital advice.This is an obvious troll job.
But as was already mentioned, you probably should have been blasting her in the butt. Turns out, she loves it!
+1
Very telling - not a post since the original. Maybe he was drunk when he created this but, in that case the next day when you wake up sober you delete your past mistake.
Dude - you don't come to BBI with shit - you call a marriage counselor.
the "reconnection" almost never works. If she wants a separation, she wants a divorce. And painful as it may be you should accept it like an adult. You're either in love or you're not. If she wants to move on, put on your big boy pants and act accordingly. It will hurt for a while, but there are other fish in the sea, and life's too short to spend it married to someone who isn't in love with you.
a troll job, you need to know if she's involved with someone. If she is, you have no chance until and if that eventually goes bad. If she isn't, maybe you can work things out. As far as marriage counselors, you're probably better asking BBI. Good luck, if you're for real
of trying to soften the blow while you figure out it's over. If by some chance it's not, you gotta leave her be, live your life, and see if anything changes. In my experience, when a woman punches out she's already met someone else.
....tough question but you should ask yourself that.
I only say that because I have several friends who felt the same way but were better off separating, and some after the initial sting realized they were better off.
As several above witness, she's likely made her move to someone else.
A valid indicator is if she recently got into shape and rebuilt her wardrobe at an accelerated rate.
Usually the UPS guy knows before you do.
yes .. good points.
and if you manage to get her into the sack for one last go round, if she has any exotic new moves, that's a clear sign she might be playing pokey behind the barn with a new fella.
If your wife is halfway out the door there's not likely anything you can do to get her to change her mind. And even if she did, it would likely be temporary.
I've been there. It sucked. But, I waded through it all and my kids are good and my life now is great.
If you can’t be happy without her, you’ll never be happy with her. Find hobbies, exercise, work on being a great father and, most importantly, have fun!
Be a great person and enjoy life. If she wants to come along for the ride, great. If she doesn’t, wait for someone who does. Life is to short to waste on the wrong person.
We are kinder and gentler on the weekend...other than the gameday thread LOL
I can't believe it took until the 4th post for this reference to make an appearance.
But as was already mentioned, you probably should have been blasting her in the butt. Turns out, she loves it!
Good luck.
This is the only correct answer. Better get to it soon too b/c someone else surely will. Separated mom? Oh yeah, that’s some blast material no doubt!
Disagree. He (or she) would definitely get better instruction on what to do compared to those overpaid losers.
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and don't seek answers about your marriage on a Giants message board.
Disagree. He (or she) would definitely get better instruction on what to do compared to those overpaid losers.
I totally love interacting with you - no joke. But I can tell there are many things we won't agree on.
I believe in experts with training and education. Of course, not every psychologist is a good fit for every person, and one needs to keep an open mind and sometimes shop around for someone they trust. Dismissing a field as overpaid losers strikes me as an impulsive approach. But as I said, I always enjoy my interactions with you. I appreciate your humor and irreverent take on things.
Be better than The Gap
Oh I like to rip on everyone. Kind of my own way of what Olivia said in the Sopranos.
He's seeing a psychiatrist?
That can be very divisive.
Well yeah more than half this place thinks Jones has starting NFL QB caliber.
We know you don't know anything but I'm only here to help the less intelligent. Anything you need, feel free to ask and listen.
My divorce lawyer ( who’s also my niece)
First things she said “nice guys get fucked)
And I did
Don’t leave the house .
She needs space let her be the one to go.
Feel free to email me. Misery loves company.
Best of luck with your marriage.
If she has bailed --or is "testing the waters"--recognize that is your new reality. Hoping is not a workable plan.
I won't deny that it will be painful. But the sooner you realize that she is not your partner and may well be an adversary the more quickly you can rebuild your life.
Great advice above about not leaving your house. Guard your ass(ets). Be civil, no more, no less.
Good luck. You're in for a tough go, but you will get through it. Just respect/take care of yourself.
But as was already mentioned, you probably should have been blasting her in the butt. Turns out, she loves it!
+1
Very telling - not a post since the original. Maybe he was drunk when he created this but, in that case the next day when you wake up sober you delete your past mistake.
Dude - you don't come to BBI with shit - you call a marriage counselor.
BBI has truly turned gray. Most people are probably 40+
Was just thinking same thing hahahahahaha
I only say that because I have several friends who felt the same way but were better off separating, and some after the initial sting realized they were better off.
A valid indicator is if she recently got into shape and rebuilt her wardrobe at an accelerated rate.
Usually the UPS guy knows before you do.
A valid indicator is if she recently got into shape and rebuilt her wardrobe at an accelerated rate.
Usually the UPS guy knows before you do.
yes .. good points.
and if you manage to get her into the sack for one last go round, if she has any exotic new moves, that's a clear sign she might be playing pokey behind the barn with a new fella.
If your wife is halfway out the door there's not likely anything you can do to get her to change her mind. And even if she did, it would likely be temporary.
I've been there. It sucked. But, I waded through it all and my kids are good and my life now is great.
Be a great person and enjoy life. If she wants to come along for the ride, great. If she doesn’t, wait for someone who does. Life is to short to waste on the wrong person.
Just looking for a little head for now though.